Expectations

[Guest]

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[Cheyenne]

Teasing is one thing, real life is another. My expectations were met- a nice dinner with good conversation.

Following your instincts is always the right thing to do, by the way. On the other hand, you wouldn't have strained the relationship had you suggested more. Talking about something is always okay, whether it actually happens or not.

The rest of the answer you'll get in an email. I did have a great time though, and look forward to another dinner the next time you're in town.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[sexy-girl]

i think thats the perfect way to handle meeting someone from literotica especially the first time even if you're looking for something more just to have no expectations except taking your friendship onto the next stage but keeping it as friendship


if something more happens then great but if not you still have a wonderful friend

 

[bad kitty]

Well, this hits home a bit. I am days away from my first Lit to RL meeting and I only expect him to be his charming self. I on the other hand am excited but nervous as fuck. I never measure up to what I expect me to be, so how can I for someone else?

 

[Cheyenne]

I should mention that I've had dinner with a few Lit people now, some when they've been in my home city, some when I've been in other states. All of them have been pleasant and I've enjoyed them.

 

[patient1]

Well, this hits home a bit. I am days away from my first Lit to RL meeting and I only expect him to be his charming self. I on the other hand am excited but nervous as fuck. I never measure up to what I expect me to be, so how can I for someone else?

At some point in my life I realized that some of my perfect standards ( while they did bring forth maximum effort & creativity in the striving) were not only making me dissatisfied with my self, but making me judge others harshly, & making me less fun to be with. There was no pleasing or satisfying me.

When you sit on his lap to let him admire your worthy-to- be immortalized -in-art hair & awesome ass, believe the compliments.

Nervous excitement is a sincere form of flattery. He'll be very proud of you.

 

[Guest]

At some point in my life I realized that some of my perfect standards ( while they did bring forth maximum effort & creativity in the striving) were not only making me dissatisfied with my self, but making me judge others harshly, & making me less fun to be with. There was no pleasing or satisfying me.

When you sit on his lap to let him admire your worthy-to- be immortalized -in-art hair & awesome ass, believe the compliments.

Nervous excitement is a sincere form of flattery. He'll be very proud of you.

Yeah, what Chey said here.

 

[I'mVan]

Interesting question.

I've met several Lit members. Two of them I made love to on the first day I met them. And each was part of a wonderful and rewarding (if unfortunately short lived) relationship. Others I've become close friends with in RL, others have drifted into simply on-line friends.

I try to throw all expectations out the window when I meet someone the first time. The truth is that what you see on here is a characature of ourselves, and lacking in depth. Often times, I've found the first meeting of the real person to be exactly what I would have expected from the on-line person, only to see them change (actually, to see how I see them change) as I got to know them better.

One thing I can say - I've met some of the most wonderful people in my life here at Lit.

 

[Cheyenne]

Yeah, what Chey said here.

Psst... that was patient1 you quoted. But I agree, of course.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[MissTaken]

I have met two lit members and in neither situation were there any surprises.

I must admit that in both situations we both had clearly become friends and there was none of the tension associated with romantic on line involvement.

Anytime I have met someone in real life from on line, I enter into the meeting hoping for the best and expecting nothing. I have never been disappointed in that meeting. (It is what happens down the road that has disappointed me! )

 

[Cheyenne]

I think that the next person from Lit that I meet will be one that I want to fall into bed with immediately. Hmm...now to just figure out which one to meet.

I think you just advertised for applicants.

 

[Guest]

Thanks!

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Thanks!

Cheyenne, thanks for the private message although I was a little stunned. That lesbian / inter-racial / bondage / farm animal / orgy thing you describe seems just sooooo way out there.

p.s. good luck with your Buck.

What, you didn't like my suggestion for your company's Christmas party? Fine, think of your own entertainment then!

 

[Guest]

Re: Thanks!

Cheyenne, thanks for the private message although I was a little stunned. That lesbian / inter-racial / bondage / farm animal / orgy thing you describe seems just sooooo way out there.

p.s. good luck with your Buck.

OK, that was funny.

Dumbasses here should take note. One in particular.