Fantasy Update

[Special1122]

So I posted about a week ago about a fantasy I have of playing the "pick up at bar" scenario with my wife. I have discussed it with her and presented her with the idea and it went as expected. She says she loves the idea and is willing to make it happen. The plan is as follows:

We're going to do it at a very classy wine bar where the crowd is mostly over 30. They have bar seating, booths, regular dining tables, and private sections that are covered with a translucent curtain. It is a restaurant during the day and at 10pm it turns into a bar with either live music or a DJ.
We have decided to do it on a Saturday as it is the busiest day of the weekend. She is going to show up first around 11pm and I will show up after just to give her enough time to get comfortable, get settled, and calm her nerves down with a cup of wine or two. I want her to wear a mini skirt cleavage revealing black dress and high open toe heels to expose her nice athletic body and nice legs.
Once I arrive, I am going to make my best to go without being noticed by her. If she has company, I am not going to interrupt as we have agreed that we will act as if we didn't know each other. She will determine when to approach me and hit on me. This is nice because it allows me to see other guys hit on her and see how she reacts to it. Should that not be the case, then I would send her a drink from the bartender, break the ice, and introduce myself. We would heavily flirt and have a couple of drinks together. At some point, I will mention that I was just stopping there to get a drink to kill some time before meeting with some friends which would be the same case for her. She is there waiting for some friends to show up. I will soon get ready to leave but will exchange numbers with her and give her a napkin with the name of the hotel I am staying which and address.
I will depart and be "on my way" to meet with my friends. 20 minutes after I depart, she will text me informing me her friends cancelled and that all the flirting, talking, and dancing got her really horny and all she could think about is my **** in her *****. I will reply to the text with "come over, the door will be unlocked" and the room number. She will then pay her tab and order a taxi to make her way to the hotel. She will text me when she steps off the taxi at the hotel. As she approaches the door she will see black piece of cloth hanging around the door knob and a note that instructs her to blindfold herself as she enters. All the lights are off and candles will be lit if allowed by the hotel management. I will approach from behind and get her tight butt against my **** and begin to seduce her and kiss her on the neck as I fondle her breasts. The room faces the ocean and has a balcony. I will then turn her around and kiss her passionately and make our way to the balcony where I will commence to play with her **** as she feels my **** getting harder and harder against her butt. She will then beg me to put her inside of her as she faces the ocean and I kiss on her neck and hold her breasts. I will start pounding her very slow at first and every now and then speed it up for a couple of times just get her hornier and wetter. We would then move into the bedroom and play some more. Eventually, all will be done, she will get up get dressed and leave. Everything will end up on a good note in order to ensure future dates. What do you guys think? Any recommendations or tweaking to the plan I am overseeing? Should tell her or buy her exactly what I want her to wear? (She usually dresses sexy and is comfortable with dressing slutty)

 

[Somehowyou]

great plan. Tweak the plan? Do this for starters and then work on variations of the theme. How about she goes to the room and there are two men? or you and another woman? Or you bring a well hung guy to surprize her? You would have to have some pillow talk to see how she would react. Also, why not go to a meat market and have her dress very provocative and put herself out there and watch her dance with other guys. Maybe go outside with them.

 

[bailadora]

Dude - you're on an erotic website. It's ok to type dick, cock, pussy, cunt, or whatever you prefer to call your (or her) genitals.

Just sayin.

Back on topic: Role playing does nothing for me - but if it gets you and yours fired up, more power to you! Have fun.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't get it. Are you planning on leaving her alone at the bar after she's had several drinks and played around with other guys while you go get a hotel room ready? If so, I think that's a terrible idea. Go buy flameless candles (which is what a hotel would allow online or at a craft store like Michaels) and whatever else you'd like for the room. Then check in and prep the room in the afternoon or early evening. Take everything both of you will need for an overnight and leave it there at that point. Then tailor your scenario so your wife gets attention from others and leaves the bar with you. Offer to drive her home the next day or whatever.

And because you're supposed to be strangers, don't overplan or overplay it. Let her pick her outfit. Let her know now that you'd be fine with her buying herself a new outfit and/or lingerie for her upcoming night of fun and you'll pack stuff for both of you for that night and the next morning.

