Eyes Open During Orgasms?

[JarringJoe]

One rule I strictly enforce with my household slut is the requirement that her eyes remain open when we are having sex, regardless of what we happen to be doing. She is permitted to blink from time to time -- to clear tears of pained joy from her eyes, for instance -- but I am very firm about her eyes being locked to mine when she climaxes and I cum. By looking directly at one another, we both realize just how much pleasure we are deriving from one another.

This was taught to me by the first woman with whom I experienced serious fucking, a 31 year old high school teacher who took me on her living room floor when I was almost 17. I was on top of her, hunching away, when she said firmly, "Look at me when you are fucking me, don't close your damned eyes, watch me." I did, and seeing the way her face twisted with sexual pleasure was such a turn on that I shot off almost immediately. She kept her eyes fixed on mine seconds later when she had her own climax. She had to tell me what she wanted only one time, and I grew to love watching her face during the following months, when we fucked regularly. The only thing she asked me not to do was to get cum into her eyes when I ejaculated -- cheeks, chin and nose, OK, but nothing higher.

My resident slut sometimes disobeys me by closing her eyes because she wants the punishment she knows she will receive -- ten good ones on her rump with the strap. I enforce the same open-eyes requirement when I give her to another man or to a woman as well.

Any thoughts from anyone on this subject?

 

[WhisperHaven]

sneeze?

For me, it's like trying to keep my eyes open when I sneeze.

 

[Derya]

Agreed!

I've never really been in a relationship where it was discussed or planned (or required by nature of the relationship dynamics) to keep our eyes open particularly as we orgasmed, but it has happened on a couple of occasions and is wonderfully fantastic and YES mind blowingly stimulating in my opinion. It's been years since one particular encounter with a lover when we both were cumming together and intensely watching and staring at each other as we came (I can remember every detail of that encounter too) and I still fantasize about it pretty often. I am greatly turned on by the feeling of my lover looking at me as I cum...yes yes yes

 

[BlueSugar]

I agree with the sneezing comment.. but way back when, when I wasn't so into bdsm and still starting out having sex... I was 3 or 4 years experienced and I kept finding virgins it was a fun learning experience... needles to say I told them to open their eyes, and look into mine, or watch my body, and watch their own... I homed their skills *single tear wiped away* I'm happy they are out in the world making others veerry happy

 

[InnerDarkness]

I tend to close my eyes at that moment...but I have experienced hard fucking with my eyes open and that is always amazing and totally exceptional all on its own...

but, for me...eye contact during sex was/is something I struggle with a lot now.

Sex is a very intimate activity for some people, and if they have been in a sexual relationship with someone they had difficulties with or issues with (say a failing marriage or abusive situation), then they may be able to physically allow themselves to have sex with that person, but they may not really feel they want to or be able to make eye contact with their partner for a variety of reasons.

For me...it was/is a failing marriage. I can and have had sex with my husband...and very possibly may continue as long as we share a similiar household...(final separation or divorce will end that for sure). I can fuck him and get my physical pleasure just fine...but making that eye contact has somehow becoming oddly too personal after all these years, so much of my sexual activities with him convienently find me either on my hands and knees with him behind me or find me with my eyes closed....especially during an orgasm.

 

[il mio angelo]

I tend to close my eyes at that moment...but I have experienced hard fucking with my eyes open and that is always amazing and totally exceptional all on its own...

but, for me...eye contact during sex was/is something I struggle with a lot now.

Sex is a very intimate activity for some people, and if they have been in a sexual relationship with someone they had difficulties with or issues with (say a failing marriage or abusive situation), then they may be able to physically allow themselves to have sex with that person, but they may not really feel they want to or be able to make eye contact with their partner for a variety of reasons.

For me...it was/is a failing marriage. I can and have had sex with my husband...and very possibly may continue as long as we share a similiar household...(final separation or divorce will end that for sure). I can fuck him and get my physical pleasure just fine...but making that eye contact has somehow becoming oddly too personal after all these years, so much of my sexual activities with him convienently find me either on my hands and knees with him behind me or find me with my eyes closed....especially during an orgasm.

ID, I could have written your post verbatim. When my marriage was failing, I found it hard to so much as kiss him. Ironic how sex didn't seem to personal, but kissing did. This was around the time that I developed my fondness for doggy-style (no kissing or eye contact).

As for not being able to have my eyes open during an orgasm, this is something I have always had difficulty with. For me, that it a moment that I am at my most vulnerable, and I have often times feared the depths at which someone could see inside my soul while gazing into my eyes at such an extremely expressive, open and intense moment. Maybe it is that I have never trusted a partner to see me that way, or maybe I fear that I will reveal to much.. I don't know.

 

[Desdemona]

I am required to maintain eye contact with Snooze during orgasm. It was difficult at first, but He and I worked on it. Now, its second nature to me and it really enhances my feeling of being intimately connected with Him.

 

[Etoile]

Heh, I don't get to cum often enough to have this kind of requirement. I do love watching Daddy cum, though. I cum more often with my girlfriend, and usually I open and close my eyes during the orgasm (if it's long enough). I'm not usually positioned in a way that I can see my girlfriend when she cums, but I love hearing her.

 

[JarringJoe]

Thanks for the comments!

