Exes: Like, Hate, Or Still Love?

[SEVERUSMAX]

SSS's divorce thread prompted this poll. I want to know what you actually think of any exes that you might have. I know what I think, from my own experience (rotten bitch), though, as Cloudy noted, it never involved marriage or divorce. Just an honest survey here.

 

[Guest]

I learned something from every person I was ever involved with. I am grateful to all of them for the lessons I learned.

I rarely see any of them. I don't hate any of them, although there are a few I never wish to meet with again. I also wish none of them ill. Mostly I am indifferent.

There are one or two with whom I parted and continued for a long while as friends, but life goes on. Most of them I still have some vestige of feeling for, or at least a fond memory. I would not venture to call any of them friends, though.

 

[LadyCibelle]

What I think of my ex cannot be repeated as I could be held accountable for whatever happen/happened/will happen to him. Lets just say that if he was on fire I wouldn't even piss on him.

The guy is the worst asshole this earth has ever known...in fact he kinda reminds me of the guy in SSS's divorce thread.....my ex did the exact same thing but instead of taking "just" the appliances, the emptied the whole house while I was at my mom.

 

[carsonshepherd]

There needs to be an option for "I am totally indifferent."

My ex was a shit to me, but I also loved him deeply. When we split, it was like having an arm amputated - the gangrene was going to kill me eventually but it was still my arm and it still hurt...

I guess I vote "can't stand" because when I see him around town, I get nauseous.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

My answer was not for an exhusand (since I don't have one)... just an ex boyfriend from a serious relationship before I met my husband.

 

[neonlyte]

I pretty much gave my answer in a thread I started in the early hours of yesterday morning whilst dwelling on easters past.

You can read it here: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=423405

 

[Liar]

I'm at my ex's place right now w her brother and my current lady. Made nachos, watched movie.

So... no we don't exactly hate each other.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Of the very few serious boyfriends I've had, I really only still talk to one of them on a regular basis and consider him a friend. We have made an effort to be friends no matter how weird it got for us and it's been weird.

The other one, I avoid at all costs and have gone so far as to not attend places where I know he'll be. He's a little crazy and I don't even want to hear any of the bullshit he has to say to me. *stabs a redheaded voodoo doll*

I had one serious girlfriend who's now married and lives out of state. She was always terribly ashamed of being a lesbian and has gone to great lengths to hide it, obviously. She sent me an invitation to her bridal shower not long ago, but I couldn't bring myself to go. I'd love to hang out with her, but it would be too hard for both of us.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I guess I'm one of the few that had an amicable divorce and subsequent friendship with my ex.

 

[Guest]

 

[LadyJeanne]

I range from friends to indifferent to no contact, but would be civil if we ran into each other. So, I wasn't sure how to answer the poll.

 

[freddymagellan]

Interesting topic. I have been divorced going on two years and we still have sex on occasion.

 

[Recidiva]

Friends with my exes, including two ex-husbands.

In some cases it took longer than others, but over time I just forgive stuff and get past it. I can't be bothered carrying around ill will.

 

[cloudy]

My first husband and I are good friends, although it took some time to get to that point.

The one I have now? If I get out with my clothes, I'm happy.

 

[impressive]

I'm not tight with any ex lovers, but I do believe that every one of them would rush to my aid if I called in need -- as I would for them, as well.

 

[rgraham666]

I haven't had any contact with her for over a decade.

And I no longer have any feelings for her. We broke each other's hearts, she left. End of story.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

My answer was not for an exhusand (since I don't have one)... just an ex boyfriend from a serious relationship before I met my husband.

Ex-lovers certainly count. A piece of paper doesn't make a relationship more valid than others.

Considering my ex, let's just say, I am glad that I never knocked her up. I'd hate to continue her genes, though I am sure that her current husband (the last that I checked, anyway), with whom she cheated on me FYI, has helped her with that. It's been a long time since that last attempt at monogamy. I haven't forgiven her and never will.

And there was my quasi-ex, an online slave named Susi. We parted much more amicably. Perhaps because we knew that it would never have worked out, so we didn't call ourselves a couple. But you could have fooled me. We sure acted like one in several ways.

 

[oggbashan]

After 34 years of marriage, any ex-lovers are distant history although I have found a couple of them on Friends Reunited and decided NOT to contact them.

I have reasonable feelings about them. For a time we shared something, and that something was not destroyed when we parted. None of the break-ups were acrimonious and I could and did still meet them socially afterwards.

If I were to meet them now? After that length of time they are different people. So am I.

I have met only one woman recently from the time before I met my wife. She is still attractive in body and has the brains I admired forty years ago but with more maturity and depth. What she thought of me she was too polite to say. Then she was my best friend's fiancée so not a potential partner at the time. They didn't marry each other but attended the weddings of their ex-fiancé/fiancée as welcome guests.

Og

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Now, my brother's ex-wife is pure evil. If she were not the mother of my niece, I would not give her water if she was dying of thirst in a desert. She is a constant reminder of everything that I DON'T like about women. Girls like her make women everywhere look bad. Spiteful, manipulating bitch. He should NEVER have married her.

 

[elsol]

*burp*

You're missing the "Still want to BOINK them!" option.


Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Guest]

Was that boink them or burp them?

 

[Belegon]

Without exception I have no ill will for any of my exes at this point...they are not ex-wives as the marriage I am in now is my only one, but I lived with a few of them.

There was one who I lived with for two years and was involved with about 3 1/2. She hurt me BAD. But even with Jen, I never stopped loving the things about her I loved to begin with...and we both agreed years later that something still existed between us, but there was too much baggage to make it work. Simply put, our passion was as strong in our fights as it was in bed.

But hate? No. Even in the times right after she left it was more disappointment.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

So many ex's - so little time...

Generally I would like to think that I can make peace and forgive and forget and move on - which is the case in most of my past relationships. Come to think of it, I am friends with most of my ex's.

Flip side - any relationships has the potential of being an "ever-after" and it's not always easy to find another space with that person that you originally planned on spending the rest of your life with.

I stay away if there is the potential for hurt.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Difficult question. I fell into the trap of making up excuses for totally unforgiveable behaviour, and forgiving time and time again. Of course, it ended up with me getting burnt in the end. The dying gasp of our relationship involved her screaming at me and asking me what the hell was wrong with me when I was slightly quiet on the phone the day of my grandmother's funeral.

I can forgive, but not quite forget. She still calls once in a blue moon, and we have civil conversations. If we were both on a crashing plane with only one parachute, though, I'd take it for myself. And I know she'd do the same.

 

[Wildcard Ky]

I've only hated 2 people in my life, and my ex is one of them. If she were to drop dead today, the ONLY sadness I would feel would be for our kids losing their mother.