Female perspective on exhibitionist tendencies

[1983ctm]

I'm going to start by saying I am a voyeur, people watcher, whatever you want to call it. I'd love walking up on somebody masturbating, or people having sex, or even just topless ladies...lol. I also love when women go out looking good(and dirty), and seeming like they know it. From a woman's perspective, does a woman usually know and enjoy the looks she is getting when she is showing a lot of skin, or clothes so tight there is nothing left to the imagination. Or are a lot of women oblivious to how good they look and the fact that a lot of men are checking them out. I enjoy walking through a store or mall, or library for that matter, where a woman looks like she wants to be noticed, and wondered if it is actually a turn on for women to catch guys looking. Add the the thread or message me with thoughts on it

 

[jehoram]

I'm going to start by saying I am a voyeur, people watcher, whatever you want to call it. I'd love walking up on somebody masturbating, or people having sex, or even just topless ladies...lol. I also love when women go out looking good(and dirty), and seeming like they know it. From a woman's perspective, does a woman usually know and enjoy the looks she is getting when she is showing a lot of skin, or clothes so tight there is nothing left to the imagination. Or are a lot of women oblivious to how good they look and the fact that a lot of men are checking them out. I enjoy walking through a store or mall, or library for that matter, where a woman looks like she wants to be noticed, and wondered if it is actually a turn on for women to catch guys looking. Add the the thread or message me with thoughts on it

My guess is that they stopped being oblivious at the moment they first grew tits. At that point, they saw a lot more guys staring at them than before. In a society where girls are pressured to be "feminine" through peer pressure or fashion magazines and other media, they know they get bonus points for being in-your-face feminine, and letting guys see a little midriff skin.

But whether they do it to attract attention to themselves or because they feel sexier or more comfortable in those clothes is hard to determine. I've heard it all those ways.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I'm going to start by saying I am a voyeur, people watcher, whatever you want to call it. I'd love walking up on somebody masturbating, or people having sex, or even just topless ladies...lol. I also love when women go out looking good(and dirty), and seeming like they know it. From a woman's perspective, does a woman usually know and enjoy the looks she is getting when she is showing a lot of skin, or clothes so tight there is nothing left to the imagination. Or are a lot of women oblivious to how good they look and the fact that a lot of men are checking them out. I enjoy walking through a store or mall, or library for that matter, where a woman looks like she wants to be noticed, and wondered if it is actually a turn on for women to catch guys looking. Add the the thread or message me with thoughts on it

Given the amount of effort, time and expense women devote to looking fabulous, I refuse to believe appreciative looks are ever unwelcome.

If only there were a way for guys to look longer without creeping girls out. Something like, "I'm not going to stalk you or worse, but I would really like it if I could take it in and 'use' it when I need relief."

My wife told me she had grown up thinking blue balls were a bullshit story guys used to get a hand or blowjob. When I told her a true story from my past about how very real the phenomenon is, she was mortified about "all the times I had been a tease." As a result, I think your average (normal) woman would smile, at least briefly, upon privately considering that maybe there is a male out there, doing what males do, with her fleeting image (office, supermarket, mall, beach) in mind. Not gonna suggest that even a significant fraction of women find that really, REALLY hot, but ladies, I wish you would: You are hot. Enjoy it.

 

[Toylovr]

Agreed. Don't you just want the "hall pass" to admire the sheer beauty of women you see when out for something as simple as groceries or walking in the mall or what ever, even that quiet lady down the hall at work. Admire their natural beauty with out creep'n them out. NO, I'm not a stalker, I am just taking in every inch of your body, the natural curves, the look of your hair, your eyes, how that blouse just sits on your breasts and the little hole that seems to pop open to tease anyone who is smart enough to enjoy that tease, that sexy bra you chose today. Yep, that one you thought no one would see, the one that makes YOU as a woman feel sexy!

The female body needs to be enjoyed, admired, loved. There is WAY too many women out there that are never told how beautiful they really are. Sad.

 

[CuttingEdge]

From a phycological point of view, they say a woman thinks about what she is wearing on average seven times per day. In their lifetime, they spend 1 year of their lives standing in front of a mirror...

Women are VERY aware what they are wearing!

As a husband or boyfriend can attest, buying a lady something to wear doesn't mean that she will wear it. If she likes it, and likes how she looks in it, its not an issue, but take something we may like, and she does not, or she does not think she looks good in, and she WILL NOT wear it outside the home no matter how much she is asked or begged too.

Interestingly, my wife has worn some very revealing clothes in public, and it was not guys that concerned her, but the hairy eyeball, and snide remarks from other women. Most guys gave an appreciative look, a few were comical in how they went about looking at her, but a few really creeped her out.

 

[GD88]

But whether they do it to attract attention to themselves or because they feel sexier or more comfortable in those clothes is hard to determine. I've heard it all those ways.

They certainly have a different mindset, if one can call it that, to wearing sexy or revealing clothes. My wife has her collection of sexy underwear, lingerie and revealing clothes. But for her, they’re things that she likes to wear because she likes it or because she finds it “cute” or because it makes her feel good rather because it’s sexy. For her, what she wears only becomes sexy because of how people (especially me) react to it.

