Falling for someone you've never met?

[Belilica]

Is it possible to love someone you've never met? There's someone I met online and have been corresponding with for as long as I've been on Lit pretty much. He's a great guy, but much older than me, married, and has kids. I know nothing will ever come out of it or anything, but really, am I just messed up? Every time I get an e mail from him or get an IM from him I get butterflies in my stomach. Usually this type of thing goes away after a while (with me anyways) and it just becomes friends corresponding. Has anyone else ever had something like this happen before?

Bel

 

[juicylips]

Happens to me all the time.

I fall in lust quite frequently. I also fall out of it rather fast too.

You're perfectly normal. At least by my standards..lol

JL

 

[Native Alien]

sounds to me like juicylips hit the nail on the head. plus if you add the excitement of a new relationship, even if it is online, there are those butterflies.

 

[Lust Engine]

Bel...

Nothing wrong with being excited every now & then! You seem to keep it all in perspective by stating that nothing will come of it. You're more than normal m'dear! You've always struck me as a person who's firmly grounded.

 

[blancskies]

Its happened to me more than once !

 

[dreamer]

I know nothing will ever come out of it or anything,

I think as long as you know and believe this you're fine. It's when you lose that perspective things could get weird.

We all make decisions with out hearts sometimes. The best I've been able to figure out it no matter what to not doubt yourself. If your gut tells you something listen to it. Don't be afraid of feeling. Even when it's terrifying...

oh sheesh...I'm associating too much Anyhow best of luck.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

lord, it happens all the time. Although I do truly fall in love. I do invest my heart with some people.. take TB4p for example.

 

[SexyChele]

lord, it happens all the time. Although I do truly fall in love. I do invest my heart with some people.. take TB4p for example.

You know, Vix, I have been much admiring every AV you've been putting up - you truly are a beautiful woman.

But this AV? Damn, girl! I say this about very, very few women here at Lit, but I think I'm hoplessly in lust!

*Sorry, just had to get that out!*

 

[Ms_Lilith]

You know, Vix, I have been much admiring every AV you've been putting up - you truly are a beautiful woman.

But this AV? Damn, girl! I say this about very, very few women here at Lit, but I think I'm hoplessly in lust!

*Sorry, just had to get that out!*

Wow! Thanks, Chele! From you, that's a hell of a compliment!

There's a full-sized pic of it in my pic thread... I loved it so much, I had to post it as an av

 

[SexyChele]

Is it possible to love someone you've never met? There's someone I met online and have been corresponding with for as long as I've been on Lit pretty much. He's a great guy, but much older than me, married, and has kids. I know nothing will ever come out of it or anything, but really, am I just messed up? Every time I get an e mail from him or get an IM from him I get butterflies in my stomach. Usually this type of thing goes away after a while (with me anyways) and it just becomes friends corresponding. Has anyone else ever had something like this happen before?

Bel

Bel, I think it's the newest phenomenon with the technological world we live in today. I don't fall in lust quite that easily, but it has happened more in the past year than at any time in my life.

I think a lot of it has to do, for women at least, with the idea of exchange of ideas and emotions. Yeah, us ladies can be pretty shallow when it comes to looks, but emails and IMs can show a caring and understanding we don't get when we see some one casually in a store or other public place.

As long as you BOTH keep this in perspective, just enjoy those "butterfly" feelings! (Just keep in mind that YOU might be thinking "it isn't going any further than this", but HE may have different ideas. Just a thought!)

 

[sweetlittleass]

Hmmm... me too...

I can definately say that this is currently happening to me. I've met a certain someone here, and am definately falling long and hard for him. How can I not with the deep, dark, mysterious eyes and sensual smile he keeps flashing me?!?! We've revealed that we are in the same situation, and are meeting in September when I travel to see him... god I can't wait!

I'm posting here, cause he is away from his computer this afternoon and I miss him terribly. We were up very late togther last night talking about everything... we seem to be soulmates.

If we were just closer geographically, and in different situations in our lives, I'd jump the island to be with him I think...


Baby

and he gets my

 

[peachykeen]

I fall in love or at least lust here almost every day. A handful of my 'playmates' I have grown well fond of. But I also adore my husband to the ends of the earth and will never put myself in a position to break his heart. I let the people I correspond with bring out whatever it is in me that is reponding to their personality and try to see what I can learn from that, and what I can offer them within the boundaries.

 

[sirhugs]

Love is a many splendoured thing. I think the love we find at Lit differs from love in real space, but is equally real. I wonder though, how many people really can translate from this reality to the physical. At Lit , we are the best we want to be. In rl, we have more warts. Proceed with caution.

 

[Different Guy]

I fell for a girl about a year ago in America. (I'm in England by the way) We chat, mail and send each other stuff in the post. We're so right for one another and fell in love. A great love where I would stay online chatting till 4am unable to leave her. Although we hope to meet someday, the chances of it soon are minimal.

She went through a boyfriend, and I have my current partner who I love. But there's always going to be my love for my friend in America, a different kind of love where miles upon miles apart mean nothing and is someone I care about dearly.

