Fetish Events

[MistressHelan]

Might not be the right thread for this, but:

when and where are fetish, BDSM etc... events held the world over?

 

[FurryFury]

A simple google search brought up these:

http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/

http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/cldr/view.cgi?db=def

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/

http://dmoz.org/Adult/Society/Sexuality/Activities_and_Practices/BDSM/Events/

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Fury

 

[Lunesta]

... events held the world over?

I wonder if there are so many events that it might be good to narrow the field - perhaps by continent or by special interests?

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Loved it in 2004

http://www.fetishcon.com/ hope to make the 2006

 

[Xelebes]

I could go to Lupercalia MMVI but I'm holding on that. Maybe next year.

 

[FurryFury]

I have some buddies that go to a fetish con every year. It's in Hotlanta. I'm about ready to go but I can't find out when it is. Okay I'm still scared but I think I could do it. Cons are cons right? Dweeb's dressed up all nutty like and drinking beer, right?

I used to go to gaming cons, it can't be too different can it?

I am also almost ready to try a munch or fetish club but not here where I live. I mean, I'm a local minor celebrity here a wholesome one so I'd like to go a few hours away. Less chance of being spotted by clients or perhaps relatives I don't want to know that way, right?

Maybe I'm not ready. I really want to be though. I can do it. I think. Hmm. Can't I? *thinks hard about it*

Fury

 

[Hecate]

my next plans

Inspired by the European Lit get-together thread I thought it would be fun to have people post what events they will be attending in the upcomming weeks/months. (You never know if a spontaneous "meet and greet" might arise )

So far next on my schedule is The Art of Pain in Munich.

What are your party plans / experiences?
I am always interested in personal recommendations rather than the official PR.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Boston has them regularluy. With the larger events taking place twice a year. Information can be located in www.bfp.com.

See ya there.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... when and where are fetish, BDSM etc... events held the world over?

BDSM/Fetish/Leather events are held, literally, around the globe, and some event is going on somewhere pretty much EVERY freaking weekend, and most weekdays.

Whether it's a local discussion munch/support group, a play party, or a full blown convention with classes, vendors, parties, etc.. if you want to find a kink-friendly place to go, you just have to look.

Fury already posted the links I would've suggested so I won't re-invent the wheel. All I will add is this: "Seek, and ye shall find."

 

[Hecate]

Do you people mind changing the aim of the thread and...

.. share where you actually ARE going?

The problem is exactly the HUGE amount of play parties, munches, local groups and huge international events. There is just too much to know where the real party gems are imo.

I would be interested in the "real" options, meaning: where do you guys go? rather than read another website advertising...

.. and I know many "newbies" are shy attending those "public events", so maybe we can take away some of the fears and hesitation by actually showing that the "normal people" go there

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have some buddies that go to a fetish con every year. It's in Hotlanta. I'm about ready to go but I can't find out when it is. Okay I'm still scared but I think I could do it. Cons are cons right? Dweeb's dressed up all nutty like and drinking beer, right?

I used to go to gaming cons, it can't be too different can it?

I am also almost ready to try a munch or fetish club but not here where I live. I mean, I'm a local minor celebrity here a wholesome one so I'd like to go a few hours away. Less chance of being spotted by clients or perhaps relatives I don't want to know that way, right?

Maybe I'm not ready. I really want to be though. I can do it. I think. Hmm. Can't I? *thinks hard about it*

Fury

While the chances are less, it is surprising where people turn up unexpected, especially if they are doing so for the same reason you are. That also means they might want to remain anonymous as well so there will not be any difficulty, but in the event they are not concerned it might be worth thinking first about how you will cope if the worst happens, or come to terms with if this is what you really want, are you able to reach a point where it is not going to mean the end of your world to be found out.

Catalina

 

[Mamid]

a gf of ours is trying to convince DP and I to go to fetish events.

I used to go to local fetish events. I don't want to go anymore. Finding my mother's boyfriend at an event years ago completely turned me off of them. Our convo went something like this:
"you're not going to tell here I was here..."
"Only if you don't tell her I was here."

I really don't want to go. See, when I was last living at my mother's place, I found stuff that would have been confiscated if the authorities found out about it. European bondage pron. So I knew she was into it, just didn't realize how into it she could be...

Running into her boyfriend there... oh my god, can we say SQUIK????

I couldn't get out of there fast enough.

I saw the guy at a few other fetish events and each time, I squiked some more about them. Now, I don't want to go. I know there's a nightclub two hours from here that our GF wants to take us to, but I have no desire to go. At all.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Where do I go?

Local Scene group munches. Educational events. Play parties.

Groups like T3WD in Columbia, SC or LOCK in Greenville, SC
AIRS in Augusta, GA,
CLOAK or CAPEX in Charlotte, NC
TALON in Greensboro, NC or TTC in Raleigh, or WINK in Wilmington
GWNN in Austin, TX

Educational events like Texas Leather Pride, or the now defunct April Bash, or LOCK U.

Play parties at places like The Outback, or 1763, or The Crucible, or The Sanctuary (in Atlanta before it closed, haven't been to the one in Dallas yet).

If by "party gems" you mean places where the object is to wear fetish clothing, drink alcohol and listen to (and maybe dance to) overly loud music, I have no clue or information about where to go.

Hope that helps!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Running into her boyfriend there... oh my god, can we say SQUIK????

I couldn't get out of there fast enough.

I saw the guy at a few other fetish events and each time, I squiked some more about them. Now, I don't want to go. I know there's a nightclub two hours from here that our GF wants to take us to, but I have no desire to go. At all.