 

[cpleluvs2watch]

this could be fun!

 

[subwannabe]

All I can say is congratulations to the two of you for wanting to keep a spark in the relationship. I hope it all works out the way you planned. People often accuse me of always being negative, which isn't actually the truth at all. I like to cover all of my bases ahead of time and sometimes that comes accross as being negative. What I am trying to say is that there is a little bit of a safety factor in your wife looking really hot, very possibly turning several guys on in a bar, and then leaving alone. It kind of reminds me of the stereotype "she must have wanted to be raped by the way she was dressed". Food for thought.

 

[Special1122]

Dude - you're on an erotic website. It's ok to type dick, cock, pussy, cunt, or whatever you prefer to call your (or her) genitals.

Just sayin.

Back on topic: Role playing does nothing for me - but if it gets you and yours fired up, more power to you! Have fun.

I know, I just wasn't sure of the rules.

 

[Special1122]

I don't get it. Are you planning on leaving her alone at the bar after she's had several drinks and played around with other guys while you go get a hotel room ready? If so, I think that's a terrible idea. Go buy flameless candles (which is what a hotel would allow online or at a craft store like Michaels) and whatever else you'd like for the room. Then check in and prep the room in the afternoon or early evening. Take everything both of you will need for an overnight and leave it there at that point. Then tailor your scenario so your wife gets attention from others and leaves the bar with you. Offer to drive her home the next day or whatever.

And because you're supposed to be strangers, don't overplan or overplay it. Let her pick her outfit. Let her know now that you'd be fine with her buying herself a new outfit and/or lingerie for her upcoming night of fun and you'll pack stuff for both of you for that night and the next morning.

I just want her to be by herself because being this our first time doing this, she would be self concious about letting other guys hit on her. It would be better if she goes in gets a glass of wine, starts mingling, then I walk in without being noticed. I'm gonna position myself somewhere where she would eventually know I'm there. If when I go in, I notice she s by herself then I won't hide my presence. I'll just go straight to the bar or near her to continue with the plan.

 

[Special1122]

All I can say is congratulations to the two of you for wanting to keep a spark in the relationship. I hope it all works out the way you planned. People often accuse me of always being negative, which isn't actually the truth at all. I like to cover all of my bases ahead of time and sometimes that comes accross as being negative. What I am trying to say is that there is a little bit of a safety factor in your wife looking really hot, very possibly turning several guys on in a bar, and then leaving alone. It kind of reminds me of the stereotype "she must have wanted to be raped by the way she was dressed". Food for thought.

Yeah I thought about that and that's exactly why I pick the place I picked. It is very classy and the crowd 30 plus.

 

[Miles Long]

Dude - you're on an erotic website. It's ok to type dick, cock, pussy, cunt, or whatever you prefer to call your (or her) genitals.

Just sayin.

Back on topic: Role playing does nothing for me - but if it gets you and yours fired up, more power to you! Have fun.

But by using **** and ***** it felt like we were playing Mad Libs or Choose Your Own Adventure!

 

[N2outdoors]

Great fantasy

Yeah I thought about that and that's exactly why I pick the place I picked. It is very classy and the crowd 30 plus.

This is one of my most frequent fantasies. I concur with her removing her panties and giving the to you; perhaps in view of another guy. Invite him over for some conversation. Let the two of them flirt a little. She can casually flash him while you play with her pussy under the table. Maybe get his phone number and when she is fully worked up excuse yourselves. Call him later and tell him how much she enjoyed his conversation while you are eating her. Let him listen in as you satisfy her completely.

 

[Special1122]

This is one of my most frequent fantasies. I concur with her removing her panties and giving the to you; perhaps in view of another guy. Invite him over for some conversation. Let the two of them flirt a little. She can casually flash him while you play with her pussy under the table. Maybe get his phone number and when she is fully worked up excuse yourselves. Call him later and tell him how much she enjoyed his conversation while you are eating her. Let him listen in as you satisfy her completely.

