Facials. Re: Do Women Like It When ..

[Starfire]

Ok, a Guest asked if women really like it when a man cums over their face - there were respomses ranging from "Yessss" to "Ewwww"!

What I want to know guys is ... Why do we get such a kick out of it? Is it a Power thing?

Ladies - Your thoughts on why men like it would be appreciated too!

(Hmmmm. an interesting sociological study looms!)

 

[paula and bob]

It justs looks so damm hot watch the cum splash over my lovers lips and cheeks

 

[cymbidia]

I think the act of ejaculating on his partner's face is all about power and control, his of the one on whom he's cumming. To my mind, an extension of the cum-on-her-face thrill, is piss play in all it's incarnations.

Of course, my bias on the subject of power and control within sexual relationships is pretty obvious and well-know, is it not? Please feel free to discount my opinions because of that.

 

[Starfire]

I think the act of ejaculating on his partner's face is all about power and control, his of the one on whom he's cumming. To my mind, an extension of the cum-on-her-face thrill, is piss play in all it's incarnations.

Of course, my bias on the subject of power and control within sexual relationships is pretty obvious and well-know, is it not? Please feel free to discount my opinions because of that.

Paula and Bob - Thank you - yes it is exciting to watch.

Cymbidia - I know nothing of your "bias" as I have only been here for a short while, but will endeavour to find out now! The extension of this discussion into piss-play is something I have not considered, but I take your point entirely.

I have more points but do not want to detract from people's thoughts and opinions on the original topic at this early stage.

Thanks for your replies.

 

[Mischka]

Why would anyone discount your opinion because of your bias, cym? We are all biased, in one direction or another.

I agree that power and domination play a role in facials. I also wonder if the simple visual impact does not appeal to many guys.

 

[Pan718]

Is the pleasure (in many cases) any different than the pleasure a woman gets in seeing a man crawl out from between her thighs with his cheeks dripping wet...?

While for some it's about domination and power over, I think for others it's the sheer thrill of a partner getting so totally involved in the sexual experience... For men or women, like finding a partner who really loves the way you taste...

 

[patient1]

I think the act of ejaculating on his partner's face is all about power and control, his of the one on whom he's cumming. To my mind, an extension of the cum-on-her-face thrill, is piss play in all it's incarnations.

Of course, my bias on the subject of power and control within sexual relationships is pretty obvious and well-know, is it not? Please feel free to discount my opinions because of that.

Cymbidia & I are quite opposite when it comes to sexual predilections. Even so, I think she's right.

I have no interest whatsoever in this kind of activity. Having read
countless stories here, I suspect much of the attraction is :

1)in seeing what lengths of behavior that she finds disgusting & degrading she will go to in order to please me.

2) in the case of non-consent, simply power, control, & total domination.

But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

 

[Starfish]

Okay, I am not a man.

However, I do have an opinion. I think it just has to do with it looking sexy. It certainly isn't about feeling, because there is no special feeling associated with jizzing on a face, over any other body part. It seems to be more of an esthetic appeal than anything.

I am into it because it feels sexy. Also, if I rub it all over my face, and let it dry a bit, then rinse it off, it seems to make my face silky feeling, with a nice firmness. Maybe they should sell it in bottles in the cosmetic asile.

 

[Starfire]

Interesting thoughts ...

Once again we get a varied and illuminating response ...

Mishka - you ask about the number of guys who are not turned on by the "simple visual impact". I look forward to hearing their replies.

Pan - the thrill cannot be discounted.

Patient1 - are you saying that the enjoyment a guy gets from giving a facial is "disgusting and degrading"? Does this discount those women who do enjoy it? (See Starfish) You second point cites "total domination"!. Aren't the two connected in some way? If it is consensual then is it also degrading? You also say "I could be wrong". I don't think there is a right and wrong in this - I value your honest opinions.

Starfish - Where does you excitement come from when receiving a facial? Does it give you physical or mental pleasure?

Thank you all for your responses. I have to go for a while now. Look forward to reading more.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I asked a male friend about this while I was reading the other thread. Asked him if he'd ever had a woman that wanted him to do that, and if the idea of cumming on a woman's face turned him on.

His response...

"i think a girl who is excited about all aspects of sex and is not afraid to show or ask for it is a real big turn on" [but] "the whole facial thing is not that exciting to me"

Like me, he doesn't understand the eroticism. I'd rather a guy was cumming in one of my various orifices than wasting it all on my face. To him, the thought of leaving a bit of himself behind in the woman is a big turn-on, so it also seems a waste to him.

