first bi/les experience; nervous!

bluepisces

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Hi! I'm 22, F, and have been bi-curious for as long as I can remember. I met a girl online about a month ago, we've exchanged pics, phone conversations, and many instant messages, and have decided to meet. I've never so much as kissed a girl before, and she has a lot more experience than I do, and I'm just a little nervous that I'll disappoint in the bedroom. I'm also still a little shy, and while I'm very enthusiastic about doing this, I'm afraid that my inexperience is a turnoff (although she does know that this is all new to me).

Any words of advice or reassurance will be much appreciated :)
 
bluepisces said:
Hi! I'm 22, F, and have been bi-curious for as long as I can remember. I met a girl online about a month ago, we've exchanged pics, phone conversations, and many instant messages, and have decided to meet. I've never so much as kissed a girl before, and she has a lot more experience than I do, and I'm just a little nervous that I'll disappoint in the bedroom. I'm also still a little shy, and while I'm very enthusiastic about doing this, I'm afraid that my inexperience is a turnoff (although she does know that this is all new to me).

Any words of advice or reassurance will be much appreciated :)


Try and relax and enjoy yourself, bluepisces. Personally, I'd much rather have enthusiasm and inexperience in a partner than someone who was experienced but dull. Being a 'virgin' is not a turn off for most people. Your partner can always teach you what pleases her and show you the ropes, so to speak.

Best of luck! And I hope you have a fantastic first experience!
 
omg ... u are gonna have sooo much fun .. and being with another woman is gonna blow your mind ... her soft lips and soft skin and gentle touch are gonna have you soooo wet .... and no, your inexperience wont matter atall ... for me it would be a huge turn-on ... teaching you the joy of lez luv

lay back and enjoy!!

and then get her to lay back and enjoy!
 
The best I can tell you is to relax and just do what comes naturally. I was shocked at how natural and easily it flowed...there was no basis for my fears, and it went far smoother than it had with any man. Have fun and explore! I'm not about to suggest women are the same, but chances are, many of the things that feel good to you will feel good to her as well. There might be a few variations (for example, I like having my nipples played with harder than most women), but no one knows a woman's body better than a woman, right? Listen to her verbal cues, focus on her body, and just go with it. Plus, remember everyone likes it a little different, so this is going to be her first experience too...with you.

Honestly, the fun and beauty is in the exploration, connection, and excitement of trying something (or someone)new. The bottom line is that if you're both into it and eachother, it's going to be wonderful!

I'd wish you good luck, but you won't need it...just have fun! :D
 
tongue her pussy like there's no tomorrow....then lick her asshole ....stick a finger or three in her ass while you suck her tits...

damn lesbians are hot!!
 
sara_lez04 said:
lay back and enjoy!!

and then get her to lay back and enjoy!
Hey, nothing wrong with enjoying each other at the same time. That's how my wife prefers it - she insists on playing with my clit if I'm playing with hers, just because she loves it! And you know I'm not complaining! :D
 
bluepisces said:
Hi! I'm 22, F, and have been bi-curious for as long as I can remember. I met a girl online about a month ago, we've exchanged pics, phone conversations, and many instant messages, and have decided to meet. I've never so much as kissed a girl before, and she has a lot more experience than I do, and I'm just a little nervous that I'll disappoint in the bedroom. I'm also still a little shy, and while I'm very enthusiastic about doing this, I'm afraid that my inexperience is a turnoff (although she does know that this is all new to me).

Any words of advice or reassurance will be much appreciated :)


In the immortal words of Obi-Wan... "May the Force Be With You"

seriously don't worry about it... just enjoy... if you think too much you won't have a good time.. just do what feels natural... i always think that's the best advice....

peace,

SD
 
You'll never forget the experience. I can still remember every second of my first time with a high school friend.

Fun is an understatement ;)
 
I had the gift of my partners FF virginity. She was shaking like a leaf with nervousness when we were first intimate.

Relax and enjoy the experience.
 
All the best, Blue. I know exactly how you feel, because I've been there myself. I was so nervous I threw up as soon as I stepped off the plane, but it turned out to be the most beautiful experience of my life. Like SweetErika said - you'll be amazed at how naturally and easily things flow.
:rose:
 
Etoile said:
Hey, nothing wrong with enjoying each other at the same time. That's how my wife prefers it - she insists on playing with my clit if I'm playing with hers, just because she loves it! And you know I'm not complaining! :D

Mutual pleasure is the best.....;) ..... but if it's your first time, just relax, do whatever comes naturally.... hopefully things will work out just fine and who knows, maybe you will find that mutual bliss!

Good Luck!
 
Just be honest with your feelings blupisces. If she knows you're inexperienced she's probably doesnt expect you to perform miracles in bed room ;)

I had a slight nostalgic feeling while reading your post - you sound a bit like me. I met a girl from net (we were both inexperienced - well I had licked woman before but thats kinda complex story...) and went through all those 'what if... she dont like me/i dont know what to do/I am a disappointment/etc'.

Relax and have fun, experimenting, cozy & cuddly atmosphere :)
 
bluepisces said:
Hi! I'm 22, F, and have been bi-curious for as long as I can remember. I met a girl online about a month ago, we've exchanged pics, phone conversations, and many instant messages, and have decided to meet. I've never so much as kissed a girl before, and she has a lot more experience than I do, and I'm just a little nervous that I'll disappoint in the bedroom. I'm also still a little shy, and while I'm very enthusiastic about doing this, I'm afraid that my inexperience is a turnoff (although she does know that this is all new to me).

Any words of advice or reassurance will be much appreciated :)

don't worry honey, you will be fine. I was seduced by an older, experienced woman my first time and was surprised how natrual the love-making was. Just think of what pleases you and do to your lover. You will never look back once you've been with her, the sex between two women is so pleasurable and sensual. good luck and let us all know how you get on.
 
I know it's not quite the same... me being a guy and all. But I do remember my first time with another guy vividly. That was more than 20 years ago, and it's still as clear in my mind as last night's dinner. An unforgettable experience; one I will always treasure.

Don't hold anything back. Good luck and enjoy yourselves!

-- P
 
Thanks so much for all the advice, everyone :) Unfortunately, we weren't able to meet when we had planned to, but we're meeting in about two hours. I really appreciate all the comments and advice, and although I'm incredibly nervous, I'm also really looking forward to this. I'll update after the fact!
 
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