We're there for one another every night and it's a relationship that can never be broken...

 

[ma_guy]

Love? hmmm.. I don't know... I've met several women on-line..

Have I been captivated? Entranced? Smitten? Lustful? Yes, for sure!

Love? No.. To me love is a very serious step and to get there I would have to be able to touch, smell and see the person. It wouldn't have to necessarily be sexual but I couldn't feel "love" without being able to look into her eyes... See the expressions on her face when she talks... Feel the warmth of her next to me...

You can get a sense of a persons intellect from their writing. You can see what they look like from a picture. But there still is no electronic version of non-verbal, emotional expression. I'd need to connect on all 3 to find love.

 

[Belilica]

Thanks all you amazing Lit people, you! It's good to know that I'm not a freak or anything. I fall in lust with quite a few people I've talked to on here (I must admit there are a few of you on this thread that I can count amongst them) but this is different. I think it is possible... but I can also see how ma_guy sees things. If we met in real life, I mean, who knows. We've discussed it, hell, I've even written stories about it (so has he). I guess the fantasy is always better than the reality of things.

On a good note tho, I'm starting to recover from the emotional crap I was wading earlier, I took a lot of people's advice on here and moved on with my life. For then, as well as now, thanks!

Bel

PS I just realized.... there are only two things I consistently consult when I have a problem... my tarot cards are the other.

 

[teddybear4play]

lord, it happens all the time. Although I do truly fall in love. I do invest my heart with some people.. take TB4p for example.

No, don't take me. I want vix to keep me. She likes having me around.

you, babydoll.

TB4p

 

[Ms_Lilith]

No, don't take me. I want vix to keep me. She likes having me around.

you, babydoll.

TB4p

you too, sweetheart...

god I miss you. Can't explain it, but I do...

 

[intrigued]

I'm happy to hear that you, personally, have reached a level of comfort in this. But I want to add a couple thoughts anyway.

Just remember that as long as you continue with it, it can deepen...can you handle that?
Also, internet interactions are so very intense, and that intensity can develop rather quickly. For anyone reading this, don't confuse it for the feelings necessary and unique to "in person" relationships, you could be very hurt and disappointed.
I've had many internet interactions, and have always been stunned by just how intense they are, and yes, those feelings are real. When I interact with someone, I often feel so close to their mind and heart, and to me, while its a beautiful thing, it only makes me want to be closer to them, so in the end, its just not very fulfilling for me.
I look at these relationships as springboards to "in person"...they cannot survive satisfactorily online only, unless all you're looking for is a few thrills. If so, you're in the right place....

I admire those of you that can handle these online romantic interactions and keep them just that. I've never been able to get what I need out of them, and I finally just stopped trying.

 

[sirhugs]

I'm happy to hear that you, personally, have reached a level of comfort in this. But I want to add a couple thoughts anyway.

Just remember that as long as you continue with it, it can deepen...can you handle that?
Also, internet interactions are so very intense, and that intensity can develop rather quickly. For anyone reading this, don't confuse it for the feelings necessary and unique to "in person" relationships, you could be very hurt and disappointed.
I've had many internet interactions, and have always been stunned by just how intense they are, and yes, those feelings are real. When I interact with someone, I often feel so close to their mind and heart, and to me, while its a beautiful thing, it only makes me want to be closer to them, so in the end, its just not very fulfilling for me.
I look at these relationships as springboards to "in person"...they cannot survive satisfactorily online only, unless all you're looking for is a few thrills. If so, you're in the right place....

I admire those of you that can handle these online romantic interactions and keep them just that. I've never been able to get what I need out of them, and I finally just stopped trying.

connie, you are always thrilling
your pic thread is awe instilling

 

[oceanbaby28]

Is it possible to love someone you've never met? There's someone I met online and have been corresponding with for as long as I've been on Lit pretty much. He's a great guy, but much older than me, married, and has kids. I know nothing will ever come out of it or anything, but really, am I just messed up? Every time I get an e mail from him or get an IM from him I get butterflies in my stomach. Usually this type of thing goes away after a while (with me anyways) and it just becomes friends corresponding. Has anyone else ever had something like this happen before?

Bel

Yes, it is very possible.

July 99 I had just signed onto this thing the internet and after some poking by a friend I decided to take a peek into the chat rooms. He was one of the first ppl I met on there. We started off purely as friends. Before you knew it there was more there. We spoke just about every day. He sent flowers, poems, surprises all the time. I baked him cookies and sent him things I thought he'd laugh at or enjoy. We had a routine... every monday he'd call. We'd spend hrs on the phone. Just talking and enjoying each other. After a yr we met face to face and it was better than perfect. It was like we'd always known each other. Even though things were perfect... there was Real Life to contend with. Unfortunately it just wasn't possible for us to share a life together. We've since parted, honestly though, he will always always have a piece of my heart.

Belilica, enjoy your friendship/love for all that it is and savor the memories. They will always be there.