First Time With a Toy

[Cardinal]

My wife and I used a vibrator for the first time last night. I don't know how to use it on her so that I am sure that she likes it. She didn't really say much but she didn't stop any of the action either. At one time she did say that the vibrating was a little intense but other times she didn't say anything.
I really liked using this in our love making and would like to continue to play with toys. How can I use the vibrator so that a woman would like it? I don't want to be too rough. She would never show me what she likes so that won't work
Thanks for your help.

 

[5pintshefound]

My wife and I used a vibrator for the first time last night. I don't know how to use it on her so that I am sure that she likes it. She didn't really say much but she didn't stop any of the action either. At one time she did say that the vibrating was a little intense but other times she didn't say anything.
I really liked using this in our love making and would like to continue to play with toys. How can I use the vibrator so that a woman would like it? I don't want to be too rough. She would never show me what she likes so that won't work
Thanks for your help.

hey sweetie.. ok, every womans different... remember that... for me personally, i like a bullet on my clit.. thats it.. i dont like the vibrating anywhere else.. also try varying the speeds just a few ideas.... ~5PHF

 

[EJFan]

maybe you can start working on getting her into a place where she's comfortable telling you what she enjoys. turn it 'round a bit and let her know what YOU enjoy... give her something to model in other words.

as far as using the vibe... that can vary from one person to another so i don't think you'll find a cookie-cutter solution here. it's really up to just experimenting, looking for her responses and, with any luck, actually getting some guidance from her.

 

[borisk]

I dont know how open she is, but I learned the best by watching, Get her to use it on herself.

Boris

 

[~Blacklace~]

If your sure she wont actually show you how and where she wants it, try having her put her hand on top of yours. She may be nervous at first but eventually her hand will start to move how she likes it, thereby showing you how she likes it. Then again if this is your first toy, maybe she doesnt know how she likes it yet, Im assuming she isnt in the habit of using it on herself when shes alone. Try that, have her use it on herself while you not home, at work or something, this will give her time to get used to it and feel whats right.

 

[Cardinal]

Thank you. Any advice from women who use vibrators? I want to know what you like and if I can use that to make my wife happy. I really want to thrill her, I want her to be thrilled that we explored this area of our sex life.
What can I do to make her crazy with love and passion???????

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you. Any advice from women who use vibrators? I want to know what you like and if I can use that to make my wife happy. I really want to thrill her, I want her to be thrilled that we explored this area of our sex life.
What can I do to make her crazy with love and passion???????

Without knowing what kind of vibe, what you've been doing, what your wife likes, etc., there's essentially no way we even those of use who use them regularly can tell what she will enjoy. You need to ask her to give you some kind of feedback while you're experimenting. Even after using the same toy a lot and knowing my body really well, my husband needs lots of feedback...if I didn't give it, there'd be no way for him to know when he's doing the right things. How does she feel about the vibrator and sex toys in general? Was this something you discussed and she wanted to try, or was she less than enthusiasic about it?

 

[Dyno Dave]

My ex wife liked using a vibe at times. We found that if it was a bit too intense for her - which was often - she found the experience much more pleasureable with one or more layers of a small towel between her and the vibe. We usually kept a small soft washcloth by the bed for this very reason. She was usually only able to cum through oral and/or with the vibe, so one of our tricks was for her to use the vibe on herself while I was inside her. Her orgasms were always much more intense when she had (her words) "something inside me to clamp down on when I come."

The current girlfriend has no problem having an orgasm from almost any type of stimulation. I am SUCH a lucky guy! So we've decided to not use any type of vibe for fear of her losing this wonderful ability through loss of sensitivity.

 

[Eilan]

Any advice from women who use vibrators? I want to know what you like and if I can use that to make my wife happy.

Honestly, it doesn't matter what other women like. What's important is that you're doing things to rock her world. That's not to say that you can't pick up tips from female Litsters, but be aware that we're all different, and what I absolutely love may not do a thing for her.

My hubby and I know each other's bodies and how they'll react to different stimuli very well, but we didn't make these discoveries overnight. Practice makes perfect. Always be aware of how she's reacting to what you're doing.

 

[SweetErika]

My ex wife liked using a vibe at times. We found that if it was a bit too intense for her - which was often - she found the experience much more pleasureable with one or more layers of a small towel between her and the vibe. We usually kept a small soft washcloth by the bed for this very reason. She was usually only able to cum through oral and/or with the vibe, so one of our tricks was for her to use the vibe on herself while I was inside her. Her orgasms were always much more intense when she had (her words) "something inside me to clamp down on when I come."

The current girlfriend has no problem having an orgasm from almost any type of stimulation. I am SUCH a lucky guy! So we've decided to not use any type of vibe for fear of her losing this wonderful ability through loss of sensitivity.

The cloth is a good suggestion. You can also hold it against your finger(s) while touching her if it's too intense, and variable-speed vibes are always great.

I think the "using a vibe causes a loss of sensitivity" is a myth. I'm sure using one for very long periods of time or roughly to the point of causing damage would do it, but not normal use. We've been using powerful ones frequently for years, and if anything, I'm MORE sensitive and orgasmic when we're not using it.