I need to take it slow wih her. Little bit at a time.

 

[ima6uldv8]

Yeah I thought about that and that's exactly why I pick the place I picked. It is very classy and the crowd 30 plus.

Just because they're over 30 doesn't mean something won't happen. What logic are you using in this reasoning?

 

[Special1122]

Just because they're over 30 doesn't mean something won't happen. What logic are you using in this reasoning?

I'm basing on the fact that is an expensive restaurant/bar where that average joe cannot afford. It is more than likely that the crowd is going to be of a higher class that knows boundaries.

 

[N2outdoors]

Another option

I need to take it slow wih her. Little bit at a time.

I understand the need to take it slow. Another option is to carry a remote controlled vibrator. I am speaking from experience. You maintain control of the controller and you keep her in a constant state of arousal. You allow her to climax when you deem it is right; if at all. You will both be highly charged from this. It can be done with people all around. I know! Incredible to see her straining to keep it under control.

 

[Special1122]

This wouldn't work for me. I'd want what's going to happen to be a lot less planned out, and just go with the flow and have fun with it. Good luck though, I hope it is fun for you both.

She doesnt know about the hotel part, or the part where I go in without being noticed. What else would you leave out?

 

[Special1122]

I understand the need to take it slow. Another option is to carry a remote controlled vibrator. I am speaking from experience. You maintain control of the controller and you keep her in a constant state of arousal. You allow her to climax when you deem it is right; if at all. You will both be highly charged from this. It can be done with people all around. I know! Incredible to see her straining to keep it under control.

We actually do have one and we re using it today on our datenight. We re going to dinner and have some wine. Throughout our time at the restaurant I will excite her by turning the vibrator on when deemed necessary. The excitement of us being in a public place would get her horny enough to later go on a walk at the beach and fuck her already wet pussy.

 

[ilovesex29]

Awesome... I liked the idea and kind of planning you guys have. You can spice it up more with ice play etc...

Also, if you want you can make it like a one night stand by adding twist to the story.

Dont let her leave you after sex until morning. She should leave the room while you are asleep early in the morning with a naughty note on table for you to meet next time

 

[Lord Pmann]

But by using **** and ***** it felt like we were playing Mad Libs or Choose Your Own Adventure!

I know! I read that sentence as "fist in her nose". It's more fun that way.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Yeah I thought about that and that's exactly why I pick the place I picked. It is very classy and the crowd 30 plus.

Know who is 30+?

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy

I'm mostly being facetious. But loads of creeps are 30+. Not me though. I'm 29.

 

[Special1122]

Awesome... I liked the idea and kind of planning you guys have. You can spice it up more with ice play etc...

Also, if you want you can make it like a one night stand by adding twist to the story.

Dont let her leave you after sex until morning. She should leave the room while you are asleep early in the morning with a naughty note on table for you to meet next time

It is kind of a one night stand. We are not allow to break role till we re back at home and even then we re not allowed to talk about it. After we have a wild sex, she's getting dressed and leaving. We re going to passionately kiss and say "till next time" to each other.

 

[ilovesex29]

It is kind of a one night stand. We are not allow to break role till we re back at home and even then we re not allowed to talk about it. After we have a wild sex, she's getting dressed and leaving. We re going to passionately kiss and say "till next time" to each other.

Understood... Add some dirty talk when you fuck her.... Especially when you grab her from back rubbing your dick against her butt...

 

[Special1122]

