First date

[bhndblueyes88]

Even though I had sex on the first day with my current S.O. I don't feel like a slut because I'm not. If I did that wouldn't be a good thing. I'd dislike myself.

FF

I'd hope sex on the first date wasn't something to be ashamed of...we had sex within an hour of getting him from the airport shuttle drop off! !(this was before we were dating)

 

[YourCaptor]

Ditto. Actually, L was the first guy I "dated" that I wasn't friends with first. (And I actually said no the first time he asked me out )

However, for the purpose of this discussion, we can be flexible with the term "date". So feel free to talk about a non-traditional dating experience if you like, YC.

Nontraditional dating

Um, I took this one girl way the fuck in the mountains. The kind of far from civilizations where you find graves next to shacks. We spent all day climbing shit, with a small group, was really fun. But that didn’t go much further than that, better friendship than relationship. Was a really short relationship if you can call it that, 1 day really cause it was all downhill from there, we never even had sex, but it’s really memorable in my mind still and probably the best first date.

This one chick was passing though and I showed her California. It was like a long, long date, 5 days actually. She paid for most stuff with travelers checks, usually I’d say no but those things are pre paid so have to use them anyway. On her last day after dinner out with friends I asked her what she wanted to do on her last night here, she said it wouldn’t feel right if she didn’t spend it at my place. Very sweet girl, though she was an exception, if she lived her I would have never been with her, she was just too young and innocent. You can’t really count it as a real relationship, though it certainly was far more than a hookup. In some way it may have also been the ideal relationship. When you travel and don’t have much time with people, you never learn their flaws, and because you are on the clock you go really, really intense. It was like a relationship at full throttle, maximum mixture, and the afterburners on.

 

[00Syd]

The first time I met Seb was when he was invited over by the guy I was playing with at the time with the express purpose of roping me up. It was lust at first sight.

Our first real date though? I don't know. We never really had a first date. The 2nd time I met Seb was at a party thrown by the same guy who introduced us, and we both crashed at his place that night. In the morning we went out to breakfast with a few other folks who had spent the night, and then Seb and I ended up spending the whole day together. I think we got dim sum and saw a movie.

I pretty much wanted in his pants from second one, and saw him as much as possible from that point forward. The first two or three weeks of my knowing him kind of felt like one big date

 

[Cattypuss]

So, your first date with your current SO(s), what did you do? Where did you go? Was it good? Bad? Ugly? What happened on that date that told you you were compatible and there was a possible future together? (If you knew each other socially before hooking up, consider your "first date" the first time just the two of you went out together for romantical type reasons).

If you're not in a relationship at the moment, what's your most memorable first date?

And, just generally, what are your thoughts on first dates? What should they involve and not involve? What would make you melt? What would make you icy?

We met on adultfreindfinder. We were both looking for casual sex - he because he was in a sexless marriage and his wife had encouraged him to join AFF to fill his sexual needs elsewhere and me because I wasn't long out of a bad marriage and just looking for some fun _ I had one fuck buddy but due to circumstances I was unable to see him very often and needed a second string to my bow so as to get sex regularly enough.

We met for a drink in a pub. Turned into several drinks and the only ever time I've slept with a man on a first meeting. Now, two years later, I only sleep with him, he only sleeps with me, his marriage is over and he's all mine bwa ha ha ha ha ha.

A funny one. We were both adamant at first that we only wanted sex from each other. But we had a level of understanding from very early on that became increasingly hard to ignore. Nobody has ever "got" me, understood who I am, like he does (and did, from very early on) and vice-versa. Our relationship is very deep, emotionally.

Astonishing what you can find in unusual places when you're looking for something else entirely.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm not sure if I've had many traditional ask-the-girl-out-and-pay-for-the-evening kind of dates since early college. But I do have a beginning-of-the-relationship meetup story to share.

"A" came to Chicago to meet up with a Lit friend (B) and me after having posted with one another for about a year. I was seeing the mutual friend at the time but the two of them had become fast friends via Lit. In some respects I was along for the ride of A and B getting to see one another in person, though I had posted with and shared a number of friendly PMs with A. After dinner the first night she was in town, I poured some champagne for the three of us in the hotel room I was sharing with B and at some point suggested that I'd enjoy seeing them kiss, as they'd often joked in posts here. They did, and it wasn't long before we were into a full-on threesome. Good times.

