Honestly, don't even attempt to find one, bathhouses are a really good way of catching a disease, deadly or not.
Much better way is to go to one of the many chat sites and finding a gay men section in your area, Yahoo is just the most obvious choice, do a search, you will probably be amazed at how many there are.
Alternate and slower method, do a personal ad in one or more of the hundreds of them out there, most tend to cater more to guys just wanting a quick screw than a relationship.
i am a bi-guy living in a small town in ms. i also need help in finding a male friend for fun and companionship. any help would be appreciated.thank you,Stephen
Remember, play safe. If meeting a stranger for the first time, meet in some relatively public place. & use protection. (Probably advice you've heard several million times already and already know, but I thought I'd put it up there)