first time anal - 18years old

[chillininnj]

my girlfriend and i are both 18 years old and enjoy a nice sex life..we experiment a lot with different positions but are readyo try anal. she has never had any kind of anal penetration whatsoever and we would like some tips as to how to get started. thanx.

 

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[Titania1616]

slowly! take it slowly, almost everyone will tell you that. i would suggest starting off by getting her used to anal penetration with something relatively small, like a small butt plug, then work your way to larger sizes when she feels she's ready.

goodluck and have fun!

 

[SexyChele]

There are a TON of threads addressing this very issue. Just do a search and I'm sure you will come up with more information than you'd ever imagine.

 

[lovechild27]

Go slow, use lots of lube and most of all DO NOT FORCE HER TO DO IT! If she is uncomftorable with it, and it does hurt her, dont be an ass and keep pushing the subject!

 

[Titania1616]

dont be an ass and keep pushing the subject!

lol, i dont know why, but that sounds like a really great pun in this situation, sorry just being silly!

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

The best advise I can give is to relax. Shower together, giving one another a sensual shower. When things heat up where she is hot and full of desire, you can use your finger with lots of soap and try inserting it into her. GO SLOW, DEAR!! If she has any difficulties, stop, you don't have to take your finger out, soothe her with loving words and caresses/kisses. When she is feeling as she wants more, give her whatever she thinks she can handle. Time is on your side, and if done correctly, you both can make this a wonderful addition to your lovemaking.

 

[lovechild27]

lol, i dont know why, but that sounds like a really great pun in this situation, sorr

Hahaha...that is funny
I had an ex boyfriend when I was 18 who tried every trick in the book to get me to go through with it. I finally agreed, just to get him to drop it. He was to rough and was scared of my ass I think...hahaha. It was extremely painful, and I doubt I will ever do it ever again.


So see...that is why you shouldnt be a weiner about it. You could traumatize her for life.

 

[tupak187]

Chillin

I recently had Anal for the first time with my gf. and the best advice i could give you is to take it very slow... make sure she is completely relaxed...

Try starting off with a hot oil back rub and slowly start to introduce the idea to her that you plan on having anal sex. Don't surprise her with it.. Play with her ass, kiss it, lick it, suck it.

If ur into it, try to lick the rim of her anus. slowly, just like its a vagina. then introduce your finger, lubed of course..... circle the area, tease her... make her want it...

THEN FINALLY, when you think she is comfortable enough........ lube up and slide in.. BUT, be the slowest you can. slow in wait a little(kiss her neck, suck on her ear in the mean time) then slowly pull out..

It worked for me.. hope it works for you.

 

[Guest]

For more on the subject - I must disagree with My-Sir-K in using soap during shower to penetrate the anus. For anyone who has ever tried that - it stings!!!
Also, she may wish to cleanse her bowels before - to remove any possible "embarrassment?" Many lovers do this before anal sex.
The fact that she wants it as much as you do is terrific and should make things easier for both of you. I would suggest using toys of varying sizes - gently, slowly. Anal plugs do start very small, and if she wore one for awhile, it would loosen and relax things (as will a long hot bath and one or two drinks - but no more alcohol than that) Lots of lube - but don't use the desensitizing products - you could hurt her and both of you not know it until later! Let her control penetration and go slow.
Good luck! Have fun!

 

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[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

For more on the subject - I must disagree with My-Sir-K in using soap during shower to penetrate the anus. For anyone who has ever tried that - it stings!!!

My appologies if anyone thinks I've given bad advise. I was referring to MY own experiences. I've never had the discomfort that you described. Of coarse we are all different in how our bodies react. If using soap (and for the record, a mild soap is prefered) isn't one's choice, any number of oils are available. I suggested trying this in the shower as it can be the perfect place to unwind and relax. Some soft background music, maybe some candles, and lots of hot water to ease away any tensions. Nice, very nice. But hey, I'm a Pisces! What more would you expect from a fish???



ish thoughts of sharing a sensual shower with MY-Sir-!!
WEEEEHHHHOOOOOO!!

 

[Guest]

Smiles at My-Sir's-k devilish thoughts - and no offense intended, please. You're right - each of us is different - and the long shower with your mate before sex sounds delicious!!

 

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[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Smiles at My-Sir's-k devilish thoughts - and no offense intended, please. You're right - each of us is different - and the long shower with your mate before sex sounds delicious!!

.
Thanxs for the smiles Sweetsubsarahh, I took no offense dear. My only point was that each of is uniquely abstract in their tastes. What gives me pleasure, may not give anyone else pleasure. The one common bond we all share is our love of/for SEX !

thoughts of MY-Sir-!