About two years later I'd stopped seeing B but was continuing to develop my friendship with A. It happened that I was going to be spending a long weekend on my own in California so she flew out to spend the weekend with me. We started in San Jose, spent a night in Monterey, and then drove the Pacific Coast Highway down to Santa Monica, where we had dinner, and then on into LA where I was to work the following week. We spent the weekend holed up in a hotel room in LA, breaking only long enough to go out to dinner. Where I had her wear a remote-controlled vibe that the waiter could clearly hear.

We've been FWB on a high level for the four years since.

 

[lovebound]

I'm not sure if I've had many traditional ask-the-girl-out-and-pay-for-the-evening kind of dates since early college. But I do have a beginning-of-the-relationship meetup story to share.

"A" came to Chicago to meet up with a Lit friend (B) and me after having posted with one another for about a year. I was seeing the mutual friend at the time but the two of them had become fast friends via Lit. In some respects I was along for the ride of A and B getting to see one another in person, though I had posted with and shared a number of friendly PMs with A. After dinner the first night she was in town, I poured some champagne for the three of us in the hotel room I was sharing with B and at some point suggested that I'd enjoy seeing them kiss, as they'd often joked in posts here. They did, and it wasn't long before we were into a full-on threesome. Good times.

About two years later I'd stopped seeing B but was continuing to develop my friendship with A. It happened that I was going to be spending a long weekend on my own in California so she flew out to spend the weekend with me. We started in San Jose, spent a night in Monterey, and then drove the Pacific Coast Highway down to Santa Monica, where we had dinner, and then on into LA where I was to work the following week. We spent the weekend holed up in a hotel room in LA, breaking only long enough to go out to dinner. Where I had her wear a remote-controlled vibe that the waiter could clearly hear.

We've been FWB on a high level for the four years since.

Can I borrow your life?

 

[midwestyankee]

Can I borrow your life?

Not sure it's a practical option, but I'd charge horrendously high interest payments as I rather like it staying in my possession.

But make me an offer and well, you never know.

 

[wicked woman]

Can I borrow your life?

You're referring to his ability to travel and the great sights from the PCH, I'm assuming.

 

[lovebound]

Not sure it's a practical option, but I'd charge horrendously high interest payments as I rather like it staying in my possession.

But make me an offer and well, you never know.

Maybe like a timeshare thing? We'll talk.

You're referring to his ability to travel and the great sights from the PCH, I'm assuming.

Of course!

 

[midwestyankee]

You're referring to his ability to travel and the great sights from the PCH, I'm assuming.

Now there you go stepping in and possibly ruining my bargaining position. I was hoping to fetch a really good rate on the whole threesome-on-first-meeting thing.

I thought you Canadians were more polite than this.

 

[wicked woman]

Now there you go stepping in and possibly ruining my bargaining position. I was hoping to fetch a really good rate on the whole threesome-on-first-meeting thing.

I thought you Canadians were more polite than this.

We're very polite and I am nothing if not a Canadian.

Would you rather I fill in some of the blanks in your adventures? I have a very good imagination. And Yank I don't think anything I could say could reduce the price of a threesome on first meeting. Just wish I'd been there.

 

[seela]

We had been chatting online for about a week and were getting along brilliantly. I didn't (and still don't) have a TV, so he asked if I'd like to come over to watch Law&Order SVU.

About twenty minutes later I was at his place and about ten minutes after that I was getting undressed in front of him. We never watched SVU, not that I really felt disappointed.

So yeah, I did everything that you're not supposed to do. I didn't meet him in a public place before going over to his place (unless meeting in the parking lot a minute before we went in counts), heck, I didn't even have his phone number when I went over. I let him tie me up, no talks about safewords or limits, no one knew where I had gone to at 10PM.

In hindsight I find it pretty amusing that I was going over to watch SVU and it never once occured to me that a guy I had met online and knew nothing about might be a serial killer and rapist or at least a big weirdo creep. Well, he wasn't.

 

[lovebound]

Now there you go stepping in and possibly ruining my bargaining position. I was hoping to fetch a really good rate on the whole threesome-on-first-meeting thing.

