First Time Question About Positions

[SweetSerenety18]

Okay, my cousin apparently tried to lose his virginity the other week. We're best friend "family" and always keep in contact, he tells me everything. So supposably, he had his girlfriend over one night when they were alone and they tried to do it. Now, they were both virgins and tried different sexual positions.

Now, I told him what I did on the first time, he tried it another day and still nothing. They are both of age, so no worries there and neitehr of them have any STD's.

Apparently he has a 8 inch dick and pretty thick and his girlfriend, im guessing is pretty tight. So what im askign is, from your perspective and opinion, what is the best position to lose your virginity at?

Thanks for the answers and I'll get back to you and let you know what happened.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Her on top. If tightness is an issue this will let her be in charge and will make things easier. Also I'd suggest trying a lubricant.

 

[Eilan]

I never really thought about it. When I lost my virginity, my ex, who's way thicker than average, was on top, but I can see where having the woman on top for first-time sex might have its advantages. That way she could control the penetration a little more easily.

The pain and discomfort of first-time sex vary from woman to woman, and nervousness won't help matters, either. Regardless of what position they end up using, your cousin should make sure that his GF has had an orgasm or two before he tries to penetrate her, he should have some lube (preferably not K-Y) on hand, he should go slowly and pay attention to her reactions.

 

[EJFan]

to an extent, everyone's different so there really isn't a "best" position... but the more control she has over the depth and speed, the more comfortable she'll likely be.

more important than the position is plenty of foreplay... he should be sure she's as relaxed, wet and comfortable as possible.

 

[jarhead73]

lots of foreplay...the rest will take care of itself

 

[Honeygirl]

All brilliant suggestions. Often nerves and what have you get us chica's wound up something terrible. A little extra lubricant, getting her really aroused and letting her take control by going on top, can really help. I'm wondering if the issue is the sensation of the hymen being broken, is her main concern? It can be a bit uncomfortable - but (obviously) we get though it in the end! I reckon though, if they keep trying - and don't have any luck - that she should pop off to the Dr just for a check up. Can't be too careful with the front bum area .

 

[fivedollarstory]

I was on top for my first time and I did enjoy having the extra control. The funny thing is, when we were done, the guy said "are you sure you were a virgin?" When i said yes, he said "wow, you were good. and not many girls climb on top their first time."

what can I say?

 

[bcoco]

my gf was more comfortable on top b/c she could control how fast i was going into her and she could control the pace

 

[miss_kate]

Gush

I would just say plenty of lube.

You can do just about anything with the right amount of lube.

 

[chinalady]

You've had some great answers so far. I lost my virginity in the same way Eilan did...missionary style...guy on top, but we also tried me being on top. Just more successful the other way. I guess it depends.
And yes...lube! It helps. Or lots of foreplay...so she's relaxed.
You said that they tried different positions but no success. I'm thinking in the same lines Honeygirl had mentioned in her post. I'm wondering if your cousin's GF is concerned about the pain because I was the same way. Me being nervous didn't help either. It took us several hours before he was able to enter me. Just have him go gently as possible and make sure she's relaxed. Good luck to them!

 

[SweetSerenety18]

Well supposably, they snuck home after school and all, seniro get off early, lucky bastards... I hate work, lol, anyway.

Apparently, his gf was worried that someone would walk in on them or get home early and they'd have to hightail it out. So maybe nerves got to them.

Also, apparently my cousin said he never had a problem getting his dick up until then, apparently he was nervous, could these be factors why it may not have happened?

 

[LadyJeanne]

Apparently, his gf was worried that someone would walk in on them or get home early and they'd have to hightail it out. So maybe nerves got to them.

Also, apparently my cousin said he never had a problem getting his dick up until then, apparently he was nervous, could these be factors why it may not have happened?

LOL! Um, yeah. Without an erection, position, lube, and size/tightness certainly aren't going to make any difference!

Tell 'em to give it another try when they've have some time and can relax into it!

 

[3113]

No erection?

Have to agree...that erection part is pretty darn important. Lube or girl on top, nothin's gonna happen without it.

I agree, by the by. Time, no fear or interruptions, LOTS of foreplay for both of them, lube, girl on top....

And tell them that if it hurts too much for her, go slow. They might not get it the first time around if he's extra-large and she's tight.

 

[thrity]

I don't know what's happening in other countries, but in China, guys are likely supposed to initiate the first time sex. Most of girls are shy or pretend so. I mean it's very hard for girls to be on top, they will make it looks like that they are forced to have sex.

From my experience, it's very hard to penetrate for the first time. I had to put a pillow under the butt of then girlfriend.