Female Orgasms!

[LaSalia]

So! We know men think highly of themselves if they can get their girl to have multiple Os, especially if it is followed by a gushing squirt! What I want to know, for literary research purposes, of course, is how realistic this is? Please let us know, do you have multiple Os and squirt, single Os and squirt, multiple Os and no quirts, single Os and no squirt, or just don't orgasm at all. Don't care how you achieve it, hands, lips, cock or batteries, just the end result please!

 

[mynameisben]

So! We know men think highly of themselves if they can get their girl to have multiple Os, especially if it is followed by a gushing squirt! What I want to know, for literary research purposes, of course, is how realistic this is? Please let us know, do you have multiple Os and squirt, single Os and squirt, multiple Os and no quirts, single Os and no squirt, or just don't orgasm at all. Don't care how you achieve it, hands, lips, cock or batteries, just the end result please!

I had Spaghetti O's and a Diet Squirt for dinner. Does that count?

 

[DeRaco]

Lol

I had Spaghetti O's and a Diet Squirt for dinner. Does that count?

Sounds like you need to visit a different resturant!

 

[TE999]

I had Spaghetti O's and a Diet Squirt for dinner. Does that count?

Did you have an Oh Henry! candy bar for dessert?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I was more squirty in my youth. Since then I've moved to more adult beverages. I still love my cheeriOs but they I pour lowfat milk over them.

I miss those carefree days when we had butter for our bread instead of Olive oil...

 

[DeRaco]

Don't Forget to Vote!

I was more squirty in my youth. Since then I've moved to more adult beverages. I still love my cheeriOs but they I pour lowfat milk over them.

I miss those carefree days when we had butter for our bread instead of Olive oil...

I actually got messier with age, strangely enough. I don't know if it's 'cause we're crazier, or 'cause before I was always afraid of getting caught,

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Men love to think that women's sexuality works just like theirs, even down to the 'ejaculation'.

I had a woman tell me once that she'd experienced more bad sex caused by men obsessed with making her cum than with men who were simply inept lovers.

 

[LaSalia]

Interesting

Men love to think that women's sexuality works just like theirs, even down to the 'ejaculation'.

I had a woman tell me once that she'd experienced more bad sex caused by men obsessed with making her cum than with men who were simply inept lovers.

I'd be curious to know how that went down... or didn't, anyhow! It seems possible, but I'm having a hard time picturing how it would go wrong.

 

[Handley_Page]

So! We know men think highly of themselves if they can get their girl to have multiple Os, especially if it is followed by a gushing squirt! What I want to know, for literary research purposes, of course, is how realistic this is? Please let us know, do you have multiple Os and squirt, single Os and squirt, multiple Os and no quirts, single Os and no squirt, or just don't orgasm at all. Don't care how you achieve it, hands, lips, cock or batteries, just the end result please!

If some of the sights on You Porn are anything to go by, it's very realistic.
My Ex frequently used to gush like no tomorrow.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I'd be curious to know how that went down... or didn't, anyhow! It seems possible, but I'm having a hard time picturing how it would go wrong.

We were talking about what makes a man a bad lover. Her chief complaint was that bad lovers neglect what she might want and went straight to her body, which they treated as some sort of machine they could make cum if only they could find the right buttons and switches. They'd start pushing buttons and throwing levers trying to find the combination that would get the biggest response out of her, and then they'd hang on those as if they were operating a drill press or playing a video game, expecting her to reward them with an orgasm.

Her biggest complaint was the half-hour cunnilinguist. Cunnilingus almost always gets a big response out of a woman, so a lot of men will hang on to that muff and suck away no matter how she tried to shake them off. Often it finally hurt so much she'd fake an orgasm just to make him stop, whereupon the guy would beam like he was the world's greatest Don Juan. She called such men 'oafs'.

When I was young I was a dedicated oaf, until a lover told me there was a lot more to sex for her than orgasm. A climax was nice, but if all she wanted was to cum, she didn't need me; she could just use her vibrator. She made love with me for other reasons than getting herself off.

And now you've got a situation where a woman who doesn't squirt (and in my experience very few do) feels inferior to a woman who does, and a woman who isn't instantly and multi-orgasmic feels less of a lover than a woman who is. I even know of women who feel inferior because they can't call out "I'm cummiinnnggg!" when they do, because their orgasm robs them of breath.

So much of porn is pure bullshit. Heaven help anyone who feels they should act like the characters in our stories.

 

[lance gt]

Female orgasms start and finish in a woman's head, not in her body. Turn the mind on, the body will respond. Talent plays a big part in it, but it's the emotional connection you make with her, that stimulates her into an orgasmic state.