I thought you Canadians were more polite than this.

That's not a hard sell as it is... don't worry!

And Canadians rock.

 

[YourCaptor]

I was in school at the time. He picked me up after class by roaring down the street in the lowered car he drove and pulling up right behind where I was walking and come-hithering me to get in. We'd planned to get sushi and go dancing and the first thing he said when I was buckled in and we drove off was "So we're going to get sushi, but first I want to show you my bedroom."

I had never been anywhere alone with him before and spent most of the ride to his house terrified and wondering where on the highway would be a good spot to jump out of the car.

Turns out he had just done renovations on his house and he was so proud he just wanted to show off. He was really cute about it. We were there for ten minutes giving me the tour and then he pulled me out to the car again and we went for sushi.

On the second date we spent a little more time in the house.

lowriders + miniskirts = hot

 

[wicked woman]

I'm not sure if I've had many traditional ask-the-girl-out-and-pay-for-the-evening kind of dates since early college. But I do have a beginning-of-the-relationship meetup story to share.

"A" came to Chicago to meet up with a Lit friend (B) and me after having posted with one another for about a year. I was seeing the mutual friend at the time but the two of them had become fast friends via Lit. In some respects I was along for the ride of A and B getting to see one another in person, though I had posted with and shared a number of friendly PMs with A. After dinner the first night she was in town, I poured some champagne for the three of us in the hotel room I was sharing with B and at some point suggested that I'd enjoy seeing them kiss, as they'd often joked in posts here. They did, and it wasn't long before we were into a full-on threesome. Good times.

About two years later I'd stopped seeing B but was continuing to develop my friendship with A. It happened that I was going to be spending a long weekend on my own in California so she flew out to spend the weekend with me. We started in San Jose, spent a night in Monterey, and then drove the Pacific Coast Highway down to Santa Monica, where we had dinner, and then on into LA where I was to work the following week. We spent the weekend holed up in a hotel room in LA, breaking only long enough to go out to dinner. Where I had her wear a remote-controlled vibe that the waiter could clearly hear.

We've been FWB on a high level for the four years since.

Would you rather I fill in some of the blanks in your adventures? I have a very good imagination. And Yank I don't think anything I could say could reduce the price of a threesome on first meeting. Just wish I'd been there.

oh wait. I was there....both times. They were both lots of fun and absolutely delicious.

You're right though, we don't usually do traditional dating. We did however have a movie 'date' even though we were hundreds of miles apart....both watching the same DVD while we commented on it while on the phone. Wouldn't call it a first date though.

 

[Homburg]

Whole lot of people saying things like "I did everything you're not supposed to," in here.

I didn't find out for quite a while that MIS had called her safecall at the proper intervals when we were together. She was really slick about it

 

[Keroin]

Whole lot of people saying things like "I did everything you're not supposed to," in here.

I didn't find out for quite a while that MIS had called her safecall at the proper intervals when we were together. She was really slick about it

Good girl!

10 bonus points for MIS and a season's pass for Les Ballets Jazz du Montreal.

I hope she's feeling better, BTW.

 

[seela]

For me, a big reason why I never really thought about him as a potential rapist and serial killer or a complete whackjob before meeting him was that I'm not really worried about such things. I live in a comparatively safe country, and even though I live in the largest city, it's still small. I feel safe.

Then again, I don't see how meeting someone online, chatting for a couple of days getting to know the person at least on some level and then going over to their place is any less safe than going to a bar, getting drunk and later fornicating with a complete stranger.

 

[lovebound]

lowriders + miniskirts = hot

True dat.

 

[YourCaptor]

Weirdest first dates I turned down.

This one time I went to the movies, and had friends with me so don’t think I’m totally crazy.

Anyway, in the parking lot this lowrider pulls up and 3 huge ass cholos pile out clown car style, all looking over at me rather… choloesque like, making gestures and what not.

So I was feeling particularly cocky, as I do, and I figure it’s best to make a presence, so I approach and asked nicely, but very manly, if I could help them with something. They all try to stare me down for a minute, then one pointed to this chick in the car and says “she likes you holmes”. She gets out, sure enough, miniskirt. One of those jeans miniskirts that you see at the swap meet plastered to the manikins backsides, and present ass towards the buyer. She then smacks one of the those 5x her mass guys and sits back on the hood, leaning back just ever so slightly not enough. And that’s about when my memory fails, and I made my getaway.

