First tpost--first spanking

[femsub]

Hi all,
I have been a sub and turned on by s&m for as long as i can remember--but only in my head. I'm married to a wonderful guy that knew about my fantasies but was never into acting them out. FINALLY--last night, i let him know how much power he could have being a dom--and how i was willing to do anything for him and it finally got him turned on enough to give me my first spanking.
Smiles all around!! In fact, it lead to him flogging me w/ a "mild" flogger we had bought several years ago (he had been afraid to use it hard enough then and it remained in our closet all this time). He had me head down on the bed and alternated whipping me and having me suck his cock. He actually hit me hard enough to hurt me the way i've wanted to be hurt for several decades. After he finished whipping me and ordering me to suck him off the way he wanted, he finally "allowed" me the most wonderful orgasm!
Later, I looked in the mirror and admired the red marks against my ass and basked in the lasting sting. I've waited a long time for this--believe me!
My question is: do you have any suggestion for keeping it going? I want to slowly turn my sweet, loving hubby into the sadistic dom that i've been craving. (Although, i suppose it sounds a little dom of me to want to turn him into something! Perhaps i should be punished for the thought!) I think he liked the whipping and i know he liked the control--i need to be grateful for that, but i was hoping for some concrete suggestions to slowly turn up the play.

By the way--i've been lurking for several weeks adn have been completely turned on by this forum! Whipping and spanking websites are wonderful, but knowing that actual, real people think the way i do and actually act on it has turned me on like nothing else!

Thank you all and i'm sorry for the long post.

A happily marked Femsub

 

[leeroy jenkins]

First off congratz in getting something you have desired met. It sounds like you have been married for more then a few years, so then I take it your level of communication is good. You both need to talk about what you did and see how willing he is to repeat the preformance.

I think your either a dom or not one, much as it sounds like your a masochist or not. When I say a masochist I am not talking light play but having some of the more harsh toys used on you. Everyone whether they want to admit to it is a sadomasochis, but just in a very mild form. I would say alot more talking about the whole bdsm, if you couple that with some slow exploration then you could be on your way to get what you have been wanting.

 

[Pure]

congratulations, you're off to a good start. you have a lot to explore.

i sometimes think there are more spouses willing to experiment than are known to their partners. given our indoctrination to 'please the other' (esp. said to the 'new male'), the one who wants to please should in theory be able to try(do) such things are spanking and whipping given assurances their partner is going to get off on it.

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

I once had a very sweet, caring, ..sensual partner. He was so gentle.. and kind in bed, wanted to please...

Then I shared that I was really into spankings, loved being controlled, told what to do... and after discussing this with him, he smiled shyly and gave me a little love tap on the ass. *grins* I smiled to myself, and moaned.. looking to see a reaction from him...

He then smacked my ass a bit harder... and I moaned louder and muttered, "yeah baby.. harder, like that..." .... you get the idea. He was afraid that I wasnt really getting off on it, but as I let him know, he became better at giving me the pleasure of pain that I crave. Soon I would growl lustily at him and he would "put me in my place". Couldn't ask for more...

Turned my soft cuddly bear into a roaring, fierce tiger. *big grin*

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

By the way--i've been lurking for several weeks adn have been completely turned on by this forum! Whipping and spanking websites are wonderful, but knowing that actual, real people think the way i do and actually act on it has turned me on like nothing else!

Thank you all and i'm sorry for the long post.

A happily marked Femsub

The first smack is always the best one..specially if its from a new toy.

 

[Master_of_Pupets]

The first smack is always the best one..specially if its from a new toy.

heh, new toys are always fun

 

[au_man]

Congrats....

Perhaps finding some stories in the BDSM stories will fuel his imagination....

I'm new to the Dom roll myself but it has helped me.

We have suddenly ordered many toys for our fun and I am loving my new roll...

I left my love marks one her last night and controlled her orgasm.. She even mentioned that her "ipples feel like sore muscles" from her first experience with clamps.

 

[femsub]

Thanks for the replies

Thanks for all your replies - Yes, i think we are off to a good start and it seems like he's interested in keeping things going. I know that since we had our little spank/whipfest, i haven't been able to think about much else. We've been married almost 20 years and our sex life had become a little ho-hum----now it's all i want to do! (I can't believe it took that long to act on the fantasies i've always had!) That alone should get him very interested in doing more.

I may have to see if he's up for a trip to an adult shop for some toys--and i like the idea of showing him some of the stories that turned me on.

Thanks again for listening and answering---i not only can't stop thinking about it--i want to keep talking about it too!!