So you have surrendered your power to attend fetish events to your mother's kinky boyfriend?

That is exactly what you've done in this instance. You've allowed your hangups about your mom and her kinky bf to cut off a venue for _your_ pleasure and/or education.

I won't go into the whole "parents as sexual beings" mish mash here, other than to suggest that you might want to take that power back into your own hands.

YIK,
- Geoff

 

[Mamid]

So you have surrendered your power to attend fetish events to your mother's kinky boyfriend?

No.

I don't think you understand.

My biobitch is into the fucking scene. I didn't want to run into her at a fetish event. Her boyfriend was bad enough. At least he was ... adult enough to understand why I didn't want contact with him there.

There's a huge backstory about the shit she's caused me.

I still don't want to go to them. I left my religion, told mutual "friends" to fuck off and more in order to avoid her.

Her "kinky boyfriend" and I were going to be good friends - if he could have gotten away from her.

 

[snowy ciara]

<<minor hijack re kinky 'rents>>

It would appear that I'm a lot closer to my parents than you, but it is possible to not curtail all of your activities. In the conversation where I came out to my mother one thing led to another and she knows that I'm a femsub too. She wasn't at all surprised as she and my father have been happily D/s ing for years. Like, since before I was born. One of my brother's is also seriously kinked and another is gay, too. Though none of us are perved in the same way, we are all aware and supportive of each other.

This was NOT an easy conversation to have. Generally, no one wants to know about their parent's sex life, and yes, things were very awkward for a while. I ended up avoiding my dad for several weeks because of this, but we did eventually get over it. My mother has actually met my potential Domme, and they both know several of my kinked friends. However, it is possible to peacefully co-exist within a community when your family is kinked. I know which events my parents attend, and which ones my brothers attend and I have shared which ones I plan on attending. (Okay, so it's really sort of "which one" singular, not plural, in my case. ) This way, we can all decide for ourselves if the venue is a place where we'd be okay meeting or not. Since one of my brothers and I do overlap in the glbt sense, there are some things we'd like to do together. If possible, my mum, dad, brother and I are all going to meet in June for Gay Pride week in Toronto this year, with my brother's partner. None of us want all the gory details of the others sex lives, but, I think the fact that my parents being willing to go to an event with their bisexual femmesub and gay biker boy son and his partner is really empowering. I have actually asked them about stuff discussed on Lit, and while neither of them visit Lit on their own, they have weighed on stuff. I've sent my mother links to threads, and if she has anything to add, she'll email a response to me and I'll post it, with a note to the effect that it is her opinion, not mine.

Mamid, it sounds like you and your mother have issues other than convergent kinks, and please don't think I'm being all preachy! You know yourself and your mother better than any of us, and I'm not about to tell you to go and do it our way. I do think it's kind of sad that you feel you can't go these events because of the situation though, and I wanted to put it out there for the sake of discussion, that kinky parents and children can get along and peacefully co-exist in the same community! At home in Canada, I lived two small towns away from mum and dad, for all intents and purposes, we were moving among the same crowd. I will most likely be returning to the same area when I graduate from college. We avoided situations where we would see each other in positions and activities that we didn't want to see, but none of us were forced to completely curtail our activities either.


<< / minor hijack>>

 

[Mamid]

Its not just "so what are you into, mom?" that squicked me about fetish events. I tried to talk to her about it and she did the ostridge thing

there is a whole huge backstory about biobitch and me that I don't want to go into. It involves her threatening to take any future children from me as well as 4 years of courtroom drama to say the least. I haven't had contact with her in 7 years and I hope it continues.

pm me and I'll give you some more details.

Finding her boyfriend there... what if she had been on his arm? *shudder*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Sorry to hear that there are other issues at work here. I was hoping that your situation would have been somewhat more akin to what snowy was describing.

I don't have any sage advice for you, won't drop any platitudes or cliches either. I just know that you've let your antipathy for your mother cut you off from a lot of people or activities you could otherwise enjoy. I hope you find a way around or past that.

Safe journeys, wherever they may take you, and best of luck!

 

[Mamid]

when it comes to the safety of my children, I cut my entire maternal family out of my life, friends and "family" that I grew up with and even left the religion I grew up in because of the amount of venom that was directed at me either by her own actions and words or indirectly by her through others actions or words. I also moved to the island for two years to protect them from her until Penalt had the chance of a full time job back on the continent.

Do you think I like cutting myself off from all this? Well, yes and no. I don't like the isolation, but keeping my children safe is what matters.

 

[FurryFury]

when it comes to the safety of my children, I cut my entire maternal family out of my life, friends and "family" that I grew up with and even left the religion I grew up in because of the amount of venom that was directed at me either by her own actions and words or indirectly by her through others actions or words. I also moved to the island for two years to protect them from her until Penalt had the chance of a full time job back on the continent.

Do you think I like cutting myself off from all this? Well, yes and no. I don't like the isolation, but keeping my children safe is what matters.

*hugs* That sort of family problem is hard to deal with. Few understand the pain of it. Most seem to think it could all be worked out. That's not always possible. Protecting yourself and your kids is always important no matter who you feel you must protect them from. It's a sacred duty.

Fury

 

[Succulent-one]

Her is something going on in Portland, Oregon.

http://www.pdxleatheralliance.org/KF2006/workshops06.html

 

[FurryFury]

Succulent-one you name and av certainly work together well!

*smiles*

Fury