False pretenses..?

[daizyduke77]

When messaging someone on here, are you always honest about what you’re looking for? I mean, some say chat and friendship and then it’s all about sex constantly. Just a question.

 

[HardJeremy]

I suppose it depends on the person and the connection you establish. There are people I've talked to here that it's all been dirty talk, but there are also those that I've established long, deep connections with (no innuendo there). Some view friendship as hurdle to go over to get to dirty talk, and that's what they are here for, others are just searching for that connection with somebody. It's hard to see which is which, and sometimes you start with the intention of one and end up with the other.

 

[The_Mafioso_1]

I’m interested in having sexual and non sexual conversations with you. I’m new to this site and wouldn’t mind chatting with ladies such as yourself. Feel free to send me a pm if you’d like.

 

[daizyduke77]

I suppose it depends on the person and the connection you establish. There are people I've talked to here that it's all been dirty talk, but there are also those that I've established long, deep connections with (no innuendo there). Some view friendship as hurdle to go over to get to dirty talk, and that's what they are here for, others are just searching for that connection with somebody. It's hard to see which is which, and sometimes you start with the intention of one and end up with the other.

I completely agree. I’m saying, if someone says they want to build a friendship or trust first, don’t agree to it if you aren’t going to follow through.

 

[jamesmacmillan]

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[Parmajack]

Mostly too honest

I am too damn honest...could get me i big time trouble!

 

[Crownvic]

I completely agree. I’m saying, if someone says they want to build a friendship or trust first, don’t agree to it if you aren’t going to follow through.

I loved dukes of hazard years ago....and I think you know why?.....the name daisy duke always gets a rise....

 

[Grumplestiltskin]

When messaging someone on here, are you always honest about what you’re looking for? I mean, some say chat and friendship and then it’s all about sex constantly. Just a question.

With your profile pics I’d definitely be thinking about sex

 

[daizyduke77]

With your profile pics I’d definitely be thinking about sex

And you see, that’s fine. Just be honest about it up front. That’s the point I’m trying to make here mister.

 

[daizyduke77]

I loved dukes of hazard years ago....and I think you know why?.....the name daisy duke always gets a rise....

Lol. She sure was a looker wasn’t she?

 

[TastySuckToy]

When messaging someone on here, are you always honest about what you’re looking for? I mean, some say chat and friendship and then it’s all about sex constantly. Just a question.

I thought it was a well known fact to women that men have two heads but only enough blood to run one at a time?

 

[legion1054]

When messaging someone on here, are you always honest about what you’re looking for? I mean, some say chat and friendship and then it’s all about sex constantly. Just a question.

I completely agree. Although things can evolve, depending on the vibe of the connection. Hell I’ve had chats go from light to heavy innuendo, to flat out sexting... then back to talking about coffee.

 

[daizyduke77]

I thought it was a well known fact to women that men have two heads but only enough blood to run one at a time?

 

[daizyduke77]

I completely agree. Although things can evolve, depending on the vibe of the connection. Hell I’ve had chats go from light to heavy innuendo, to flat out sexting... then back to talking about coffee.

I agree.

 

[MEbullmoose]

Honesty

I can’t speak about anyone else, I am still new to this site. However, I am looking for an honest relationship. No joking aside, my view as a Dom is if I cannot be honest then how is a submissive growing to trust me. I am into TPE, without safe words, and only one hard limit. Not to abuse her physically or mentally. Yes, there may be some agreement on some pain but nothing that would send her to the ER.

With that said I am cautious with who I talk to. I want to get a feel for them as a person. To make sure they can handle what I am looking for. Yes, I have met several nice gal’s, but uncovered some emotional past that stops them for what I like. Nothing wrong with them just hit a barrier that they struggle with. So going back to my hard limit I sometimes have to request they seek help.

We all have issues but being honest should not be one.

 

[TastySuckToy]

We all have issues but being honest should not be one.

One of the best parts about honesty is not wasting time trying to remember lies.

 

[SluggerOToole]

One of the best parts about honesty is not wasting time trying to remember lies.

Well said! I am with others that I may be just too open of a book. And if you have questions when chatting with me, just ask.

 

[TastySuckToy]

Well said! I am with others that I may be just too open of a book. And if you have questions when chatting with me, just ask.

The thing about honesty is it doesn't mean being an open book either. Nothing stops me from saying something like "Don't want to talk about", "Rather not say" or "None of your business", etc.

I strive to be as absolutely honest as possible, but get amused when others think this means I will answer any and every question or get pinned down on a subject.

 

[MEbullmoose]

The thing about honesty is it doesn't mean being an open book either. Nothing stops me from saying something like "Don't want to talk about", "Rather not say" or "None of your business", etc.

I strive to be as absolutely honest as possible, but get amused when others think this means I will answer any and every question or get pinned down on a subject.

This is true! Being honest doesn't mean you answer every question. However, we can lie by omitting information. If a question is to personal and could cause harm them stating that is personal and I would rather not go into it at this time. This would imply the more we build trust the more open I will become.

 

[Jada59]

I'm honest but I'm actually not looking for anything. Things just sort of find me. O don't go looking.

 

[Grumplestiltskin]

And you see, that’s fine. Just be honest about it up front. That’s the point I’m trying to make here mister.

Are you flirting with me?

 

[AlexGosford]

I'm honest about what I'm looking for.

If I just wanted a quick sexting session I'd be on Lit Chat (and sometimes I am), but I'd prefer to develope a deeper connection through prolonged conversation. Ultimately I want a sexual dimension to that connection, but (in my opinion) sex without the connection is missing something.

 

[Booboobear84]

Sample bias

While a fair question, your not going to get good answers. The honest folks will answer and the dishonest ones won’t. While I can have sex without a connection, it’s not long term sustainable for me. I prefer to know someone before going hot and heavy. I also find that it turns into less sex and more friendship over time. Not lack of sexual interest but interest in the person takes over.

 

[thralin68]

Lie, no lie?

I dont think youd need to lie. If you find the right subforum
, you should be able to find what you want. For example,
You seem like youd be as lot of fun to talk to, Daizy!

 

[CleverCowardice]

I'm not looking for anything and I very rarely message anyone on here unless I already have an established relationship with them - sometimes not even then. And, because I'm a man, I almost never receive messages that aren't replies to something I've sent. (I can recall only three instances in my years here where someone else initiated contact, and only one of those evolved into a series of conversations beyond that initial exchange.) So, while I'm always honest, if somewhat elusive, I find being honest about my intentions to be a non-issue.