fisting

[Yang4yin]

I like it! So far I've only done it vaginally, but who knows what the future may bring?

Fisting 101

 

[velvet_crush]

mmm - i don't know. seems - scary.

in the past, the idea of being stretched - of being able to see how much i could take was fascinating but having it be his hand? his whole hand?

i'll have to read up & see if i can relate to the interest.

 

[curiouskinkwife]

Some of the most intense and hardest orgasms I have ever had were while being fisted. It's so incredibly personal to allow someone to thrust a fist inside of you. It's one of my favorite things to have done.

 

[shanesinforit]

mmm - i don't know. seems - scary.

in the past, the idea of being stretched - of being able to see how much i could take was fascinating but having it be his hand? his whole hand?

i'll have to read up & see if i can relate to the interest.

My lady thought she was having great orgasms during our sex after 13yrs together................

 

[minx1]

mmm - i don't know. seems - scary.

in the past, the idea of being stretched - of being able to see how much i could take was fascinating but having it be his hand? his whole hand?

i'll have to read up & see if i can relate to the interest.

Yeah, up until a few weeks ago it seemed scary to me too. I mean a hand seems so big lol

But it is one of the most amazing feelings i have ever experienced and something so intense about him reaching into me; feeling me around his fist.

There is no going back for me now. I just want it all the time lol

 

[velvet_crush]

Yeah, up until a few weeks ago it seemed scary to me too. I mean a hand seems so big lol

But it is one of the most amazing feelings i have ever experienced and something so intense about him reaching into me; feeling me around his fist.

There is no going back for me now. I just want it all the time lol

I read Homburg's post & it seems that would be the norm - try try try & not have it happen.

Without being too personal, minx1 - can you tell me if it took a while? did any part of it hurt?

thanks.

 

[minx1]

I read Homburg's post & it seems that would be the norm - try try try & not have it happen.

Without being too personal, minx1 - can you tell me if it took a while? did any part of it hurt?

thanks.

no worries velvet.

It took a while but more through design than by accident as my Master didn't want to hurt me. When we first tried it wasn't his intention to go all the way, just to ease me gently into it. He is very aware of not breaking me *soft smile*

But I enjoyed the slow 'warm up' so much that we just kept going.

It didn't hurt at all and actually never has done. It was a little uncomfortable at first though when he actually pushed his fist fully into me. I suppose just getting past the widest part of his hand. But honestly only very slightly and the feeling that ensues once his hand is fully in, is just amazing.

 

[twysted73]

If there's one reoccuring theme I've noticed....

...it's that many women fear being either perceived as or (as a direct result of) being physically "loose" down below after fisting.

They bare their teeth, lean back, suck in a little air and say "Ouch..I don't know."

I think if she's relaxed, arroused, interested in trying it and it's not the focal point of the intimacy, it could work with lube, clitoral stimulation as well as external stimuli such as nails lightly dragged down inner thighs, stomach, etc.

As with anything, so long as it's not something you do 24/7 the body will recover 85 to 90% of it's origional shape. Women who've given birth have the added advantage of widened bone structure to help.

Almost like men and "small" references, women react similarly to "loose" assumptions.

Well *chuckles a little to himself for thinking this* I have to ask...what exactly are you saving it for?

Wrap it up in celophane, drop it into tupperware and lock it away in an airtight box, it's still going to age, go grey and wrinkle. (box within a box...i'm killing myself)
Might as well use it while you can.

Personally (and...this is just my own personal opinion here) vaginas are very much like penises.
Either theyre ugly or they're not. Either way when the lights are out they're still fun together.

I urge those reading this and who are unsure to stop a moment and consider the reasons you'd NOT do it.
Asthetics? Afraid it'll make your pussy ugly? Time will do that in just 40 years.
Afraid you'll tear? I've already covered that too. Take precautions. Lubricate heavily, relax through breathing and arrousal. Ensure your partner isn't that same insensitive jerk who ruined your interest for anal sex.
Go slow, take your time, and know it's not a race to the finish. If you only get 3 to 4 fingers in at once, it's still progress. And...(as long as the fisting wasn't ALL your partner was doing) it was still fun and rather hot to share.
And let's not forget, practice makes perfect. Is it really such a chore to do it again?
*wink*
So trim those nails/nail beds, grab that KY, turn off the phones and lock the doors.
"It's Business....it's Business Time."
(laughs at self)

 

[Homburg]

Almost like men and "small" references, women react similarly to "loose" assumptions.

Well *chuckles a little to himself for thinking this* I have to ask...what exactly are you saving it for?

I was with a girl once that was tight when we first started, and after a while I'd stretched her out just from penile penetration. She started complaining about it a little, and became lightly reluctant to have sex. She worried about being loose and that it wouldn't feel as good, and maybe if I gave her time between to tighten back up again, it would feel better. My response was a level look and to ask her "What feels better, a pussy stretched to fit me, or no pussy? Hmmm....."

Like Twysted says, use it! You aren't young forever!

 

[madetotakeit]

I'm not going to say there is the fear of permanent changes being made to the internal structure. The body is resilient. I'm not so sure for me I would put it so far as saying I have fears about it. Nervousness, yes...fear, no. The nervousness comes from the thought that it may hurt and once in, it has to come back out.

