Feelings and physical needs kept separate

[Abeona1]

Can you keep physical needs separate from emotional reactions. Pinched this wording from And4778. Because it expresses something that happened to me on here. That I wasn't expecting. Came on here to release a physical need. Received some very nice attention that bought out emotional reactions. Is this because I am missing it so much at home. Is it because he just happened to say the right things. Or because he had physical attributes I was attracted to. It's like a holiday encounter. Nothing is going to come of it but it's left me emotionally confused any words of advice. Slightly worried about my mental health

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

It's definitely possible, and it happened to me.
I came to lit 3½ years ago, a few months after my husband died.
I was looking for a physical connection and found someone who satisfied my needs by way of a online situation..

When that dynamic broke up, I met a man who has changed my world!
He's interested in ME! How I think, what I feel.. And of course, he enjoys satisfying my sexual needs.

During the time in the sexual only dynamic, I numbed my feelings about my husband's death. I didn't address any feelings, and now with this man, it's been healing.
He excepts my feelings to surface in any way it needs... Anger, sadness, anxiety.
And he's never made me feel less for feeling so much!!

So, you might be needing the emotional connection from someone...
It can be very healing if it's with the right person.

 

[Abeona1]

Thank you so much for your reply so happy to know

 

[flameinsidesoul]

Can you keep physical needs separate from emotional reactions. Pinched this wording from And4778. Because it expresses something that happened to me on here. That I wasn't expecting. Came on here to release a physical need. Received some very nice attention that bought out emotional reactions. Is this because I am missing it so much at home. Is it because he just happened to say the right things. Or because he had physical attributes I was attracted to. It's like a holiday encounter. Nothing is going to come of it but it's left me emotionally confused any words of advice. Slightly worried about my mental health

Sometimes we go in seeking release and end up revealing what we’re really missing. The body may have one need, but the heart tends to eavesdrop. Maybe the real question isn’t ‘why did I feel this?’ but ‘what is it showing me about myself?

 

[JesseWallace]

It’s difficult to parcel out intimacy. There’s an intimacy which comes through physical connection and release (even if it’s just virtual) which can spill over into other areas of emotional intimacy.

I think this is quite natural, and I’ve experienced it before, but you need to accept that it’s part of the process as divorcing the physical from the emotional completely is a little naive (at least in my eyes).

Personally I embrace it, as it helps to fulfill another area of lack for me (and the other person), but it needs to be mutually understood and agreed. With that sorted, I think it can be a wonderful additive to life if it doesn’t distract you from the rest of it.

That’s my two cents anyway …

 

[h60pilot]

We come here for more than just physical needs, as @flameinsidesoul said, so recognizing that is important. For me personally, I've learned I can't separate the two and have developed very strong feelings for women I've met here; it's wild, and so much better emotionally when there's connection.