Explain Online Attraction to Me.

[PepperminTrish]

I don't think it can be explained. I've felt that (online) attraction to someone once. I followed my instincts and as a result, this absolutely amazing man became a huge part of my life and my journey into self-exploration.

To this day, neither one of us can tell you just WHY we clicked the way we did and why it's still going strong a year and a half later. Some things you just don't question, you take them for what they are and be grateful for whatever comes of them. At least, that's MY take on it.

PepperminTrish

 

[LukkyKnight]

~nodding~

Clearly more than one school of thought, but I like the line which goes:

If you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance.

Time is a wheel in constant motion
Always rolling us along.
Tell me who wants to look back on their youth and wonder
Where those years have gone?

 

[explain]

Explain Online Attraction to Me.

YES! I DO!




Weren't you directing this to me? You left out a comma my dear!

 

[enjoyingitall]

On line attractions happen for a myriad of reasons. Fun flirting can lead to other humorous encounters. After a while, if there is a spark, conversations become more personal and telling. As you learn more about the other person, you either feel the connection or you don't. If you do, then you tend to explore your feelings in more depth. The words you share and the emotions you begin to explore can open you to a whole new level of attraction.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Not that citing dead people is inherently authoritative, but:

Opinion by Antoine De Saint-Exupery:

"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."

 

[Rambrat]

I realize there is instanteous physical attraction, but online you don't have that. It is through words.

Two guys can say almost the exact same thing to me..one will click and one won't. Some do more than just click, they send me over the fucking edge.

How does it work for you? How do you know you are attracted to someone here at Lit or someplace online? Do you always persue a relationship, whether it be just friends or maybe lovers?


JL

Tone of voice offset by their AV...
Some people may not be aware that an AV can convey the wrong message.

Take yours for instance JL...it's fuckalicious!

 

[bluemuse]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Intangibles....

Yep! Out in the desert though, you said temperatures over 90 were to much for you, remember?

That's right........I have a ten degree window where I'm comfortable. 65 to 75 degrees........I'm a wimpy, spoiled SoCal coastal girl......and proud of it. Darlin.....I would have been complaining the whole time.......no fun for you.


bluemuse

 

[plasticman33]

Not to mention the sand storms!

Oh the horror of it! A sweaty, sand covered, bitchy bluemuse!!

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Explain Online Attraction to Me.

Tone of voice offset by their AV...
Some people may not be aware that an AV can convey the wrong message.

Take yours for instance JL...it's fuckalicious!

So does mine convey the wrong message?

JL

 

[Rambrat]

Re: Re: Re: Explain Online Attraction to Me.

So does mine convey the wrong message?

JL

no way baby...

it's inviting....

some AV's seem unapproachable...and that may not be what that person wants...

 

[bluemuse]

Not to mention the sand storms!

Oh the horror of it! A sweaty, sand covered, bitchy bluemuse!!

Seriously.........the only thing worse than a bitchy me, is a sweaty, sand covered, bitchy me......lol. Plasticman......you've NO idea....



bluemuse

 

[Rambrat]

Seriously.........the only thing worse than a bitchy me, is a sweaty, sand covered, bitchy me......lol. Plasticman......you've NO idea....



bluemuse

I don't know...a sweaty, sand-covered you doesn't sound bad....

sorry...didn't mean to interrupt...

 

[juicylips]

I don't know...a sweaty, sand-covered you doesn't sound bad....

sorry...didn't mean to interrupt...

god, Ram...don't you have enough other threads to flirt on???

JL

 

[Rambrat]

god, Ram...don't you have enough other threads to flirt on???

JL

I'm trying to keep up with you darling...

now kiss me!

 

[bluemuse]

I don't know...a sweaty, sand-covered you doesn't sound bad....

sorry...didn't mean to interrupt...

You forgot the "bitchy" part, hon. Ram.....are you multi-tasking? Bravo!


bluemuse

 

[Rambrat]

You forgot the "bitchy" part, hon. Ram.....are you multi-tasking? Bravo!


bluemuse

Damn...must have missed that...lol!

Got to take the good with the bad...

 

[plasticman33]

Seriously.........the only thing worse than a bitchy me, is a sweaty, sand covered, bitchy me......lol. Plasticman......you've NO idea....



bluemuse

OMG, now you're really scarying me!

How about a walk on the beach? Please, no sweating!

 

[bluemuse]

Damn...must have missed that...lol!

Got to take the good with the bad...

lol......spoken like a man who's never seen my bitchy side.

You are a sweetie......I'd go easy on you.



bluemuse

 

[bluemuse]

OMG, now you're really scarying me!

How about a walk on the beach? Please, no sweating!

What is it with me scaring people?? I'm a doll....really....

I would love a walk on the beach!!! Right now!!! The sand is just under a mile fron my front door........you up for a short trek? You hold the dog leash, okay? She tends to "walk" me.



bluemuse

 

[juicylips]

I'm trying to keep up with you darling...

now kiss me!

You passed me by a LONG time ago, babe.

I still like kissing you though. The long, deep, wet kind

JL

 

[plasticman33]

What is it with me scaring people?? I'm a doll....really....

I would love a walk on the beach!!! Right now!!! The sand is just under a mile fron my front door........you up for a short trek? You hold the dog leash, okay? She tends to "walk" me.



bluemuse

Nice doggy!! What kind is she! KUJO!!!!

 

[Jimi]

You are so right, PV.

You do have a choice on whether to act on something or not. It's not easy when the attraction is really strong, but you can make a decision and stick to it.

Maybe I should clarify a bit. Not necessarily the attraction, but how far you take it. If you allow it to interfere with real life, or allow your emotions to progress farther than mere attraction. Again, it does happen. You recognize it and fix it..in my case...I do it almost immediately.
JL

SB....I'm still working on that part. Immediately is taking longer.

THERE is the crux of it, Cass! I am developing some GREAT friendships - but just that - flirting is great but I ain't gonna screw upo RL.

Well, said, as usual. Great thread!

 

[bluemuse]

Nice doggy!! What kind is she! KUJO!!!!

She's a sweet black lab.......with a taste for plasticman meat!!!



bluemuse

What, me scary????

 

[Pixie]

I don't think it can be explained. I've felt that (online) attraction to someone once. I followed my instincts and as a result, this absolutely amazing man became a huge part of my life and my journey into self-exploration.
<SNIP>
Some things you just don't question, you take them for what they are and be grateful for whatever comes of them.
<SNIP>

Couldn't have said it better...

 

[plasticman33]

She's a sweet black lab.......with a taste for plasticman meat!!!



bluemuse

What, me scary????

I love black labs! She eats plasticman meat? Bad girl, not good for you! You on the other hand............

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