Experience and Interest?

[MasterNico]

As Richard suggested, I started on the "bottom" when I was about 17 or so, with a Mistress that was too old to be playing with a minor. I'm currently 37 - so 20 years of it.

A lot of it was searching out my fellow creatures without much success until we got this nifty internet thingy. Suddenly I was no longer alone, but there was a lot to wade thru.

I spent a couple of years training as a Top under a man who came from the old days, when you had to "cruise" for action. He taught me more than I thought I could know.

I started public life years ago as an atendee, then working first as an assistant DM and then the head DM of a very public club in Ft. Lauderdale. I have since been involved in a great 24/7 relationship that also led to a wedding - and a child - and the relaxing of the 24/7, which can get tiring after all.

I have since been DM and Chief DM at several statewide BDSM conventions, and currently I am Chief DM for the Orlando Bash. I also worked closely with other groups putting together seminars and how to's with national presenters, generally followed by some really groovy parties.

Even though I'm a Het man (mostly ) some of the most fun play I've watched and participated in has been with Gay Men and Women - boy do they play hard!

I marked been there done that, but I agree, there is always more to learn, and I'm always seeking that out.

 

[crimsonlace]

Perhaps your Master needs to use a bar of soap in your mouth

Ick! My Master threatened me with the soap in the mouth punishment. I straightened up immediately.








I sure do hope He has forgotten about that.

 

[Xelebes]

Curious as hell, seein if I want to do it. Well... I know I want to try it. Just... doing it may be the problem for now.

 

[Lord Crimson]

Ick! My Master threatened me with the soap in the mouth punishment. I straightened up immediately.








I sure do hope He has forgotten about that.

Really, lace?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Just a little demographical info is being sought here.

In addition to answering the poll, it would be great if you could post something about amount of time you have engaged or been curious about the lifestyle as well as what you hope to achieve in reading or posting here.

R/T experience, neither novice nor expert.

As mentioned in another thread ("When did you first know," or something like that), one of my earliest memories is age three or four with a little neighbor girl over my lap, panties dangling from one ankle, my hand smacking her little butt.

My first knowingly sexual experience involving BDSM aspects was at 14, though I recall all through grade and junior high school smacking girls' butts a time or three when (a) they had done something that annoyed me or (b) I liked them and they were being smart-alecky, flirtatious, or just cute

My first marriage (10 years) was D/s, mostly in the bedroom. She loved a heavy 3" wide leather belt I had made in a college arts & crafts shop. Second (12 years) was most definitely not D/s, but I "kept my hand in" here and there with women I met through the local underground. Third marriage/relationship (5 years) was D/s, but she grew and matured, and decided to go Domme. Perhaps the 26-year age difference had something to do with her wants and needs changing. Sobeit - I had committed to her growth as a person, and if that's who/what she needs to be, I wish her all the best.

So... I have r/t experience - a fair amount of it, but I do not, can not, will not consider myself an expert. I do fairly well with several activities, play at some others, and want to learn more about others - singletail and rope bondage, in particular.

As ADR said, "I hope I will always be {to some degree - SW} a novice. I think there is so much to learn and so much I don't know and have not experienced."

What do I wish to achieve in reading {and/}or posting here? Knowledge, community, knowledge, socialization, knowledge, camaraderie... and did I mention knowledge? I have not yet in my 54 years of life met a person from whom I could not learn something, and since I consider a day without learning to be wasted...

Side note: MasterNico, good to see you here! I recall you well from the 2002 Bash, and enjoyed meeting and working with you on the Security Team - as well as the Bash itself and all the people there.

 

[crimsonlace]

Really, lace?

Uh oh. I think he remembered.

 

[Technodivinitas]

I listed under "been there done that"- which is far from claiming to be an expert at anything! I generally agree with most folks who've said they'll always be at least somewhat novice, but that's true of almost anything, and still, there are people I'd want to learn from and there are certainly people who could benefit in learning from me.

I've been in a D/s LTR for almost a decade, and most of it has been 24/7. I'd been in D/s relationships before that, some of them relatively long-term. And I've been playing with D/s & S/m concepts for more than half of my life.

 

[celiaKitten]

Very much a novice, but still reading, learning, experimenting.