female dominance...

[red_head_bitch]

So for the first time I'm with a man who's into domination during sex. It's such a turn on to me, but I'm not sure how to go about being dominant towards him. Any and all tips would be greatly appreciated!

 

[KokopelliRises]

I don't have to much experience with domination (I find it quite fun though) so I don't think I'm the best person to give advice on this question, but my two suggestions are: woman on top positions and use a strict tone of voice when talking to him before having sex, telling rather than asking.

 

[Scorch34]

I'm available for practice!

 

[wicked woman]

So for the first time I'm with a man who's into domination during sex. It's such a turn on to me, but I'm not sure how to go about being dominant towards him. Any and all tips would be greatly appreciated!

Check out the BDSM forum. I'm sure you'll find some interesting stuff there.

 

[SweetErika]

I'd suggest checking out the BDSM forums, and specifically the BDSM Library sticky first. There are tons of ideas and topics to learn about in there.

Secondly, what is your partner into? There are many flavors of D/s and BDSM, and it's all about finding what works for you and you as a couple. A BDSM checklist is a good way to find out what types of things appeal to you both. I like this Excel version, but there are tons of others out there if you google. Each of you should fill it out separately, then compare and discuss them together.

I started my journey by reading a lot online and figuring out what types of things appealed to me. I like to be served both domestically and sexually, and I definitely have a sadistic streak when I'm with a masochist. I love making, finding and using toys. It's pretty easy for me to connect with my dominant side when I'm with someone who's submissive and enjoys serving me. In the beginning, it really helped for my husband to ask for permission, volunteer his "services," ask for pain, and the like (but we were coming from 8+ years of being basically egalitarian, and holding that as an ideal, which definitely made for a bigger transition).

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

You can read a synopsis of our experience here: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=501430&page=3

And this is a great website: http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html

But above all communication, trust and honesty are the keys. There is no way to know until we step onto the path what end of the whip we will truly land on and you cannot be what you discover you are not. You must be what you are. Sometimes that works out perfectly, sometimes it doesn't.

All the luck. And if you have questions you can pm me if you'd like.

 

[gregor2001us]

Communication is the most important. Everyone is different. But I will suggest something that is pretty general and is important to me as a male sub.

Be confident. Do what YOU want. Do things YOU enjoy. Don't worry about pausing and thinking. Don't worry about stopping.

Regards,