You ladies have put some interesting thoughts on the table. It had never crossed my mind that an inability to look one's lover in the eye could signify a lost of romantic interest, but a willingness to continue to seek sexual satisfaction. The one position in which I cannot see K's open eyes fully is when I fuck her on her hands and knees. For that reason, we seldom "do doggie," at least not with one another. But in a foursome or moresome, I frequently find myself taking another woman from the rear. Is this because that sort of fucking is impersonal -- the "zipless fuck," as Erica Jong might call it?

There were also thoughts above about contemplated divorce. My own theory -- and this is not substantiated by any scientific data -- is that once the D word gets into someone's mind, the outcome is inevitable.

One other thought on a steamy June afternoon: sometimes when we are doing same-bed fucking during a swap, with the ladies on top, bare boobs swinging proudly, I find myself glancing up and over at K, and she'll look down at me and wink and grin as if to say, "This guy is pretty good, but I can't wait to get back on your loving dick." And when she is ready to climax she'll blow me a kiss and I can see her go into high-drive cum mode. And regardless of how many times we might fuck one another at a party or the like, we always "save one" for one another -- i. e., "save the last fuck [not dance] for me."

Now I am going out into the patio and see if sitting in a spot of shade, bare as a freshly-popped babe, can do anything to outwit this damnable heat. Two months of rain, the atmosphere is absolutely soggy, and I am past patience. End of rant. Y'all have a good weekend, heah?

 

[kayte]

I am required to maintain eye contact with Snooze during orgasm. It was difficult at first, but He and I worked on it. Now, its second nature to me and it really enhances my feeling of being intimately connected with Him.

Hi sis nice to see you.

That was one of the hardest things He, Snooze has required of me. I have learned, but I still have to think on it. I need to work on it.

But yes, looking in His eyes and seeing Him watch me as I cum, it is incredible.

 

[LisaFunOne1]

it tends to be involuntary.... sometimes my eyes are closed, sometimes they jerk open... id love to be with a Dom/me who would train me to that degree though.

 

[Etoile]

id love to be with a Dom/me who would train me to that degree though.

I totally second that.

 

[Croctden]

Sometimes

I use eye-contact often, but not always. Not just for sex or being pleasured by her, but when I'm spanking her or having her put her butt plug in, etc. Reportedly this makes it more embarrassing. That's an added bonus, I started just becuase I enjoyed seeing the reaction.

 

[ownedsubgal]

my Master doesn't usually have his eyes open when he orgasms...if they are, his head is thrown back and his eyes are not really focused on anything, and definitely aren't looking at me. He doesn't know it but i love looking at him in those moments.

i almost never orgasm, so i can't comment on that side. but as to the idea of looking into each other's eyes throughout the course of an entire sexual session, that to me would be VERY strange/awkward/uncomfortable/distracting. just not pleasurable at all. it would also add a "mushiness" to sex that i just wouldn't care for. fortunately my Master feels the same way. usually when we have some sort of sex in a position where i can look him in the eyes, he will put a pillow or blanket over my face, to take the humanity and gentleness out of the situation. He especially does this when he is about to orgasm. for me, this is extremely erotic. the idea of looking him in the eyes at that moment or throughout sex in general sounds very soap operish and unappealing to me.

 

[Waldo]

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[Derya]

thank you Waldo

Pleased to hear my comments were a turnon. Like so many other erotic and stimulating activities I'm learning and discussing more since sharing with Lit members...I knew since that experience with eye contact during orgasm that it was an intense turnon for me and have incorporated it into my fantasies, but didn't really know how much of a turn on for others or if more or less so for the males, or just depends on personality of the lover(s) etc? But it is great to learn (on this action as well as others) how many people do share some of the same turnons. I really enjoy the chance to discuss such things. Thanks for letting me know I described my feelings well.

 

[Waldo]

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[Arden]

I'm not a household slut, by any means. But, I do love watching every sensual and sexual act. Looking in his eyes as he penetrates me... absolute heaven. I love being able to see the joy he experiences in his own release. If I am able, looking into his eyes when I cum is nothing short of incredible. Once in a while, fate doesn't allow for that... depending on how sudden and intense the orgasm is. I find it unrealistic to think that I can look in eyes every time that I cum. It's a nice dream, however...

Just curious, JarringJoe, how does she look in your eyes as she cums when you're doing it doggie style?

 

[JarringJoe]

Arden inquires: "Just curious, JarringJoe, how does she look in your eyes as she cums when you're doing it doggie style?"

To which JarringJoe replies: "Quite simple, my dear. As both of us near climax, K loves for me to grab her hair and pull her head back and around so that our mouths can lock in a tongue-swirling kiss as we both cum. The position is just a bit awkward but it works. This is the only time, during love-making or otherwise, that I pull her hair. It happened by accident once years ago and somehow K got an enormous rush out of it."

I thoroughly agree with one of the posters who commented you best be damned sure your relationship is strong enough to include sexual relationships with other persons. We've had any number of friends who got into swinging and simply decided they didn't like it, or that a few initial experiences had satisfied their curiosities. Others, of course, make it a part of their on-going sex lives, and often, I've seen, to extreme, where they wish to meet a couple of new couples a week (which is possible if you work at it). So, think long and hard before you make the first move, and if one partner doesn't like it, go join a bridge club.

 

[dragonlace]

I am also required to look into His eyes as i cum, as as it is natural for me to shut them it has been difficult thing for me. I am getting better about it and it does increase the intensity and itimacy of the moment but still i need to work at it.