First Time for BDSM

[hotcherie]

I am very interested in BDSM but not sure if this is what I really want. I love to have a man to tell me what to do, to control me, to tied me up, depending on him for my pleasures, but not sure if I would be into the pain and humilation. Could someone tell me what a DOM would do to guide a woman to her first time of experiencing it?

 

[Mr Wolf]

I am very interested in BDSM but not sure if this is what I really want. I love to have a man to tell me what to do, to control me, to tied me up, depending on him for my pleasures, but not sure if I would be into the pain and humilation. Could someone tell me what a DOM would do to guide a woman to her first time of experiencing it?

The Dom and the sub set the rules and the limits of what they do, ultimately the sub must give consent and therefore must trust the Dom. Also the sub will give a safeword that the Dom must respect. There you have the corner stones of Dom/sub: Respect, Trust, Consent and Safety.

 

[sxychick21]

Re: Re: First Time for BDSM

The Dom and the sub set the rules and the limits of what they do, ultimately the sub must give consent and therefore must trust the Dom. Also the sub will give a safeword that the Dom must respect. There you have the corner stones of Dom/sub: Respect, Trust, Consent and Safety.

Mr wolf...its still full....please hurry...i need you...

 

[hotcherie]

Re: Re: First Time for BDSM

The Dom and the sub set the rules and the limits of what they do, ultimately the sub must give consent and therefore must trust the Dom. Also the sub will give a safeword that the Dom must respect. There you have the corner stones of Dom/sub: Respect, Trust, Consent and Safety.

thank you for your response. I have a lot of questions and see I can find most of my answers here. Thanks again!!

 

[WriterDom]

I don't know very many female subs who enjoy or tolerate humiliation. That's more of a male sub thing in my opinion. Pain is also overemphasized in bdsm mythology. Don't knock a spanking or flogging till you've tried it.

 

[CourtesanBeryl]

It all depends on YOUR pain threshold.

If you enjoy getting your nipples pinched... ask your partner to pinch them harder... and harder.... See what it does to you.
Ultimately, and if you're still enjoying yourself, you may go for nipple clamps.

See, I never thought I would enjoy nipple clamps until my partner, who had very strong fingers placed them carefully. I was blindfolded and at first I could hardly tell the difference... until the sensation raced from my nipples to my chest bones... and I got orgasms out of it!

So I may have a high pain threshhold as a sub, but I have a very little one when I'm out of "context".

 

[lovetoread]

Humilation and pain that a sub goes through is not as bad as it sounds on tv.

You have your limits and if the dom doesnt respect that,then find one that will.

 

[hotcherie]

Thanks for your replies. I do love to have my nipples pinch and the thought of clamps on them turn me on. I have found a lot of information on here and I am beginning to see that I need to find someone that I can trust and experience this with. Wish me luck

 

[MissTaken]

A good Dom will want to know you as a person, first. Then as trust builds, will help you to experience the various facets of BDSM that interest you (and Him).

If that thought of nipple clamps makes you hot, that definitely needs to be put on your "To do " list. Reading some of the BDSM stories here will also help you to know your own desires as will researching more about the lifestyle.

Knowing your self, your needs, your desires is the first step.

Finding a Dom who will help you to achieve all the you desire is the second step.

Yes....I do wish you luck and hope you find what it is you are looking for.

Be well,
MissT

 

[willfulbrat]

Hotcherie, before my Dom ever played with me we both filled out a BDSM checklist from Bondage.com. That way we both knew a lot about each of our desires and hard no's. Also, you may want to keep a journal for him of your fantasies and thoughts. BDSM is about a lot of things, but it should be fun, or why do it?