Feeling more dominant lately

[LostBabygirl3489]

So I think it's interesting that that I've had two guys ask me to dominate them and even though I was honored and pleased, I declined...mostly because of my age, I was around 17 at the time and didn't know of BDSM at the time. Even though I've never been in a dom/sub relationship, I've always found submissive tendencies in me...but I have also noticed that sometimes I like to be in control. I definitely feel like that side is coming out more now, for whatever reason...I don't like inflicting pain onto anyone. But I would definitely love to use someone as my toy...and tell him/her what a good little slut they are. And they can only come when I tell them to

I notice that I've kind of pushed away this side of me in the past but hopefully one day I can be a loving sweet mistress to someone. That'd be lovely.

 

[BiBunny]

I'd say this isn't that unusual, actually.

The older I get, the less shit I'm willing to take, and the more I want things done my way, dammit. I identified as a switch forever, but ever since I was about 29 or so, I just kinda dropped the label in favor of, like, sadomasochistic domme or something. Nowadays, the idea of even attempting to "submit"--or even just temporarily letting someone else run a scene in which I'm bottoming--is distasteful at best and enough to absolutely incense me at worst.

Just...ew. No. Shut up and do it my way, or don't bother doing it at all.

I'm not saying that you'll end up like me, obviously. Just telling you that you're definitely not alone.

 

[Kinkenglish]

I'd say this isn't that unusual, actually.

The older I get, the less shit I'm willing to take, and the more I want things done my way, dammit. I identified as a switch forever, but ever since I was about 29 or so, I just kinda dropped the label in favor of, like, sadomasochistic domme or something. Nowadays, the idea of even attempting to "submit"--or even just temporarily letting someone else run a scene in which I'm bottoming--is distasteful at best and enough to absolutely incense me at worst.

Just...ew. No. Shut up and do it my way, or don't bother doing it at all.

I'm not saying that you'll end up like me, obviously. Just telling you that you're definitely not alone.

I can almost hear you saying it! "... Shut up and do it my way.."
Interesting perspective ..

 

[BiBunny]

I can almost hear you saying it! "... Shut up and do it my way.."
Interesting perspective ..

I'm kind of the worst, TBH.

 

[Kinkenglish]

I'm kind of the worst, TBH.

Yes... Maybe ... But the honesty's good
At least you know where you stand

 

[GreyEyedAthena]

This is fascinating because while I identify as a sub, if he can't do it the way I like (after lots of communication), I'd like to take that rope out of his hands and tie HIM to the bedposts. I don't know if that makes me a switch as much as very particular about my Dom and my ropework etc.

A

 

[sexnovella]

Femdom

Is a turn on.

 

[LostBabygirl3489]

I'd say this isn't that unusual, actually.

The older I get, the less shit I'm willing to take, and the more I want things done my way, dammit. I identified as a switch forever, but ever since I was about 29 or so, I just kinda dropped the label in favor of, like, sadomasochistic domme or something. Nowadays, the idea of even attempting to "submit"--or even just temporarily letting someone else run a scene in which I'm bottoming--is distasteful at best and enough to absolutely incense me at worst.

Just...ew. No. Shut up and do it my way, or don't bother doing it at all.

I'm not saying that you'll end up like me, obviously. Just telling you that you're definitely not alone.

I think that's awesome...and I would actually love it if I did end up like you. I hope I do. I think it's sexy and in a way, empowering...

 

[J_R_Ashunwhy]

Sexuality is fluid. Don't be surprised to find yourself changing preferences, or steadfastly holding on to a one set value; everyone is different. For myself, I always dominate if my partner is another woman, but with men, it depends on their personality. If a male partner wants dominance, they have to earn it, but once they do, it's a game changer.

You may want to look into topping from the bottom: some nights, that's the best of both worlds.

 

[BabyLucy88]

I've always found I have tendencies for both. When I have a little daydream sometimes it can be me cuffing/tying someone up and then another moment they are doing the same to me. Both turn me on.

 

[Learin]

I like to be in a dominant role when someone is being all itsy-bitsy-sugary-goody-two-shoes act with me. I don't identify as a domme, but playing the part sometimes is sure fun, especially with someone who's good at being a nice sub. It has nothing to do with sexual arousal, just pure fun on my part.

 

[TomPal]

I like to be dominated! Nothing better than being under control