First time Bi MMF help needed

[Hud938]

Hi, recent Southern California registrant to Literotica.com and very appreciative of the wealth of information shared by the worldwide membership on these boards (and the stories.....wow, and wow).

So this is my first post. And comes only because I haven't been able to find the information that I'm seeking in other posts. My bad if I've missed it.

My girlfriend and I are about to enjoy our first ever MMF threesome. She's bi-sexual, but has yet to play around with another woman (but on the horizon, we hope), and I'm bi-curious, also having yet to play with another guy. But that's about to change, since the other M in our pending tryst is also bi-sexual. So my (our) questions are twofold, which we hope that other, experienced members on this board will help us out with.

1. What is a good way to get things started? Literally. I mean, after the pre-game drinks, and we're all in the room, what's the best way to carve through the tension and awkwardness and get at it? How do we initiate?

2. What are people's thoughts on good first time MMF acts to try out? Anal is not on the table for me, and neither is intercourse for her (except with me). That might change down the road, but for our first time, we're setting some boundaries (which our 3rd understands).

Any and all feedback is welcome, and thanks in advance!

 

[Cumaddict]

relax, relax, and relax... just goes with whats comfortable with all parties. Simple as that. Do NOT over think it!

 

[photobuff56]

I not experienced in it since I haven't done it but usually if your having a 3 some there's sex involved. if your Gf is not willing to have sex what's the point of her being there? what part of the Bi thing are you willing to do. maybe you should just hook up with the 3 rd party yourself and do what you intended to do.

 

[pcarp]

I not experienced in it since I haven't done it but usually if your having a 3 some there's sex involved. if your Gf is not willing to have sex what's the point of her being there? what part of the Bi thing are you willing to do. maybe you should just hook up with the 3 rd party yourself and do what you intended to do.

Maybe you need to learn to read. He never said his g/f wasn't willing to have sex, he said she wasn't interested in having intercourse with the other party. There is a big difference in the two. Maybe rather than telling him that his idea is wrong and he needs to do it your way, you could just answer his question.

My ex g/f and I loved to share our friends dick and sucking him together was loads of fun. She alos loved watching me suck him so maybe THAT is the point in his g/f being there, obviously something that your unimaginative mind failed to grasp.

 

[mac_crazy]

Had a similar situation recently, although I was the 3rd party, joining a married couple whom I had met on a swinger website.

We had kind of already established via email/texting what we all wanted to do (he and I suck each other, her watching, no intercourse with her), so I recommend that if possible. The more everyone knows the "plan", the less guessing and awkwardness there will be. Of course, not everyone wants a full-on agenda of what will take place. Just know what everyone's boundaries are.

As far as getting from drinks/conversation to naked frolicking, that can be tricky... although in this case it wasn't. We made small talk for about 15 minutes (hockey game was on, and we were all interested in it)... then at one point she just came out with "I think we need to see more penis in this room." In any other social situation, that would be crazy, but of course, we all knew why I was there, so we were more than happy to oblige.

Turned out once he and I started sucking each other, she joined in, taking turns with both of us, and helped us both get off with some anal play while we sucked each other. VERY hot experience, and everyone enjoyed it.

Your g/f may not be that forward, to just come out and say that, so having some porn ready to watch helps to get things going too... Hope it goes well for you! Would love to hear the details.

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

When I was the third she and I had already talked about it - she had in fact initiated it - so when we all got together she came over to me and started kissing me. From there it was all pretty easy. Good luck.

 

[Hud938]

Maybe you need to learn to read. He never said his g/f wasn't willing to have sex, he said she wasn't interested in having intercourse with the other party. There is a big difference in the two. Maybe rather than telling him that his idea is wrong and he needs to do it your way, you could just answer his question.

My ex g/f and I loved to share our friends dick and sucking him together was loads of fun. She alos loved watching me suck him so maybe THAT is the point in his g/f being there, obviously something that your unimaginative mind failed to grasp.

Well at the risk of piling on, you're spot on right pcarp. The three of us will be engaging in acts together (e.g. oral), but for the first time around (at least) we're imposing limits. As you say, there's more to sex than just fucking. Thanks for your insights.

 

[Hud938]

relax, relax, and relax... just goes with whats comfortable with all parties. Simple as that. Do NOT over think it!

Exactly what she says! Thanks!

 

[Hud938]

When I was the third she and I had already talked about it - she had in fact initiated it - so when we all got together she came over to me and started kissing me. From there it was all pretty easy. Good luck.

We have talked about how it could play out as well, including the scenario that you've described. Sounds like a simple approach. Thanks.

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

But don't over talk it. Just let it flow!

 

[goofygus42]

If there is any small talk, at some point, start kissing your wife. It will not hurt to get her tits out. Mainly just relax and have fun and go with flow.

 

[deyv]

Getting from drinks to the fun can be a bit awkward... but as a third in several mmf situations, I've found that the direct approach works well. I mean, you all know why you are there and what is going to take place.

So, it could be something as simple as you or your girlfriend saying 'hey, you want to check out the bedroom?' and take things from there.

Since it will be your first time with a guy, it might be interesting if you and your girl approach it like a teaching situation. That is, she could show you how - maybe she starts on him and then invites you to join her.

Conversely, she could start with you and invite your guest to join her.

Once things get going just let nature will take its course and you'll have a blast.