ever used a personal ad?

[dolf]

ok, i want to know!
how many people use tem?
write them?
answer them?
both?

what are your experiences?
xx

 

[MastrJ]

I'm already in the other thread. I've used them and answered them. My success so far has been less than stellar.

 

[dolf]

well i've had someone mention a happily ever after found via ad...wondering if that's really rare????

xx

 

[MastrJ]

I know of a couple happily ever's in my group of friends. So it can't be that rare. I just haven't even been able to get more than a date or two out of a personal ad.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I tried to find a copy of my original ad on my disorganised PC, unsuccessfully at the moment.....but did come across his first email to me and it still made my pulse jump and reminded me of the day when I opened it and had the strangest, unexplainable feeling he was not going to go to the 'not suitable' pile the rest had. He still has the power to make me feel that quiver of anticipation, not to mention a hunger for his company 24/7. Oh and as to success stories, we talked one of F's vanilla friends into placing an ad on the net and he didn't take long before he found a girl there who lived locally and gave both of them a tingle, they met after a few weeks of talking and she never went home again....they have just bought a house together and are getting married next year.

Catalina

 

[Desdemona]

I've used them in the past. I don't have any ads up currently even though I'm single. My profile and checklist are both there; have been for years. That gets me plenty of attention. No happily ever afters from me, though.

 

[Hajar]

At most sites you don't need an ad, just a profile.
At one point we had up something at alt or bondage can't remember which, and the replies were rather disturbing mostly
I gave up, my inner sadist is staying inner atleast for a while.

I do know quite a few couple who got together via ads, mostly nilla, I can only think of 2-3 lifestyle couples I know that met that way

 

[FungiUg]

I've used them. I haven't had any joy from either bondage.com or alt.com in terms of finding a partner, but I have made a brilliant friend through bondage.com.

I've had more success through nzdating, which is a vanilla free adult dating site in New Zealand. We found our submissive last year through there.

However, even that's dried up. Ah well.

 

[Miss Diva]

I used Lavalife and met a few guys. I soon found that sex sells. See Lava has three sections: Dating, Relationship and Intimate and everyone has a profile on three of them. I was on Dating and Relationship and I got no nibbles. The second I went I intimate, well I was popular. So the advertisers were right "sex sells". I met a few guys for some stuff but no LT stuff.

I tried adultfriendfinder where I met my current PYL. We are now good friends but we both know we are not in it for the LT (at least not for now.)

I was too afraid to try alt or bondage. But we will see.

 

[Mr Blonde]

I am currently the main operator of the #1 parody account on bondage.com. I created a truly horrendous profile and send out impossibly crude letters to unsuspecting women. Believe it or not, 90%+ of the women write me back laughing and I have a growing fan club of disciples. Every now and then I slip up and make a serious post, but I keep the charade going in the public forums by having my fictional character live in his parents' basement and throw tantrums about disrespectful subbies.

 

[Desdemona]

I am currently the main operator of the #1 parody account on bondage.com. I created a truly horrendous profile and send out impossibly crude letters to unsuspecting women. Believe it or not, 90%+ of the women write me back laughing and I have a growing fan club of disciples. Every now and then I slip up and make a serious post, but I keep the charade going in the public forums by having my fictional character live in his parents' basement and throw tantrums about disrespectful subbies.

Hmmm... let's see.... does that letter go something like this???

"As I sit here masturbating to your picture, you should know that I am a maniac who has little regard for the safety of others. Say goodbye to safe, sane and consensual. You are now a piece of meat that resides in a dark hallway filled with thieves and abusers. Your world has become a place where safewords go unheeded and good subbies get trampled down like fans at a Metallica concert.

"Why?" you might ask.

Because I have I now taken control over every phase of your life. Your only reason to exist is to support me and serve in my harem. Your love for me will become a dysfunctional addiction that puts the Stockholm syndrome to shame. You are expected to please me at all times which means your life will become a living hell. You have so much to look forward to now that you are my property.

To confirm your suitability, please arrange to send me $500 immediately. Failure to pay could result in a messy showdown where I force you to leave bondage.com in disgrace. Upon acceptance, you will be expected to sell your house and move to South America within two weeks.

Your loving master,
TORMIE"


If that's you, I agree, it's absofuckinglutely hysterical! If it isn't you, it's still the funniest thing I've seen all day! I'm crying from laughing so hard. des

 

[Hajar]

Gee I didn't get anything like that
and I needed a great joke after some of my replies.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[DVS]

ok, i want to know!
how many people use tem?
write them?
answer them?
both?

what are your experiences?
xx

I've had several ads, in the past. But, only one answer that came out good. In fact, it came out great.

But, although I've tried several different avenues posting as a Dom, it is difficult to get past the first response. You say something they trigger on, and you never hear from them again. They don't even tell you what it was you said.

Obviously, they don't give you a second chance, so they lose as well as you do. But, that's the risks you take, with an online ad.

You have to take chances, if you're a sub, so the whole thing is risky from the start. Safety guidelines are needed, and even then it's scary. But, it does work, if you have a little luck and are good at judging personalities. But, watch yourself.

