Exes

[sophia jane]

I realized that I might be a bit of an oddity tonight.

Ok. Really. I've known that for a long time, but I have a specific reason this time!
I hear lots of stories about bad break-ups, crazy exes, hiding from exes, worry about running into exes, etc. And it occurred to me tonight that I am on fairly friendly terms with all of my major exes. Sure there are some flings in there who wouldn't recognize me, but of all the major relationships, I get along fine with each of them. I'd even go so far to say that, with the exception sometimes of my ex-husband, I'm friends with all of them and they all think very highly of me.
Which makes me wonder: does anyone else get along with their exes? Or am I just really odd?
And since that isn't much of a question, feel free to tell all your horrible ex stories here.

 

[davidwatts]

Hello

Actually, I thought I was quite alone in the world, in that I have never been intimate with anyone (that is still alive), that I could not have a perfectly wonderful conversation with today. I still don't have to take my socks off to count, but that's something that I'm a little proud of, for some reason.

 

[CeriseNoire]

For me, there's a little of everything. I have exes that became friends, some that are simply forgotten, and some that are simply inconsequential in that I don't like or dislike them; they are just a part of my past.

Of those I've chosen not to be friends with, the usual problem was that used to have dreadful taste in men. Actually, I've discovered that that poor taste shows up whenever I go through a vulnerable period. As a result, some of my exes just aren't safe to be around.

As for horrible exes stories, I did once date a guy who apparently was in trouble with the law. This was high school, and I was still new to the country so it didn't even cross my mind that a teen could be involved in serious illegal things. Lucky for me, by the time I figured things out, he was arrested and locked up, saving me from having to break things off.

Fast forward about two years, I was ready to go off to college and left just a few days before he was released. Well someone gave him my phone number at school and he called, expecting me to resume the relationship. So after a few times of him calling and me freaking out, my then roommate picked up, told him I now belonged to her (she was quite a character) and to leave us be. His next message was a death threat. Thankfully, the terms of his release kept him from crossing state lines, so that eventually gave him time to forget about me...

 

[cloudy]

I get along fine with my exes, too - we talk fairly often, and I have standing invitations to their houses. With the exception of Spawn's stepmother (psycho redneck bitch from hell), I get along with their wives/girlfriends, too - there's no getting along with PRBH...she's too fucking whacked for anyone to get along with her.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I think my ex is avoiding me...

I know my last (only) fling is avoiding me. She hasn't spoken to me in months.

 

[kiten69]

Exes. . .

My ex husband and I will probably never get along, he's a dirtbag plain and simple. However we do share kids so like it or not he is attached to my life. I deal with it as best I can, but I have to admit getting along with him would be nice.

My relationship with Des was the complete opposite. I acually loved being with him and being around him. Distance is a KILLER!!! I think we are on good terms, I hope it stays that way.

I've experienced both ends of it. . .I have to say splitting up with someone on good terms is harder than splitting with someone you dispise.

 

[glynndah]

Ropes, guns, police, broken bones and a hospital stay. It's pretty hard to maintain a cordial relationship under those circumstances.

 

[rgraham666]

I haven't seen my ex wife in years. Closing on twenty now.

I have no wish to either.

 

[_Lynn_]

I was on good terms with my ex until yesterday.
The divorce is final and NOW he's checking something out with lawyers.
I'm pissed.
DOn't know what the future will be anymore after this.

 

[alyxen]

I get along with my ex-wife (who might even see this message, so you know I'm telling the truth!). I am pretty confident that I could even show up at the ex-law's place and be welcome.

 

[fifty5]

I could, but won't - last time I gave details I had to ask the thread-starter to edit her quote of my post. Thankfully she did.

But, basically, yes. A few I probably wouldn't recognise (or vice versa), but those who really mattered, still matter, just in a different way.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Don't have any. Still with number one. I figure, anyone eccentric enough to want me, deserves me.

 

[carsonshepherd]

I stayed too long - stayed until I despised him and no longer cared about his feelings; and because of the things he did, he didn't deserve my consideration anyway. I walked away with nothing, feeling lucky to have my soul back.