Anyway, just weighing in for a guy who doesn't think it's all the films make it out to be. And for my $.02, I agree with the folks that said it's an act of control. Perhaps that's the other reason I don't particularly like it, it makes me feel more than a little bit used. And not in a good way.

 

[Starfire]

Thanks Pagan...

I agree with you about the "orifices" thing - my preference entirely. Thanks again for your honesty. I guess what I am really after here is an answer to the unanswerable - Men like it but few are prepared to say why; some women like it because ....? Many women dislike it because it is subjection, unerotic, unpleasurable?? I don't know.

Do you think it has become more of a "desire" amongst males due to the emphasis on the "money shot" in pornos?

 

[Ezzie]

I personally wouldn't let or ask a man to do that to me. That's my own power issues shining through, though. I don't go around putting my bodily fluids on their faces (Unless of course it is something THEY themselves choose to do) on them and I ask for the same respect in return. Hell, I don't even like watching it done in porn movies.

Looking at it from the other side however, I can see how a man or a woman for that matter might find it to be a really big turn on. Trust is a big issue when it comes to me and sex, and I think you really have to trust someone to let them do something like that to you. It's a kind of trust I don't have with anyone nor do I want to have it.

Just my take on the situatiion.

 

[Animal2]

Like it when

It is a total pleasure thing, with an underlying sense of power on the womens side, maybe.My last girlfriend said that she likes the feel of the warmth, the smell and the actual spurt, just before it hits her face. Total pleasure. Then, by playing with the cum she shows just what she can do to a man, 'I've done that, and I can make you do it againdo it again'
Saying that, after the 3rd time I,m Knackered and don't give damn.

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Interesting thoughts ...

Patient1 - are you saying that the enjoyment a guy gets from giving a facial is "disgusting and degrading"? Does this discount those women who do enjoy it? (See Starfish) You second point cites "total domination"!. Aren't the two connected in some way? If it is consensual then is it also degrading?

Excuse me while i scream here in the privacy of my own home...
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!

1. Patient1 has proved to be one of the most open and fair minded people i've met to date in my life, vr or rt. Don't lock him in some kinda 'name-caller' box, please.

2. What the fuck does consensuality have to do with degradation or domination? Can anyone draw me any parallels between the three that point to one of the people not having a good time?

Yes, there are people who consent to have what others think of as degrading sex with someone who dominates them, at least sexually. But both those people are having a good time, are they not? They're getting what they need from the encounter. Who are we, on the outside, to judge the value of such an experience to them? As long as no one is trying to make me do (see, hear, smell, taste, etc) something that i don't want to do, i could give a flying fuck what's going on in that other bedroom.

Please don't belabor your points and shepherd your thread to such an extent, Starfire, that you pull people's words so far out of context they become something far different than what was intended.

Good topic, btw.

 

[patient1]

Re: Interesting thoughts ...

Patient1 - are you saying that the enjoyment a guy gets from giving a facial is "disgusting and degrading"? Does this discount those women who do enjoy it? (See Starfish) You second point cites "total domination"!. Aren't the two connected in some way? If it is consensual then is it also degrading? You also say "I could be wrong". I don't think there is a right and wrong in this - I value your honest opinions.

Right/ wrong - the point is this is pure speculation based on reading stories that include it, etc. The practice doesn't appeal to me. I have my penetration instincts.

Yes , whether it's consensual, or non-consensual, I think that the
appeal is primarily domination.I differentiate the scenarios because I think the meaning of the act is different.


scenario 2) non-consent- I don't have anything good to say about non-consent. Enough said.

scenario 1) consent:



In no way was I implying a judgement on the people who participate in or enjoy this practice I think it's a sort of test, or symbolic act, that demonsrates the depths of her love, or the heights of her lust, for the fellow, because it's extremely one-sided. He orgasms, she becomes a mess. His pleasure, her inconvenience.

If she finds it repulsive, yet still does it, that just makes it more of a selfless sacrifice for love/lust. If she welcomes the opportunity, I can identify with the pleasure & pride a person takes in every opportunity to please their beloved.

In a sense it's probably in the same category as a fellow tonguing her holes because it makes her happy when he finds the scent/flavor objectionable. She'll probably love him for it, & he'll appreciate the opportunity to demonstrate his affection. The selfless inconvenience of one person for the other as a display of affection.

Maybe Mischka has a point. Men are vissually stimulated, the practice alows them to watch them selves cum in a partner context. Also, it could make them feel like a porn-star with an adoring phallus worshiper.

Does that help clarify it?

AMMENDMENT FOR PURPOSES OF CLARIFICATION: I don't consider BDSM non-consent.