The last time I tried I was nearly successful. As much as I wanted it, I just felt it wasn't happening at that time. I had gone further than I had before and that was as much as I could handle. But at the same time I really wanted to feel what it was like to be able to take it completely. It is so different than anything else I had felt...fingers moves in so many different ways than a cock or a toy (although I did get a new one that...I digress.) At any rate, it was a lot to process. It felt like what I expected and more...I'm not quite sure I can even imagine how being able to go to the wrist will feel. One thing I can say is at no time did the thought that I might be stretched beyond returning ever enter my mind. I was too busy enjoying the hell out of what was happening.

As far as women being concerned about being tight...I suppose there is something to it being the equivalent to cock size on a man. But think of this...if men didn't extol the virtues of how tightly a woman can clench onto him when he is in her, it might not be a concern. Also, I'm not sure if the term "loose woman" originated with comparing the woman's virtuousness with her tightness of pussy or just her morals. I always thought it was probably a bit of both.

 

[Rox_shybutcurious]

I've had an experience with this and enjoyed it thoroughly. But it was with someone that was interested in trying it as well and we discussed it well before hand. With some concerns on my part and lots of reassurances from him.

This isn't something I would bring up on my own without getting an indication before hand that my partner was interested. I've heard too many comments about even the idea of fisting..... or that after playing with certain toys, when it was then "their turn", I was too stretched to have the friction they needed to get off. Believe me that's not something that's pleasant for a woman to hear so I can understand why it would be a concern for some.

 

[nh23]

nevermind..lol

 

[HottieMama]

You have ALL been wonderfully helpful.

Thanks a bunch!!!!!!

 

[planetqueen]

Oh no, I am pretty sure fisting is fairly kinky for most people!

Spent most of my sexual life with other women - I think it is more common than with the hetero world - maybe something to do with smaller hands.

 

[shanesinforit]

more fisting

Can I add something very kinky that I managed to do not long ago.......

 

[HottieMama]

The cunt is a god damn wonderful thing

Amen!

 

[Dyke_Writer]

I really have to stop reading this thread, especially as my partner is so far away at the mo!

If you haven't tried it, swallow your fears, relax and go with it, might not get everything in there first time but dont give up...... You will NOT regret it!!!!



Oh, and its considered kinky?? Wow, Im so much kinkier than I thought then! lol

 

[shanesinforit]

Maybe fisting isn't considered that kinky................

 

[Etoile]

Maybe fisting isn't considered that kinky................but squeezing your cock in to a lovely cunt at the same time your hand is in there IS..........I believe, but then again I have been wrong before.................I'm a male!!!

Fisting is pretty kinky for most folks, BDSM'ers just find it less so because our bar is set higher. As for hand and cock at the same time...I find that interesting, but not necessarily more kinky. Capacity isn't kinky, it's what you do with it - monster dildos, wine bottles, that stuff is probably kinky. But hand and cock get used for sex all the time. BTW, has your wife considered applying to be one of Amazing Ty's girls?

 

[shanesinforit]

Fisting is pretty kinky for most folks, BDSM'ers just find it less so because our bar is set higher. As for hand and cock at the same time...I find that interesting, but not necessarily more kinky. Capacity isn't kinky, it's what you do with it - monster dildos, wine bottles, that stuff is probably kinky. But hand and cock get used for sex all the time. BTW, has your wife considered applying to be one of Amazing Ty's girls?

Maybe she should.......

 

[madetotakeit]

Fisting is pretty kinky for most folks, BDSM'ers just find it less so because our bar is set higher.

I'm going to have to agree Etoile. What is kinky to most folks may not even makes us blink. I would say fisting still falls under the kinky category. The kinkiest end of the spectrum? No, I wouldn't go that far.

 

[HottieMama]

Fisting has never seemed all that kinky to me i guess. Probably because my first girlfriend fisted me before i even knew what BDSM was. **dear god...i don't miss her..but i miss the sex we used to have...**

Anyway, i am really glad i bumped this thread. It has served well to renew my confidence.

 

[Homburg]

I would say that it is not terribly kinky as we use the word, but certainly full-on kinky as to how vanilla types use that word. Case in point was last night driving to the club with my buddy AP (a top), and a mostly 'nilla friend. She swore up and down that she was "into all that stuff. I'm a freaky girl, you don't know me". So I decided that I was going to not censor. If she's such a freak, she can take it

Yeah, well, we got to fisting, and I could see her go pale even without the cabin light on. Ms "into all that stuff" was more than a bit freaked out about discussion of fisting technique.

 

[Etoile]

I would say that it is not terribly kinky as we use the word, but certainly full-on kinky as to how vanilla types use that word. Case in point was last night driving to the club with my buddy AP (a top), and a mostly 'nilla friend. She swore up and down that she was "into all that stuff. I'm a freaky girl, you don't know me". So I decided that I was going to not censor. If she's such a freak, she can take it

Yeah, well, we got to fisting, and I could see her go pale even without the cabin light on. Ms "into all that stuff" was more than a bit freaked out about discussion of fisting technique.

*cracks up laughing*

 

[Dyke_Writer]

Then again, I dont consider myself as 'into' the BDSM lifestyle, I have no Dom, I an no sub... usually but love wax/candles, handcuffs, pain (nice pain) an occasional spanking etc.... Anyway, not what this thread is for so will away to find out if I am actually qualified to lurk in this area and if what I think of as regular sex is more BDSM than I thought... not that I care either way, it works for us which is what matters!

But yay for fisting.... totally one of the better things I've done.