As she likes to say “Why do you think I consult with you when I want to buy lingerie? It’s because it’s only a cute piece of clothing from where I sit and I genuinely don’t know if it’s sexy or not”.

 

[aya_amano]

As for me, if I see a man looking at my breasts, I don't mind at all.
Depending the place and situation, I will even tease a bit to see their reaction.

 

[One_ping_only]

They certainly have a different mindset, if one can call it that, to wearing sexy or revealing clothes. My wife has her collection of sexy underwear, lingerie and revealing clothes. But for her, they’re things that she likes to wear because she likes it or because she finds it “cute” or because it makes her feel good rather because it’s sexy. For her, what she wears only becomes sexy because of how people (especially me) react to it.

As she likes to say “Why do you think I consult with you when I want to buy lingerie? It’s because it’s only a cute piece of clothing from where I sit and I genuinely don’t know if it’s sexy or not”.

This is practically exactly what my wife says about her clothing and attire. From alluring sundresses, sexy short skirts to simple leggings she says she wears these article of clothing so she feels good about herself and looks " nice ".

She says she doesn't wear these things to look sexy so she'll garner leary looks of have mne ogle her though they do ...... as I do too.

I guess regardless as to why ...... she does and the attention she gets does make me proud to have her as my wife.

 

[Lucien_Al]

My wife has a particularly short golf skirt and will always wear some sexy panties underneath. She is well aware that men are looking each time she bends down and she is sure to be super wet when we leave the course.

 

[GD88]

This is practically exactly what my wife says about her clothing and attire. From alluring sundresses, sexy short skirts to simple leggings she says she wears these article of clothing so she feels good about herself and looks " nice ".

I think for all the talk about wearing sexy clothes because it feels nice rather than to be seen, women can easily switch on “exhibitionist” mode when they are trying to attract attention.

The day I met her, my wife was most definitely trying to get me to peek down her shirt. To the point that when I worked up the courage to ask her out, I was addressing her cleavage rather than her face.

 

[Dcharger]

As for me, if I see a man looking at my breasts, I don't mind at all.
Depending the place and situation, I will even tease a bit to see their reaction.

@aya_amano , I've done it / looked / ok, stared at them for moments of time of your picture. Sorry I can't help when I see something I like. Works wonders like some special SUPER Power.

 

[ned63]

As for me, if I see a man looking at my breasts, I don't mind at all.
Depending the place and situation, I will even tease a bit to see their reaction.

I love it. You don't mind a man admiring your breasts. I'd hope you give me a real good tease mmmm

 

[womaneater58]

You could tease me anytime you want.

 

[Lorelei907]

Given the amount of effort, time and expense women devote to looking fabulous, I refuse to believe appreciative looks are ever unwelcome.

Depends on whether you’re looking or leering, definitely don’t like being made to feel uncomfortable. Depends also on what I’m wearing. I can’t blame a guy for looking at my tits if they’re on full display, in which case I do appreciate the look. Or leer.

 

[Noor]

Given the amount of effort, time and expense women devote to looking fabulous, I refuse to believe appreciative looks are ever unwelcome.

If only there were a way for guys to look longer without creeping girls out. Something like, "I'm not going to stalk you or worse, but I would really like it if I could take it in and 'use' it when I need relief."

It is an economic reality that women must look nice. Yes, any look that is uninvited is not welcome. Even if a woman dresses up for a man, it’s for a specific man or men, not some guy on the street.
Using images of private women that you happen to see on the street is creepy. That is what strip clubs and porn is for, at least those women get paid for the use of their image.
There are people who like being exhibitionists, but that is a small percent of the female population. The rest would think it is at best gross to know that some guy is jacking off to their image.

 

[GD88]

Depends on whether you’re looking or leering, definitely don’t like being made to feel uncomfortable. Depends also on what I’m wearing. I can’t blame a guy for looking at my tits if they’re on full display, in which case I do appreciate the look. Or leer.

This probably captures the dynamics nicely. Was at a beach overseas years ago in my single days and was buying some food and drinks at a food stand at the same time as a smoking hot blonde in a black bikini was buying some food and drink too. Was not trying to flirt or come on to her or "pick up" but ended up having a short conversation about the weather, her holiday, my holiday. The highlight of the said conversation was the twinkle in her eye when she realized I'm stealing glances at her breasts in that bikini top. She got her food and drink first and said goodbye, putting some extra sway on her hips and looking over her shoulder one last time at me as she walked away. Friends have told me this was a missed opportunity but I think if I had been too openly trying to flirt or come on to her, she'd put up her guard and I'd get some kind of snide remark had she caught me looking.

There are people who like being exhibitionists, but that is a small percent of the female population.

My question about the term "exhibitionist": does this apply to those who say "I don't mind if people look"? I'm not talking about someone who wears something skimpy and actively looks for attention but someone who isn't necessarily looking for attention but is okay if people look at them. Would they be categorized as soft exhibitionists or something else?