 

[fallon2]

What cymbidia said

I agree with everything cymbidia said. I also agree that what works for two people is very cool if it gives them mutual pleasure.
If women squirt and men enjoy that does that mean THAT is wrong? Again, it goes back to what two people enjoy.
In real life pleasure can be an elusive object and that is why real moments of true happiness are far and fleeting. For real pleasure both parties need to be in agreement about the needs that each person has.
Definitely an interesting thread.

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Re: Interesting thoughts ...

AMMENDMENT FOR PURPOSES OF CLARIFICATION: I don't consider BDSM non-consent.

That's because it's not, darlin'.

BDSM and non-consensual sex are totally opposite kinds of activities.
BDSM is always consensual. From it, both partners derive extreme pleasure and need-fulfillment.
Abusive relationships are never consensual. In them, one partner is left feeling helpless, sad, or powerless to voice thier needs for fear of some kind of retribution.

A good BDSM relationship is relationship before it's BDSM. It's composed/comprised/manufactured/grown out of all the emotional commitments, dreams, and plans that are inherent in any human love relationship. Good BDSM relationships are as opposite non-consensual relationships as anything can be.

 

[WhiteRose]

This is not something I'm into. If he wants to come on my breasts or my tummy or right on my clit *g* YAY! But not on my face. It would feel too degrading, but that's just ME. Everyone has things that turn them on and turn them off, and there's no right or wrong about this, you just have to have open communication with your partner about what those things are. I watched a porno once where the guy came on the woman's face, and she spent the next 3 minutes trying to get it out of her eyelashes. No thanks...

 

[StrangeLuv]

My two cents

I adore having my lover cum on my face. To the feeling of being showerd in his essence is profoundly erotic. I don't feel degraded or used... I feel euphoric. The only down side to me is that I love to taste him even more than I love wearing him so I am kinda torn between my face and my mouth.

Kisses,
Me

 

[patient1]

Re: Re: Re: Interesting thoughts ...

That's because it's not, darlin'.

BDSM and non-consensual sex are totally opposite kinds of activities.
BDSM is always consensual. From it, both partners derive extreme pleasure and need-fulfillment.
Abusive relationships are never consensual. In them, one partner is left feeling helpless, sad, or powerless to voice thier needs for fear of some kind of retribution.

A good BDSM relationship is relationship before it's BDSM. It's composed/comprised/manufactured/grown out of all the emotional commitments, dreams, and plans that are inherent in any human love relationship. Good BDSM relationships are as opposite non-consensual relationships as anything can be.

Agreed I think this appendix clarifies our previous posts pretty well.

 

[Marxist]

Ok, am I the only one who saw Fishie getting a faceful? I know, you've seen it before, but damnit everytime I see her like that.......


I'll be back in 10, 15 minutes tops.

 

[Pan718]

Smiling...

Maybe they should sell it in bottles in the cosmetic asile.

You know fishie... You're a lady I'd enjoy just hanging with! Bring the Sig-O and some tunes and party at my place anytime... Just love your enthusiastic sense of life.

Pan

 

[cymbidia]

Ok, am I the only one who saw Fishie getting a faceful? I know, you've seen it before, but damnit everytime I see her like that.......

I saw it.
I'm envious.
I want some of what she got...

 

[SempreAngela]

My lover/s do it because I ask them to. It turns me own. I love licking it as it drips down my face and it turns me on even more when my lover licks it from my face too. And it is GREAT for the skin and hair, btw.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

I must comment!

First of all, I love it. After my husband does it, we both run to the bathroom to look in the mirror, ooh and aah, and then we laugh - WOW HEE HEE!!!!!!!! It has nothing to do with power on his part - he likes to see his cum dripping - he likes to squirt it anywhere on me. I like it too - it tickles me that he likes it so much. I honestly can't see how (between us, anyway) it could have anything to do with power, degradation, trust - I mean, it's definitely not a "disgusting and degrading length of behavior" for me - no problem at all. Let it drip off my chin - YEAH!

The sight of cum turns many people (not just guys) on - obviously, the "money shots" are in porn BECAUSE we like them, not the other way around - I doubt that the porn co's are as interested in influencing our actions as they are in making movies we will buy (1001 Cumshots).

Finally, you are only as degraded as you feel. If a guy was on a power trip, and he held my head in a vise grip while he pumped cum on my face (actually THAT would be a huge turn-on for me - hubby is NOT rough enough), I would still run to the bathroom to admire its quantity and drippiness. I wonder how powerful and dominating he would feel then? so what.

VBG