Feeling desired and your self-confidence

[erosman]

I've been chewing on this whole phenomenon since reading the Coveralls thread of last weekend. There is nothing quite like feeling desired. Our realities don't really change, only our perceptions of who we are.

Does the desire flow both ways? Do you receive the desire you want? Do you express the desires that you feel?

Is there any mind trip, quite like feeling someone wants to seriously fuck you...devour you? Damn, that makes you feel special, doesn't it?

 

[Jewelz]

Does the desire flow both ways? Do you receive the desire you want? Do you express the desires that you feel?
In my current real life relationship, ie my marriage, I do not receive the desire I want. But have in many ways expressed my desires, wants and needs.

Is there any mind trip, quite like feeling someone wants to seriously fuck you...devour you? Damn, that makes you feel special, doesn't it?
Of course it makes me feel special. Especially when I dont get what I need from this marriage. When someone/s are telling me they want me, fucking right Im gonna get a mind trip off of it.

 

[Olivianna]

Our realities don't really change, only our perceptions of who we are.

What's the difference between the two, really?

Is there any mind trip, quite like feeling someone wants to seriously fuck you...devour you? Damn, that makes you feel special, doesn't it?

No, there isn't anything else like it. I don't know if it does make me feel *so* special, however. How do you mean? How is this mind trip so much different from other ones (e.g. thinking you're top brainy shit, having people like you)? And on a similar note: is all self-confidence (maybe power too) rooted in sexual desire? Hmm?

 

[tswyk]

Is there any mind trip, quite like feeling someone wants to seriously fuck you...devour you? Damn, that makes you feel special, doesn't it?

Yes. Yes it does make me feel special.

It's great to feel loved and appreciated on a daily basis for what you bring to a relationship - and very important in any relationship that will last.

But that passion, that RUSH that comes when you know that you are desired, - it's an incredible high. Knowing that someone wants to FUCK me - wants to just let it all go and run full-speed ahead on feelings and not thoughts - wants to just slam me up against the wall and DO me - or pull my feet up on his shoulders and......ok, you get the picture! Just hot, sweaty, get-it-on sex, there's nothing quite like it.

I'm always surprised when it does come my way - my heart does that little "catch" thing, like when you're on that super roller-coaster and you top the highest peak and then just drop straight down...just takes my breath away!

Now, if I had to choose between the daily love and appreciation or that sexual high? That's a question for a different thread, I guess...

 

[MissTaken]

Feeling desired and desirable are wonderful feelings.

If you add love to the mixture, then it is over the top.

No, currently there is no one in my life who does this for me. There are one or two people on line who do make me feel very desirable. Not in terms of silly flirtation, but who truly feel that I am someone that they need to be with. Yes, that feeling enhances all of the good feelings I have about myself and helps minimize the negative stuff.

 

[sxychick21]

Feeling desired and desirable are wonderful feelings.

If you add love to the mixture, then it is over the top.

No, currently there is no one in my life who does this for me. There are one or two people on line who do make me feel very desirable. Not in terms of silly flirtation, but who truly feel that I am someone that they need to be with. Yes, that feeling enhances all of the good feelings I have about myself and helps minimize the negative stuff.

My thoughts exactly!

 

[Private Vasquez]

I like to be the one who sexy folk wanna fuck, but I'd rather be the bitch that everyone wants cuz she's so damn smart and cool.

 

[erosman]

Well at least some of you have similar feelings. Maybe it's a station in life. There comes a point when you are not trying to prove anything to anyone, and you just know what the fuck makes your world turn.

I like your descriptive 'catch', tswyk. There's the almost fearful hesitation that someone's desire might consume you. That what is about to happen might be cataclysmic.

I agree MissT, sxychick and Jewelz. It adds a nice flavor to our lives.

I think that it's the little difference it makes in our view of ourselves that I find fascinating. For instance, right here, in this thread, there are attitudes that can make me feel better about myself, and some that make me question my thinking or expression. The difference ends up being merely how I choose to view myself, and the catalyst is another's expression. I suppose that's too clinical.

I'm not sure of the power trip, Olivia, and it seems to go way beyond just being liked or accepted. I know self-confidence but it is related to other things that I have mastered.

 

[erosman]

I like to be the one who sexy folk wanna fuck, but I'd rather be the bitch that everyone wants cuz she's so damn smart and cool.

Aren't you both?

 

[Private Vasquez]

ssshhhh! Can't let that get out.

 

[erosman]

It's Saturday afternoon, and the party is starting. I put on some nice clothes to see if any woman will make me feel desired. I'll let you know if any grab my ass.



later

 

[Desert Amazon]