I am in a situation where I found out that in th thirty one years of marriage I have found out that twenty six of those years have been spent with my wife and father in colusion about how to control me.
The first years of our marriage were spent with much of our lives being seperated with me being at sea on submarines. what little time I was at home with my wife we had a vert good sex life. Since I was going to spend the last six months of my time in the navy at sea I sent my wife to live with my parents. I had spent most o the preceding year at sea or away at school my wife and I had not seen much of each other anyway. My brother and I served on the same command, and he sent back letters to my parents about how I was doing. The reason I did the last six months at sea was I did one patrol on one boat then went to sea on my home command.
When I reported aboard my home command I had been away from my wife except for a two day time for two years. I was burnt out and in a very bad mood and did not realy want to be under water for three more months. I was a little more than tired and exausted and I let my mouth run when I beleived I was being unfairly treated,
My brother wrote back what I was like for that last refit, and my father told my wife that when i got out of the navy that they were going to have to control my mouth and temper when I went back to my civilian job. So my father cooked up a plan to control me though the promis of sex if I would cooperat with whatever I was told to do.
When I came home I had ten years senority at my civilian job waiting for me and I wanted to take three weeks before I went to work since I got two months leave pay upon seperation. I had already lost two monts leave time due to the needs of the navy. I told my father that I was going to take some R&R befor going back to work, but my wife and father had other ideas. My wife said that we had waited this long but I had to get our personal items moved into an apartment so I may as well go back to work. She said if I went back to work the next week we could start living our own life.
I went back to my old job that day and spent the next day moving in. All I wanted was rest rest and sex the next weekend but my job made it a 100% overtime weekend for production, my wife said that we would make time later on, and my father said be a man and buck up. i spent most of the next six months working and doing things for my family what little time I had off allways seemed to coincide with my wifes period. Sex and rest were again put on hold. This was the patern for the next tenty five years.
Three years ago I was working for FedEx when I fell out of the aft Bulk Carrier of an MD10 and bruised up my back, a staff abcess called MRSA caused the disks to be eaten up in my spine and caused my spinal cord to be crushed.
Now sex was being used as a method to get me to walk with out help of a walker or cane.
Enter my wifes old boyfriend who I will call Nick, he showed up one day and she went with him for a day without me agreeing to her doing so. She shows up the next morning with Nick. I end up in a stress center by court order. Nick has a cocusion and my wife is still crying about how she also had to deny herself due to me needing to be controled. She says she is sorry and willing to do anything for my forgivness but she needed somthing to.
I asked what about my needs and my father was there, he answered for her, what about your needs, he asked. You don't need anything, you just need to do as you are told and shut up and stop whining. You wernt bought into this world to have it easy you are to do as you are told and shut your trap and be a man. I thrue my father out of my home and told him he could do without whatever help I am able to give. My mother called and asked what had happened and I told her of what my wife had done and the words my own father had for me.
My mother could not beleive what she heard from my father for the next hour, and she told my father that I desearved a profound apology from many people. As for myself I will no longer allow anyone to control me. My wife will be a proper wife now or she can leave. My father can stay away. My mother begs me to come out and talk it over.
The first years of our marriage were spent with much of our lives being seperated with me being at sea on submarines. what little time I was at home with my wife we had a vert good sex life. Since I was going to spend the last six months of my time in the navy at sea I sent my wife to live with my parents. I had spent most o the preceding year at sea or away at school my wife and I had not seen much of each other anyway. My brother and I served on the same command, and he sent back letters to my parents about how I was doing. The reason I did the last six months at sea was I did one patrol on one boat then went to sea on my home command.
When I reported aboard my home command I had been away from my wife except for a two day time for two years. I was burnt out and in a very bad mood and did not realy want to be under water for three more months. I was a little more than tired and exausted and I let my mouth run when I beleived I was being unfairly treated,
My brother wrote back what I was like for that last refit, and my father told my wife that when i got out of the navy that they were going to have to control my mouth and temper when I went back to my civilian job. So my father cooked up a plan to control me though the promis of sex if I would cooperat with whatever I was told to do.
When I came home I had ten years senority at my civilian job waiting for me and I wanted to take three weeks before I went to work since I got two months leave pay upon seperation. I had already lost two monts leave time due to the needs of the navy. I told my father that I was going to take some R&R befor going back to work, but my wife and father had other ideas. My wife said that we had waited this long but I had to get our personal items moved into an apartment so I may as well go back to work. She said if I went back to work the next week we could start living our own life.
I went back to my old job that day and spent the next day moving in. All I wanted was rest rest and sex the next weekend but my job made it a 100% overtime weekend for production, my wife said that we would make time later on, and my father said be a man and buck up. i spent most of the next six months working and doing things for my family what little time I had off allways seemed to coincide with my wifes period. Sex and rest were again put on hold. This was the patern for the next tenty five years.
Three years ago I was working for FedEx when I fell out of the aft Bulk Carrier of an MD10 and bruised up my back, a staff abcess called MRSA caused the disks to be eaten up in my spine and caused my spinal cord to be crushed.
Now sex was being used as a method to get me to walk with out help of a walker or cane.
Enter my wifes old boyfriend who I will call Nick, he showed up one day and she went with him for a day without me agreeing to her doing so. She shows up the next morning with Nick. I end up in a stress center by court order. Nick has a cocusion and my wife is still crying about how she also had to deny herself due to me needing to be controled. She says she is sorry and willing to do anything for my forgivness but she needed somthing to.
I asked what about my needs and my father was there, he answered for her, what about your needs, he asked. You don't need anything, you just need to do as you are told and shut up and stop whining. You wernt bought into this world to have it easy you are to do as you are told and shut your trap and be a man. I thrue my father out of my home and told him he could do without whatever help I am able to give. My mother called and asked what had happened and I told her of what my wife had done and the words my own father had for me.
My mother could not beleive what she heard from my father for the next hour, and she told my father that I desearved a profound apology from many people. As for myself I will no longer allow anyone to control me. My wife will be a proper wife now or she can leave. My father can stay away. My mother begs me to come out and talk it over.