 

[Netzach]

We met for coffee that went four hours.

I said "I've got to work for the next six hours, but if you meet me back over here we can continue to hang out." Which we did well into the next day. No fucking - just horrible horrible balls blue teasing all night. I guess I've always been good at a quick read on people, and people knew where I was.

 

[Que]

Well she isn't my SO as of yet..more my current crush.

She has 4 kids, I have 4 kids left at home. I work12-16 hours a day on the 14 days I don't have the kids, so I thought a logistics problem was impeding dating.

Turns out she likes me, hates dating.

I penned a line the other day about the fine line between loitering and stalking. She supports herself and 4 kids as a waitress.

She used to be in my line of work and I'm not clear what happened there, lot of layoffs, maybe personal issues..anyway she is under-employed and overworked.

I am counting the following as our "first date"

I stopped by the gas station on the way to her work where I have been grabbing a lot of meals, but not the wait staff. I had an hour before I had be on shift. I ordered my meal, then reached into my vest pocket of one of my many layers (cold at 6,000 feet)

While waiting for my meal I asked her to bring two small plates.

I pulled out two formally frozen then deep-fried imitation of a spring roll and some packets of corn-syrup and vinegar and food coloring.

We shared them in between her having to go attend to her customers. She ate it a delicate bite at a time over about a 15 minute period. Couldn't tell whether she has a fabulous palate and could only tolerate so much min-mart goodness at once..(hope so!) or whether she was savoring the moments stolen. (even better.)

Since she is uncomfortable with me spending money on her, (never a good sign) I am thinking of making her a dumpster stir fry and checking Casabalanca out of the Library.

On a positive sign, she is taking my 15 year old fashionista with her to the nearest "big city" (40 miles) to shop for intimates without having to have dad around. So I think this one has potential for some longevity in the dreaded friend role at the minimum.

 

[ShyVixen]

So, your first date with your current SO(s), what did you do? Where did you go? Was it good? Bad? Ugly? What happened on that date that told you you were compatible and there was a possible future together? (If you knew each other socially before hooking up, consider your "first date" the first time just the two of you went out together for romantical type reasons).

If you're not in a relationship at the moment, what's your most memorable first date?

And, just generally, what are your thoughts on first dates? What should they involve and not involve? What would make you melt? What would make you icy?

I hate first dates. I always feel so awkward.

Well, the first time we met wasn't a 'date' per se. It was more online friends having coffee for the first time.

We wandered around town, went to a second hand bookstore and had lunch. It was good. I flirted like crazy, but he was a perfect gentleman

The 'real' first date we went to an exhibition, I had a raspberry martini and spilled it everywhere. It was embarassing. What made me think we were compatible? When we were talking, I felt like I'd known him for most of my life. Still do.

 

[naxalite0906]

I hate first dates. I always feel so awkward.

Well, the first time we met wasn't a 'date' per se. It was more online friends having coffee for the first time.

We wandered around town, went to a second hand bookstore and had lunch. It was good. I flirted like crazy, but he was a perfect gentleman

The 'real' first date we went to an exhibition, I had a raspberry martini and spilled it everywhere. It was embarassing. What made me think we were compatible? When we were talking, I felt like I'd known him for most of my life. Still do.

All of the above - what a coincidence

 

[ownedsubgal]

Weirdest first dates I turned down.

This one time I went to the movies, and had friends with me so don’t think I’m totally crazy.

Anyway, in the parking lot this lowrider pulls up and 3 huge ass cholos pile out clown car style, all looking over at me rather… choloesque like, making gestures and what not.

So I was feeling particularly cocky, as I do, and I figure it’s best to make a presence, so I approach and asked nicely, but very manly, if I could help them with something. They all try to stare me down for a minute, then one pointed to this chick in the car and says “she likes you holmes”. She gets out, sure enough, miniskirt. One of those jeans miniskirts that you see at the swap meet plastered to the manikins backsides, and present ass towards the buyer. She then smacks one of the those 5x her mass guys and sits back on the hood, leaning back just ever so slightly not enough. And that’s about when my memory fails, and I made my getaway.

should've hit that.