Finally happened

After months of planning and waiting for the right timing we made the role playing date at a bar happen. I brought it up months ago jotted down some rules and had her read them. The overall goal was to go out to a bar separately act like strangers and have a one night stand with each other. My personal goal was to delay my appearance have her get comfortable after having a couple of drinks and allow for some she thought was attractive hit on her and sit back and see what happened.
After many months of talking about it and both being equally excited about it, we made it happen for her birthday. I departed about 2 hours before her, checked in a near by hotel, got ready and waited for her to make her way to the bar. She had no idea about the hotel part but was well aware f everything else. She even knew that I was ok with others talking to her. She did not know about my personal goal. I got dressed at the hotel and ensured I left no trace of me being there before I left to the bar. I got to the bar parking lot well before she did and waited around in my car for her to enter. I want to go in about 45 mins to an hour after she did to ensure she got comfortable and allow others to approach her. She was dressed really sexy. She was wearing a miniskirt gray and black dress, black shiny pumps, and as I later found was wearing no undies or bra. After the 45 mins were up I entered the bar dressed in a shirt she had never seen me in because I bought on my way to the hotel. I wanted to make my best attemt of going in unoticed. As I entered I noticed her and she noticed me. She was busy being chatted up by two older men. The only problem with that was that they were way too old for her taste. I went straight to the bar and ordered a beer and just stood around analyzing the crowd. After a while I noticed she was not even a little bit interested in those men. I noticed her going to the bar and ordering a drink so I positioned myself near by in order to approach her after she got her drink which I did. We met each other and immediately she was very direct about her wanting to hang out afterwards. It was a bit unrealistic because there is no way a woman would be that straight forward from the get go. I went with it but played hard to get and told her we should exchange numbers as I was getting to meet with friends elsewhere. We exchanged numbers and I took off. That took her by surprise, I left a room key with the door guy, texted her about 30 mins later and told her if she wanted to hang out. I told her about the key, gave her the address and room number and told her to get comfortable if she got there before I did. I made my way to the hotel walked in the door and all the lights were off. We made out, I threw her on the bed and started eating her out and that when I found out she was wearing no underwear. The night was awesome and she really enjoyed the role playing. I was disappointed because my personal goal was never reached. Still, I had fun and I was glad she was open to even do it. What should I plan next? I really want to see her flirting with someone she finds attractive and possibly dance with her.

 

[jmackie]

Tried the same thing but with a different ending. I dressed my wife up all sexy with no panties and sent her in the bar. By the time I walked in she was already sitting with a well dressed younger man. I watched them get to know each other through the night and I was quite aroused. At closing she invited him to our house and she told him to follow us. She led him into our bedroom and he didn't come out until he finished several hours later. When I got to her she was shaved and full of cum. She told me she had a great time and wanted to do it again. It was my first strangers creampie.

 

[SweetErika]

Especially with all of the holidays coming up, there will be a lot of big swingers' and sex-positive/bdsm club parties. Those are what immediately come to mind if you're looking for a bunch of people who are open to meeting, flirting, dancing, and even more, in a safe, sexually-charged environment. There's certainly no rule or expectation of people doing more than they're comfortable with at good sex-positive events. So, if you and your wife decide you just want to go and take it all in visually, that's great. If you two decide additional steps (flirting, dancing, certain types of contact) are OK, great. You should obviously discuss everything you can think of and set up agreements about what is and is not OK for each of you in advance AND have a solid plan in case someone becomes uncomfortable during. Then stick to those agreements; you can always attend another event and expand your horizons if it feels right to do so in the future.

Anyway, that's where I'd take this. I would not count on finding people I'm attracted to at any event, just that I'd go and have a good time seeing the sights/doing something different with my spouse. Sex-positive folks are just regular people, so there will be events with lots of people a given guest has ZERO interest in, and some events where there's more chemistry among the guests. Unless a person decides it's really NOT their cup of tea, it's a good idea to keep checking out different groups and events to see if which might be the best fit. IME, most of the people in the sex-positive community who attend groups/events are 35+ (and the majority are in their 40s and 50s), so if you're seeking a younger crowd, you'll want to look for that type of group or party ahead of time. You can always ask group or party organizers where most of their guests typically are on the age spectrum - they should have an idea of what their main demographic is and be open to answering questions from newcomers.

You can google for groups, clubs and parties, but SwingersBoard is a great forum and you can find out about swingers parties on SwingLifeStyle (SLS Personals) as well. If you join SLS, you'll probably get invites to local parties from organizers in your area (they may or may not be good parties--putting them on is a business--so do your due diligence prior to getting your hopes up and forking over the entrance fee!). Most major cities have at least one sex-positive or BDSM club as well as swingers' clubs, and those typically have large special parties for holidays and such as well.