 

[Stella_Omega]

That is a great post, Doc

 

[Thefamiliar]

Truth be told "all of the above" applies depending on the lover, and my state of mind.

I prefer not to gush, its uncomfortable for the cuddling...but hell as long as he gushes with me its all good.

Porn = a weekend with no outside distractions. Once in a bluemoon its possible to have such sex. Lol Though watch closely most porn is faked, the woman not enjoying it half as much as she pretends to. The guys are generally functional themselves at best.

Porn has given more men a complex about sex than women in my experience. I've only had one lover ever give me multiples, and all I had to do was sit on him lol. Though with him orgasm is not the goal just the cause and effect. Its too bad it took me so dang long to figure out enjoying the moment is the difference between sex and omg you rock my world!

Everyone is different, its definitely possible a woman can gush with one and not another.

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[RodenAddison]

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[someoneyouknow]

Nice post. Biggest thing to me is communication. Stories on lit tend to make it look like everyone just automatically knows what to do at exactly the right time. Not so. I always tell the girl I'm with to let me know if I'm doing to much of one thing and also, to let me know if I'm moving on too quickly. Even if I'm involved in some racy chat, same thing. Sometimes it takes work to get them to talk. We're not psychics ladies.

If I had a dime for every time I said that, well, let's just say I wouldn't be where I'm at now.

Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE!

If you want us to go slow, tell us.

If you want us to go fast, tell us.

If you like a certain spot to be touched, tell us. And how much you like to be touched there.

If you like a certain position, tell us.

If you're like George Costanza and like to eat pastrami sandwiches while watching tv, tell us!

It may sound silly or clinical that you have to tell us what you like, but we won't know what you like unless you tell us.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Amen, guys, Amen.

But at the same time-- listen even when you don't think she's making sense, and work with her to learn your language. you gotta let her know it's worthwhile to make that attempt.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

Whenever I try to communicate, I come across as a slut. I know more about sex then the average slut my age because of this website.

I have yet to have an actual relationship. One where we on the same intellectual level, one where we trust each other, like each other, and have sex.

And one that lasts more than 24 hours would be nice.

 

[RodenAddison]

,,,,,,,

 

[RodenAddison]

... If you're like George Costanza and like to eat pastrami sandwiches while watching tv, tell us!...

Be ready to share.

 

[estragon]

Dr M, you hit a home run with this one: "So much of porn is pure bullshit. Heaven help anyone who feels they should act like the characters in our stories."

 

[estragon]

Back to the point of this thread, RedHairedandFriendly wrote a "How To" on the subject years ago. Try this:

http://www.literotica.com/s/my-take-on-writing-a-female-orgasm

 

[Handley_Page]

Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE!

It may sound silly or clinical that you have to tell us what you like, but we won't know what you like unless you tell us.

It would be of considerable benefit is we both made sure our own personal private shorthand words are translated beforehand.
Sometimes you talk a different language.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Whenever I try to communicate, I come across as a slut.

Bite your tongue, darling! You may feel like it makes you seem a slut, but if you're with anyone but a complete oaf, it actually makes you seem like a sexually aware and empowered woman. One of the sexiest things a woman can do, to my mind at least, is put her hand over mine when I'm touching her and showing me how she wants to be touched. No words, no inquiries, just -- like this! THIS is how I like it!

Personally I'm not a big fan of verbal negotiation during sex, the whole "tell me what you like" school of lovemaking, because it's really just another version of that levers-and-buttons view of a woman, only more polite. Of course you've got to be aware of your lover's responses, but within that context I'm a big believer in the power of pure selfishness during sex. I'm a big believer in doing things because you want to rather than doing them because you think they'll please your partner. I think we've all become too damn polite and considerate as lovers, at the expense of passion and real emotion.

It's the difference between going down on a woman because you think she'll enjoy it, or going down on her because you're just frantic to feel that pussy in your mouth. It's the difference between technique and emotion, and I'll take emotion every time.

 

[LaSalia]

Interesting Replies!

I guess the "communication, communication, communication" comments gives me a little more insight into throwing some more dialogue into my stories, LOL. Personally, I agree with the poster who said some women have issues because their orgasms steal their breath. Hard to talk dirty when you're breathless.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I guess the "communication, communication, communication" comments gives me a little more insight into throwing some more dialogue into my stories, LOL. Personally, I agree with the poster who said some women have issues because their orgasms steal their breath. Hard to talk dirty when you're breathless.

Not necessarily dialogue-- communication.