First time jitters.

[dig16]

32 yr old bi curious. very eager to have my first male experience, have tried chat rooms, etc to meet men, but while i am craving the thought of getting a cock to come in my mouth/face/hand/ass, i always get too nervous and back out. any advice on how to relax my nerves and make this experience happen? is it just no big deal and a really great time? i think i have just psyched myself out and it may never happen. any thoughts?

 

[rom_mo]

I've backed out twice now and it's not going to happen a third time.
After having years worth of fantasies I have to give it a try.
I'm going to meet a guy Thursday that I've been chatting with online for several weeks. I can't wait to finally try being with a guy.
If it's no good for either one of us so be it. We don't have to do it again.
I think it'll be great though! I'm going to give it the ol college try.

 

[Domeoncemore]

It depends on you and what you really want. Some people never make their fantasies a reality. Some do.

I have some wonderful female friends who have been very supportive and without them I would not have fullfilled my fantasies.

The funniest thing one said was "Fantasies are wonderful, but it's a wholy different thing when you are sitting in the passenger seat of his car leaned over, his cock is in your mouth, your side is hurting because you are leaned over, the steering wheel is hurting the back of your head, and he's about to choke you because he's pushing down on your head because he's about to cum."

You have to decide if it's something you really want to do. No one else can make that decision for you. Sorry, that's just the way it is.

I've been lucky. I blew a guy a long time ago but was drunk at the time and wasn't sure I liked it or not, lol. I know, that's kind of funny. I've played with toys imagining them to be the real deal and talked with enough women for them to tell me the real deal is so much better than any toy could ever be. I hooked up with a guy a couple of years ago for mutual blowjobs and it was nice, but I longed to be with a top who would accept my crossdressing. I nervously met a guy last year to try again and oh my god!

He is wonderful!

We have regular scheduled times when I go over and he treats me great. I can't count the number of times I've sucked his cock or he's fucked me. He's allowed me to explore this side of my sexuality to the fullest and I've taken advantage of all that he's brought to the table to our mutual pleasure.

I hope you find a guy as great as the one I've found and you have a great wonderful loving experience.

Advice: Go for it, lol. No one but you needs to know what you're doing. If you decide that this is something you really want, you'll find a way to make it happen, but you have to decide.

 

[alaskabibear]

dig16,
You should take note of what 'Domeoncemore' has said above about the importance of being with someone you truly care for. If you think about it, you can probably recall having sex with a woman that you were not all that attracted to - sure, there was sex but it just wasn't as great as it is with someone you really like. It is no different with a male partner. IMHO you should try to find a man that you like and then proceed into a sexual relationship.

 

[Bluestreak363]

I think finding the right guy(s) is the trick. You've got to find gay/bi men who're willing to be patient with a bi-curious guy about to make the transition. If they're not understanding and willing to take it slow, it increases your nerves and it won't be fun for you. In this case, it might pay for you to get friendly with them before you get sexual so you and your lover(s) are comfortable.

-R

 

[cramer-FL]

Don't just suck any cock that comes your way, or meet online. You can get STDs from sucking. Be sure the person is safe and then move on to having him cum in your mouth. My suggestion is to find that person and maybe start by watch an x-rated movie with them and start out taking care of yourself. I am willing to bet that if you get excited and there is another hard cock beside you that you will take advantage of the situation.

 

[dig16]

thanks for the great responses. each one put me at ease little by little. probably would be best to get to know someone a bit first before getting naked. really excited to give it a try and expand my sexual boundaries. thanks again.

 

[MaximumBi]

My advice just take the plunge and go for it if you can find a nice enough guy, if need be have a few drinks first but not too much as you want it to be enjoyable.

I backed out many times over the years, just couldn't bring myself to go with another guy despite how much the thought turned me on.
One day on holidays I needed a massage and the only person left in the parlor (proper massage place) was a guy, thinking only of a massage I went with him.
After a good massage he started to wank me off and asked if I wanted more, well all inhibitions were now well and truly gone and he gave me the best BJ I'd had till that time and I couldn't believe how much he made me cum nor how hard. Of course there have been some guys since then and I'm real glad that the only person left to do massages that day was a guy and to this day guys still make me cum like no woman can do.

 

[MzChrista]

Just remember that whoever you are with had a first time too.