 

[Noor]

This probably captures the dynamics nicely. Was at a beach overseas years ago in my single days and was buying some food and drinks at a food stand at the same time as a smoking hot blonde in a black bikini was buying some food and drink too. Was not trying to flirt or come on to her or "pick up" but ended up having a short conversation about the weather, her holiday, my holiday. The highlight of the said conversation was the twinkle in her eye when she realized I'm stealing glances at her breasts in that bikini top. She got her food and drink first and said goodbye, putting some extra sway on her hips and looking over her shoulder one last time at me as she walked away. Friends have told me this was a missed opportunity but I think if I had been too openly trying to flirt or come on to her, she'd put up her guard and I'd get some kind of snide remark had she caught me looking.


My question about the term "exhibitionist": does this apply to those who say "I don't mind if people look"? I'm not talking about someone who wears something skimpy and actively looks for attention but someone who isn't necessarily looking for attention but is okay if people look at them. Would they be categorized as soft exhibitionists or something else?

Yes, soft exhibitionists. Most people only wish to go about their day and aren’t interested in strangers checking them out.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

Guys, we’re not dressing so you can look at us.

We’re doing it for ourselves.

We realize it’s inevitable that sometimes you’re going check us out, and if you’re subtle about it—that’s okay.

But don’t act like we’re asking for it.

 

[Noor]

Guys, we’re not dressing so you can look at us.

We’re doing it for ourselves.

We realize it’s inevitable that sometimes you’re going check us out, and if you’re subtle about it—that’s okay.

But don’t act like we’re asking for it.

Yes, we don’t actually want you to, but it can be inevitable if we go outside our homes.

 

[Krigirl1233]

Isn’t it interesting that the question was asked from a female perspective and it is mostly men that answered?

 

[EStaccato]

I'm going to start by saying I am a voyeur, people watcher, whatever you want to call it. I'd love walking up on somebody masturbating, or people having sex, or even just topless ladies...lol. I also love when women go out looking good(and dirty), and seeming like they know it. From a woman's perspective, does a woman usually know and enjoy the looks she is getting when she is showing a lot of skin, or clothes so tight there is nothing left to the imagination. Or are a lot of women oblivious to how good they look and the fact that a lot of men are checking them out. I enjoy walking through a store or mall, or library for that matter, where a woman looks like she wants to be noticed, and wondered if it is actually a turn on for women to catch guys looking. Add the the thread or message me with thoughts on it

Beyond the obvious sentiment that every woman indeed person is different, I can say my personal experience is a mix.

No matter how much skin, how tight the clothes, I always want to show up looking like a take care of myself. I look for that in others, and so I assume it leads the type of person I am. Second to that is feeling attractive/cute/fashionable, but I’ll go for that. And yeah, I want people to look… but I want to be engaged on that by people that make me feel good about myself… not by people that think my body is my whole personality or that I’m just a hole to fuck. (I want to feel like a fuck toy AFTER I trust and care about you).

So, yes please notice me! And yes, catch my eye so I feel good! But please don’t approach and say something that makes me feel like I’m just icing on your cake.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Isn’t it interesting that the question was asked from a female perspective and it is mostly men that answered?

Because most porn sites are made up of men that are between 35-55 years old.

Even many that have female user-sounding names are just men posing as the other gender. Oh sure, they toss in a "my hubby" now and then to sound legit, but from their verbiage, and specific likes, they are easily spotted.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Jesus… well this is an intriguing insight into the male psyche!

Like I said, it must be tough being a guy…

Sara, just like being a woman, it has its ups and downs. Being constantly sexed up is something you deal with, some better than others, particularly from the perspective of the women in their sights. (Gentlemen versus creepers.)

In case it isn't abundantly clear, the most courteous and correct man still wonders what you look like naked.

 

[greengamegirl]

I'm going to start by saying I am a voyeur, people watcher, whatever you want to call it. I'd love walking up on somebody masturbating, or people having sex, or even just topless ladies...lol. I also love when women go out looking good(and dirty), and seeming like they know it. From a woman's perspective, does a woman usually know and enjoy the looks she is getting when she is showing a lot of skin, or clothes so tight there is nothing left to the imagination. Or are a lot of women oblivious to how good they look and the fact that a lot of men are checking them out. I enjoy walking through a store or mall, or library for that matter, where a woman looks like she wants to be noticed, and wondered if it is actually a turn on for women to catch guys looking. Add the the thread or message me with thoughts on it

I'm a narcissist. I like how I look and I'm only thinking what I think about it. It's only from my perspective.

So it depends on the self esteem of the woman. The lower it is, the more she looks for or pays attention to reactions to her looks.

 

[beckiefalwell]

I'm a narcissist. I like how I look and I'm only thinking what I think about it. It's only from my perspective.

So it depends on the self esteem of the woman. The lower it is, the more she looks for or pays attention to reactions to her looks.

I guess Miley Cyrus has low self esteem?