 

[vogueboy]

ok, i want to know!
how many people use tem?
write them?
answer them?
both?

what are your experiences?
xx

- I must be missing something?

O

 

[Bandit58]

I put an ad up on adultmatchmaker a couple of days ago, looking for a female playmate (it states that quite clearly). I've had several "winks" and a couple of messages, but they're all from men or couples who want to "swing". However I did get this lovely compliment from someone who can actually read

From AShyButHornyGuy, Male, 42:
"Hi,

I know you are seeking a bifem, so I'll just cut to the chase and pay you a compliment.

Saw your pic... can't get over what incredible legs you have, long, shapely, sensual.... stunning.

Hope your future partner appreciates them too... take care and good luck in your search."

I read it out to Master, and got a silly grin back......

 

[miss_dee_vious]

Once and never again

About 4 months ago i placed an ad, out of sheer desperation, or maybe perhaps more out of curiosty, in NZ dating.

The profile kinda went along the lines of who i was and how many kids i had blah blah blah...

I dunno if i made a mistake by adding a pic or wot....but....my last sentence went along the lines of....

"Im looking for someone who i can laff with, a friendship that may lead to more...but firstly just some damn great company"

24 hours later i had recieved 36 emails in my NZ dating inbox.

Delete, Delete, Delete...and many more deletes later I got rid of each and every single horny male in NZ who wanted me to cyber.

Good grief...since when has "have fun and laff" been another word for "cyber"?

 

[Desdemona]

This would be why I don't bother with ads. You don't get anything but horny spam from them.

 

[Marquis]

I have a profile on LavaLife that I've used to meet someone before. I also occassionally answer Craigslist ads, but never put up one of my own. The only time I've ever interacted in real life with someone I met online was with LavaLife.

I rather like the efficiency of meeting people online, but it seems I have better luck in real life.

 

[graceanne]

Hmmm... let's see.... does that letter go something like this???

"As I sit here masturbating to your picture, you should know that I am a maniac who has little regard for the safety of others. Say goodbye to safe, sane and consensual. You are now a piece of meat that resides in a dark hallway filled with thieves and abusers. Your world has become a place where safewords go unheeded and good subbies get trampled down like fans at a Metallica concert.

"Why?" you might ask.

Because I have I now taken control over every phase of your life. Your only reason to exist is to support me and serve in my harem. Your love for me will become a dysfunctional addiction that puts the Stockholm syndrome to shame. You are expected to please me at all times which means your life will become a living hell. You have so much to look forward to now that you are my property.

To confirm your suitability, please arrange to send me $500 immediately. Failure to pay could result in a messy showdown where I force you to leave bondage.com in disgrace. Upon acceptance, you will be expected to sell your house and move to South America within two weeks.

Your loving master,
TORMIE"


If that's you, I agree, it's absofuckinglutely hysterical! If it isn't you, it's still the funniest thing I've seen all day! I'm crying from laughing so hard. des

OMG I rarely check out this thread, since I've never used a personal, and dont' ever plan on using it, but i checked it out. I am laughing so hard, that it hurts! LOL

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Once and never again

Good grief...since when has "have fun and laff" been another word for "cyber"?

Ooooh, you mentioned "fun" and "laff"! Wanna cyber?

I've had mixed success with NZ Dating. But I've had more sucess there than I have with alt.com, bondage.com or adultfriendfinder.com. I think the fact that it is mostly free helps a lot. But from women I have spoken to, they all get overwhelmed with the "horny male syndrome". Particularly the ones advertising for women!

 

[miss_dee_vious]

Re: Re: Once and never again

Ooooh, you mentioned "fun" and "laff"! Wanna cyber?

Hmmmm...Dare i say no? back@ya

 

[DVS]

Re: Re: Once and never again

Ooooh, you mentioned "fun" and "laff"! Wanna cyber?

I've had mixed success with NZ Dating. But I've had more sucess there than I have with alt.com, bondage.com or adultfriendfinder.com. I think the fact that it is mostly free helps a lot. But from women I have spoken to, they all get overwhelmed with the "horny male syndrome". Particularly the ones advertising for women!

At alt.com, that damn watch dog or whatever it was kept sending me matches for me that were not matches at all. And, if I wanted to send these ladies a message, they wouldn't even return it because their wants and needs didn't match mine.

I'm sure they thought I was one of those crackerjacks that sit up and beg for sex, tongues hanging out and barking or whining to get noticed. Nope, far from it.

But, just the same, there's just too many of those out there and the ladies get saturated by them, leaving those of us looking for something different out in the cold. Or, we are just lumped into the same group of idiots by some stupid broads who don't know any different.

 

[Marquis]

Too many bitches wanna be ladies, so if you a hoe
I'ma call you a hoe, too many bitches are shady
Too many ladies give these niggaz too many chances
Too many brothers wannabe lovers don't know what romance is
Too many bitches stuck up from too many sexual advances
No question; Jay-Z got too many answers

 

[CutieMouse]

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