Fantasies...And whta they consist of.

[LadyGodiva]

What are womens fantasies and how do they compair to mens? I am asking this for my friend who is in need of help before his gf dumps him because he sux in bed.
Please help us by telling us what u would like done to you..

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

This is just my take on it.

Women fantasize about the whole package...

The way the guy presents himself,his wit, his charm. The whole personality.

If a woman asks her man to act out a fantasy, they want the WHOLE SHABANG.



On the other hand, guys fantasize about sexual situations.
"banging the secretary on the copying machine" if you will.


To boil it all down.

Woman's fantasies=physical, mental, emotional
Mens's fantasies=physical.
(I say this because I don't think a man has ever fantasized about rescuing a damsel in distress from a high tower on a horse )

 

[LadyGodiva]

He wants to know what some of your own personal fantacies are so that he can compare them to his own and meet his gf half way. that way he will be better at it..

 

[Jester]

If their going for her or his fantasies, shouldn't they go all the way and not just half?

 

[Xander]

Uhm not true QC, mens fantazies are not purely physical. Well at least not for this dude.

 

[Jester]

Yeah!!!

Xander's not the only one!

 

[LadyGodiva]

So you guy's are not all physical either?
are either of you two married?

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Xander.
Well I find that most men (maybe I just wind up with egotistical physical minded apes) fantasize about the actual SEX.....while woman (at least ME) tend to fantasize about the whole disposition of her fantasy character...



Lady Godiva, *laughing* If I related my fantasies to this poor fellow, I'm sure his g/f would run away scared. Everything about me, including what I fantasize about, seems to be off the rocker.

 

[LadyGodiva]

No Jay's gf is sweet and all but she needs something more in her sex life because it's just not doin it for her. she needs that little bit of fun in her sex life that will keep her together with him. she lost her virginity to Jay so she knows no other. thats why he wants to find a good way to get her off.

 

[Jester]

Married? Nope.

I fantasize about all of the aspects. Sure, sometimes there's an emphasis on one part or another, but they all come together! It's all good!

By the by, QC, I have actually gone with the damsel in the tower scenario! 'Course, I play D&D and read alot of fantasy, but still...

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Hmmm, well what's the girl like?

Does she like old fashion chivalry? Or is she more into the hard core thing?

Submissive or Dominant?

Does she like older men or younger?

Has he picked up on any hints? Like she once had a thing for her highschool teacher....
Or she loves it when a man licks her toes? *shrugs* Just exploring the possibilties.

I think a good old stand by is introducing something new to the bedroom seen.

toys, a creative little game...

I'd love to help, but without knowing the girl in question, it's hard to recommend a fantasy that would get her going.

 

[LadyGodiva]

Jester you have actually lived out a sexual fantasy with one fo your partners?
thats differen't usually the guy never wants to do that unless it is really weird or kinky.

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Jester....

Really? *eyes bright and wide like a kid in a toy store*

Could it be?

A true knight in shining armour, of sorts?

You don't need a horse, but climb my tower baby!

 

[LadyGodiva]

Yeah that is a first eh crystal...i never would have thought lol.
last time i wanted someone to do one of my fantasies it turned out to be a big fuckin mess.
but still he is soaking this stuff in like s sponge so keep it up eh

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Oh no Oh dear!

My guy is willing to do all my fantasies....but if it requires any acting what-so-ever, I start to giggle, because his theatre skills are about as good as jim carrey on crack in a 70's porn.

 

[goddess_euphoria]

Wouldn't it make more sence for him to ask her what she fantasizes about?

Anyway, to answer your question, I'll share my current favorite, just keep in mind I've been feeling all mushy & romantic lately. (falling leaves affect me like that for some reason)

Coming home to find a thousand candles burning, flowers every where, soft jazz wafing through the air, and a nice little romantic dinner for two. (that he made himself, containing my favorite foods) Then after a leasurly dinner, some slow dancing, a bubble bath, a full body massage, and lots of sweet, slow love making...

ok, in truth, if I were to come home and find that, first I'd wander who the hell he was (~L~ cause I'm currently single) then second I'd probably end up jumping him right there, and dinner would get cold!

 

[LadyGodiva]

That is a great fantasy...hmmmmm...me thinks i should get my b/f to do this soon! hehehe
i'll tell jay of that one too it'll give him a little insight lol.

 

[Jester]

LadyG- yeah, a couple, nothing huge or overtly deviant. I think that the problem sometimes is that it can be a little scary at first or make you feel a little foolish, but you've got to realize that this is the person that you love. You do whatever you can to make them happy. Besides, making yourself look a little foolish for your woman can be the strongest thing to make you shine in her eyes.

(all at once....) AAAAAAAAAWwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!

QC: Yes, really!
How about tin foil armor? It shines!
Sound the charge! *races to the tower with foil armor*
Just gotta find some hand holds here...

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Tin foil.

Darling I luuuuuuuuv tin foil *L*

Tell you what, to-hell with the hand holds, I'll let down my hair *giggles, feeling rather silly with too much cough syrup pulsing through her blood*

 

[LadyGodiva]

Um...crystal...gettin a little excited don't cha think?

 

[Jester]

Up, up, and away!

Here I come to save the day!!!!!!!!! lol!
*climbing quickly with my spiffy hat on cockeyed*

Verily, good maiden, thou shalt soon be free!!

By the way, did I mention that i have this thing about women's hair? Oops, too late!

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Yes, yes I am getting too excited.

*hangs her head in shame*

I can't help it.

I'm deprived.

I'm stuck at home, it's 2 am, and the drugs are making me punchy.

And then jester here gets me all turned on with his tin foil chivalry.

I'll behave.

 

[LadyGodiva]

what drugs are you on? r u in edmonton?

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Yes I am indeed in the fair city of edmonton.

"The city of champions".
Right, of course, absolutely, no doubt what-so-ever about that. *L*

As for the drugs.

They're all legal.

(p-s: ever tried a NyQuil whisky combo? )

 

[LadyGodiva]

no...whisky and nyquil works?
cool...i live in edmonton too..but i hate it here