I have no wish to see him again. Even to "get closure." By the time I left, I was long gone.

I plan to stay with this one, but if anything ever happened between us, I wouldn't want that to happen.

 

[fifty5]

I plan to stay with this one, but if anything ever happened between us, I wouldn't want that to happen.

Best wishes for the golden anniversary, Carson...

 

[Chantilyvamp]

My ex boyfriend is one of my best friends and I adore him and his wife. I can tell them anything and they won't judge me. I'm very lucky and I know it.

 

[sutherngent985]

Of all my exes, I am only in contact with my 2nd ex wife and that only because we have a child together. I haven't seen or heard from my 1st ex wife in well over 10 years except for a phone call...I was at my aunts house and the ex called her...they are still close. Ex girlfriends...lost contact with all of them except one (childhood sweetheart) who I chat with online.

Im currently in a long distance relationship with someone who is my soulmate. I see her for the first time in 2 months in 2 weeks...YAY!

 

[Fallenfromgrace]

I am on good terms with the first person i ever kinda dated- but we've no really been in touch of late.

As for my first proper relationship- my first and only ex, yeah we didn't split on good terms. Not once out of the 7 times we split. The psycho tried to blackmail me into giving her money as repayment for the amount of money she spent on me for my birthday- MONTHS AND MONTHS after we split and i wasn't speaking with her.

Then, last night i found out that she's been logging into my emails and reading them- i didnt even know she had any idea what my password was. I can't remember what it was before i changed it, which is annoying. Anyway, since i changed it she hasnt been able to get into it apparently. She also knows about me and Misty- not that it bothers me, it's just what she's been saying about us and me and such.

The little bitch is a fucking psycho and she is so lucky she's back in Canada otherwise i would drive round there and beat the shit out of her.

Did my ranting about my ex last night might have a little something to do with this thread...?

 

[sophia jane]

Did my ranting about my ex last night might have a little something to do with this thread...?

Yes and no. I did think of it when I decided to post the thread, but mostly the reason for starting it is that in the last two days I've had some form of contact with all of my major exes and it seemed interesting to me that it was happening all at the same time.

 

[Lady Reiha]

I sort of get along with my ex that I dated for 4 years...it's off and on.. sometimes we get along, sometimes not. lol.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I have not stayed in contact with my exes. The past is the past.

 

[SeaCat]

Exes huh?

Well the first real ex was a young lady I dated for two years in High School. We split when I left for Europe. I didn't hear from her while I was in Europe but when I returned I tried to look her up. I finally tracked her down working out of a Hotel in the next city over. (I tracked her down through a friend of mine who happened to be a cop.) Somehow her parents blamed me for this.

My second ex I can't talk with as she is dead. (Hence her being my ex.) I still talk with her family on a regular basis though and they have accepted my current wife into their family.

That's all I have, but not through trying.

Cat

 

[sweetness6280]

I am on great terms with almost all of my exes. My first husband and I have 3 children together, so we will always be in contact. I have never had a relationship go so badly that I could not still consider an ex a friend. I am fortunate.

LOL, my first husband still calls me wanting sex.

 

[xssve]

My ex and I get along great as long as she's sober and we're not together for more than about 10 minutes at a time.

 

[GoddessHathor]

My ex-husband and I see each other several times a week. I'm not thrilled about it, but he babysits our daughter after school while I'm in work, so at least she gets to spend time with him.

We tolerate each other for her. We're not exactly friends, but we don't hate each other either. When I got really sick (hospital stay), he was right there stepping up, took care of our daughter and ran errands that I was unable to. On the flip side, when he needs my help for something (right now, taxes), I will help him no questions asked.

A perfect relationship...no...not by any means. But for our daughter, we make the effort to be civil and even friendly when we can.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

The blunt way to put it would be:

I avoid women I have previously dated (and vice-versa) like the plague. I don't even like /hearing/ about them. No talky, no "Friends", clean break and move on.