Finding Straying Subs

[JennyCapricorn]

As you're wandering around on Chat and are approached by straying subs desperately trying to get a Domme to help them get off, how often do you track down their primary Domme and report them? What's your ethical etiquette on this?

 

[Utmale48]

For me if I know they have a Dom that’s hands off. Can’t be messing around with someone else’s sub.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Oh I wouldn't play with them; I'm wondering about letting the Domme know of the infraction.

 

[Boat1]

As a sub, fortunate enough to have The Perfect Domme, I can't even fathom the thought of straying.
She gives me everything I could ever need or want!

 

[Jingling_Geordie]

If a sub is straying, as with any person straying from their partner, is it not a sign of problems in their relationship?

 

[seela]

Interesting. It never would have occurred to me to reach out. The only exception to that I can think of is if I know the D as well.

I wouldn’t want to be in any way responsible for what goes on in other people’s relationships and don’t have a particular interest in keeping a person in check.

 

[Sinceresub]

Why would you get involved with a strangers personal life? Just put them on ignore if need be.

Besides, if they are straying then there is a reason for it. That's between them.

 

[Brianna_Hope]

wandering subs who lost their dommes or were cast off are very delicate creatures. Having been groomed to rely totally on the Master, that lost of security, safety, purpose and perceived love can be traumatizing. It's like being a child lost at a busy airport in a strange town without a cell phone. (one of my recurring nightmares.) I've seen it too many times in experience to ignore a lost hurting sub.

 

[average_red]

Ethically? Yes you should track them down. If nothing else it gives everyone a chance for communication leading to a healthy relationship, or end an unhealthy relationship sooner and cleaner.

Realistically? I don't know how I would find out that she had an active dom, and ultimately there are some people who just exist to be used and abandoned, I might assume that the dom wasn't emotionally invested in the toy, and didn't particularly care what happened to it, just based on the behaviors I had seen.