First time...cant make it happen
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blueblaze8503
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I'm in the same situation. I want to experiment sexually with another guy.. Both anal and oral but haven't found anyone yet. I've had a few offers as of lately but they are all way older and I'm not really into that.. I've looked on a few dating sites but some people seem sketchy.. I'm begining to think its not gonna happen even though its all I think about right now.
AndyS_uk
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Ummm...might help to know an area, country, have a profile pic?
Maybe chat a little through the pm's?
Good luck.
First time
You may want to try a site called squirt.org. Lots of people on there looking for same thing as us and others looking to help with first timers. It has shady people also but so does every site. You can zero in to your town or nearby area and maybe come close to finding someone. I've talked with a couple men close to me and think I'm gonna meet one of them shortly. Make sure you chat for awhile too and get to know someone and not just run right out because your hot and ready to go. Build up some trust and friendship first. Keep yourself safe as always. Being with the right person can be awesome!!
You may want to try a site called squirt.org. Lots of people on there looking for same thing as us and others looking to help with first timers. It has shady people also but so does every site. You can zero in to your town or nearby area and maybe come close to finding someone. I've talked with a couple men close to me and think I'm gonna meet one of them shortly. Make sure you chat for awhile too and get to know someone and not just run right out because your hot and ready to go. Build up some trust and friendship first. Keep yourself safe as always. Being with the right person can be awesome!!
Well by avoiding the 'older' ( I wonder just what you consider older) you are eliminating a group that would most likely take you as slow or fast as you wanted. Tend to be less agressive and more tolerant of hesitancy! Wonder just how badly you want it. Good luck in any case.
And YES I definitely am i the 'older' group.
ShoreToPlease
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Maybe we can help each other.
wonderingdude
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I'm in this too
Good luck, everyone. Let's keep this one going a bit.
Good luck, everyone. Let's keep this one going a bit.
TristanEugene
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'... where to find, how to hook up,...'
Looks as if this thread may be the ticket?!?!
Looks as if this thread may be the ticket?!?!
Stella_Omega
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Face it, guys, men ARE sketchy! 
Especially online, because you all don't talk so much, especially when you're sexing it up. When I look at the threads here that have men commenting most of the posts are a couple of words; "yeah thats hot" or 'wanking now' and you don't get any sense of who the guys are.
I also suggest you look at fetlife.com which is a sort of facebook for kinksters. You might not be into BDSM but you can meet gay and bi men in your area-- talk a while before you meet face to face.
Especially online, because you all don't talk so much, especially when you're sexing it up. When I look at the threads here that have men commenting most of the posts are a couple of words; "yeah thats hot" or 'wanking now' and you don't get any sense of who the guys are. I also suggest you look at fetlife.com which is a sort of facebook for kinksters. You might not be into BDSM but you can meet gay and bi men in your area-- talk a while before you meet face to face.
Seamen
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Aah! Still remember my first time with a (much) older man. We spent the entire night in his bed, naked. I was amazed on how many times he came (in my ass) during the night, considering his age. There were oils and ice involved .. man I miss him. He passed away last year. Very nice man.
OP: I suggest you first initiate a relationship of some sort before jumping into bed with anyone. It can make a lot of difference (it did for me). Though, I'm a bottom and so very effeminate - depends on you what you want. If you do hook up with someone "shady" - use protection.
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Stella_Omega
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Use protection, please, no matter who you hook up with. Barebacking comes a lot later, after both of you have tested negative for everything, and you've committed to a reasonably exclusive relationship. it sucks, but its the reality.
You want to stay alive long enough to become one of those sexy, experienced older men.
You want to stay alive long enough to become one of those sexy, experienced older men.
twister947
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What do you mean by, "reasonably exclusive?" It sounds like somewhat unique, or sort of pregnant.
Reading some of the descriptions and going on the websites for the bathouses holy shit do those sound like fun places to be.
Fictionpaintball
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I just went through this same thing and finally hooked up with a guy after we had talked online for a while. The big thing is to take it slow, if you're uncomfortable with the situation then you need to slow down.
I got really lucky because the guy I met was very patient...He was willing to take things at my pace and understood what I was going through, we had been talking for a while and the first time we met it was in public, with no expectations of anything happening that day....The next time we met, we met in public before coming back to my house( I was uneasy about going to his place and he understood). We talked about it ahead of time so when we got there we sat down on the couch and he immediately went to work so that there wasn't that awkwardness of sitting there...He finished up and left...That gave me time to process what had happened and decide if I wanted to go to the next step...I did...
The next time we met we talked for a bit and then he went down on me, got me horny to the point that I didn't care...I reciprocated and loved every second of it, now I'm hooked.
I guess the moral of the story is, find someone who is not pushy and is willing to go at your pace and It'll happen, and be a lot more enjoyable...
I got really lucky because the guy I met was very patient...He was willing to take things at my pace and understood what I was going through, we had been talking for a while and the first time we met it was in public, with no expectations of anything happening that day....The next time we met, we met in public before coming back to my house( I was uneasy about going to his place and he understood). We talked about it ahead of time so when we got there we sat down on the couch and he immediately went to work so that there wasn't that awkwardness of sitting there...He finished up and left...That gave me time to process what had happened and decide if I wanted to go to the next step...I did...
The next time we met we talked for a bit and then he went down on me, got me horny to the point that I didn't care...I reciprocated and loved every second of it, now I'm hooked.
I guess the moral of the story is, find someone who is not pushy and is willing to go at your pace and It'll happen, and be a lot more enjoyable...
