Finding You

[nikkijames]

I have learned one thing over the past weekend with Rika.

That one thing is that it is okay to be who you are. I have been one that when I get naked in front of a man, I want it pitch dark so that he doesn't have the chance to see what imperfections I have. I have been wanting to deal with this fear of mine for sometime now and I thought I was getting better with it. Age I do believe has some to do with it, as one gets older, they tend to accept themselves more and more.

Well I promised myself that if things were to get physical with Rika and myself that I was going to let him see me, all of me. It was awesome! A new high and freedom spread throughout my body and soul this weekend as I allowed myself to be seen naked with actual lighting to show my flaws.


It made me feel so beautiful for the first time ever as a naked somewhat overweight woman. I figured ..... hell if a man can enjoy my body.. why can't I? Why is is that we think we have to be of the perfect shape to have someone find us attractive? He never once came out and said that I was beautiful naked, but I could feel it.

Now I know that I can take this experience and use it in the future. I know that I can be beautiful when beautiful has always been a thing that I never thought I was.

Have any of the other women (and maybe even some men) here had one specific thing happen to them that made them realise that they are beautiful? How did you let that change you and did you carry that onto other relationships? Did it better those other relationships?

I'm curious to see what others have to say on this topic.

Thanks

 

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Well, $s are weak at the moment. (Thank you GWB!!!)

 

[SeaCat]

I have learned one thing over the past weekend with Rika.

That one thing is that it is okay to be who you are. I have been one that when I get naked in front of a man, I want it pitch dark so that he doesn't have the chance to see what imperfections I have. I have been wanting to deal with this fear of mine for sometime now and I thought I was getting better with it. Age I do believe has some to do with it, as one gets older, they tend to accept themselves more and more.

Well I promised myself that if things were to get physical with Rika and myself that I was going to let him see me, all of me. It was awesome! A new high and freedom spread throughout my body and soul this weekend as I allowed myself to be seen naked with actual lighting to show my flaws.


It made me feel so beautiful for the first time ever as a naked somewhat overweight woman. I figured ..... hell if a man can enjoy my body.. why can't I? Why is is that we think we have to be of the perfect shape to have someone find us attractive? He never once came out and said that I was beautiful naked, but I could feel it.

Now I know that I can take this experience and use it in the future. I know that I can be beautiful when beautiful has always been a thing that I never thought I was.

Have any of the other women (and maybe even some men) here had one specific thing happen to them that made them realise that they are beautiful? How did you let that change you and did you carry that onto other relationships? Did it better those other relationships?

I'm curious to see what others have to say on this topic.

Thanks

Nikki,

Congrats on waking up and learning one of the eternal truths. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. This includes your body.

I was lucky in that I grew up in a family with no body taboos. I didn't have to unlearn a lot of what our society teaches us. Yes sometimes I was uncomfortable, and yes sometimes this still causes some problems, but for the most part I'm glad I grew up the way I did.

My wife on the other hand grew up in a very religeos(sp) family and learned all of the body taboos early. She also was taught to be ashamed of the scars she picked up through surgery to repair her back. ("No man will be attracted to you if he sees those scars.") It took several years of my working with her to get her ready to visit a nude beach. When we did I made sure that we were in a fairly secluded section of the beach, and there were plenty of people there who just happened to be on the very large side. Even then she was very uncomfortable until she saw a woman who had some severe burn scars covering a large proportion of her body. Well I think you can guess the rest, she like you is now a lot more comfortable with her body and is much less reluctant to let others see it.

Cat

 

[brightlyiburn]

It's hard not to self-concious about scars. I have a small one on my wrist, and I'm self-concious about it. Really just because. I was never taught to be.
I'm also over weight, and extremely self-concious about that. But generally that's what happens when you're teased about something so often. I can't stand looking at myself. That wasn't something that came from my family, it came from the assholes in school. And it's very, very hard to get over.

 

[impressive]

That one thing is that it is okay to be who you are. I have been one that when I get naked in front of a man, I want it pitch dark so that he doesn't have the chance to see what imperfections I have. I have been wanting to deal with this fear of mine for sometime now and I thought I was getting better with it. Age I do believe has some to do with it, as one gets older, they tend to accept themselves more and more.

IMO, sex doesn't really get GOOD until you're not afraid to be seen in all your glory in the light -- in positions that might not be the most flattering -- fully enjoying yourself.

Go for the gusto, sweetie!