so how many have notice how life has a tandancy to change your views or force you into choices you don't want? I am married and seaking divorce yet I don't believe in divorce. I am just in a situation where I am damned if I do and DAMNED if I don't.. I did chose divorce to protect my son from possible problems as a direct result of my crazy wife. (trust me she is CERTIFIED NUTS...) She even has the disabilty papers to prove it.. lol
Ever notice how life has a tendancy to force change?
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Sorry to hear you're going through such tough times swiftwind. Life does hand us choices that are not easy, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing by protecting your son first.swiftwind said:
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I do what I must.
yes, our children are more important than our own desires or belief's. I would rather face judgement for divorcing my wife than for directly chosing to stay in a situation that was not healthy for my son and thus potentialy causing much more problems for him.
Personaly I just pray that in the end God understands.
yes, our children are more important than our own desires or belief's. I would rather face judgement for divorcing my wife than for directly chosing to stay in a situation that was not healthy for my son and thus potentialy causing much more problems for him.
Personaly I just pray that in the end God understands.
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Yes what life throws at you does make you change your views. I used to have a LOT of things I would "Never" do, but as life goes on sometimes you have to eat some of your words.
Sounds like you got yourself and your son out of a crazy situation and really, good for you for protecting him. I know it's hard but it really does get easier with time.
Sounds like you got yourself and your son out of a crazy situation and really, good for you for protecting him. I know it's hard but it really does get easier with time.
a bi polar and schizoaffective don't mix well
I have a minor amount of bi polar (manic depresive) and mostly my disability is a cognitive and memory disorder caused by head injuries at age 4 months.
My wife is schizoaffective which is in essence both bi polar and schizaphrenia. that is part genetic and part apmplified by previous drug abuse and bad child hood.
I have learned you don't need a good memory to raise a child. They tend to be impossible to forget... hehehe
my wife was getting too sick and not willing to be honest with anyone not me not even the doctors. This caused her to be paranoid, aggressive, and dilusional.. BAD combo with a child..
I know I can't live with my wife ever again but we still love each other and she is not arguing with me about divorce or about me getting FULL custody of our son.
I have a minor amount of bi polar (manic depresive) and mostly my disability is a cognitive and memory disorder caused by head injuries at age 4 months.
My wife is schizoaffective which is in essence both bi polar and schizaphrenia. that is part genetic and part apmplified by previous drug abuse and bad child hood.
I have learned you don't need a good memory to raise a child. They tend to be impossible to forget... hehehe
my wife was getting too sick and not willing to be honest with anyone not me not even the doctors. This caused her to be paranoid, aggressive, and dilusional.. BAD combo with a child..
I know I can't live with my wife ever again but we still love each other and she is not arguing with me about divorce or about me getting FULL custody of our son.
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Sorry.
Wife actualy moved away
My only real long term issue with my soon to be ex wife (when I get the money to file for divorce) is she almost never spent any time with our son, even the year and a half since we separated I repeatedly offered to bring him to her or come pick her up every week (we lived an hour apart) 3 out of 4 times she would cancel and sometimes even 6 weeks or more at a time she would cancel. I can forgive her for her problems as they were not her fault due to her disability.
Then she went and moved from Oregon to Mass and a month latter to Southern Calif (near LA). I can't comprehend how she can move so far from her only son.
After her I have a problem trusting or even getting close to any woman. considering the situation I think you all can comprehend that one..
oh, forgot to mention my son is currently 2 1/2 years old.
My only real long term issue with my soon to be ex wife (when I get the money to file for divorce) is she almost never spent any time with our son, even the year and a half since we separated I repeatedly offered to bring him to her or come pick her up every week (we lived an hour apart) 3 out of 4 times she would cancel and sometimes even 6 weeks or more at a time she would cancel. I can forgive her for her problems as they were not her fault due to her disability.
Then she went and moved from Oregon to Mass and a month latter to Southern Calif (near LA). I can't comprehend how she can move so far from her only son.
After her I have a problem trusting or even getting close to any woman. considering the situation I think you all can comprehend that one..
oh, forgot to mention my son is currently 2 1/2 years old.
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There are worse things in life than poverty
a life dealing with a person that is as severely mentaly ill as my wife was is much worse than poverty. I have lived all my life with problems and thus have been in the list of ppl that are in poverty all my life. There are ways to help survive. Low income housing, even assistance in getting food. Often the best things in life are free. Money never truely solves anything and usualy only causes more problems. I had a happy childhood and my son is happy and it don't require a lot of money. I am on disabilty due to my problems but at least I can stay home and raise my son in love.
I have my share of problems and most of mine will never go away but at least I can do is make sure my son is surounded by those that love him and teach him to be a good person and help him understand the way life tends to change things you believe. I can't predict my life but I can make sure my son learns to be understanding and carring... He seems to be following that path already. Loves to help clean, and if he can tell you don't feel good he is the first to come up and give you a hug to try and make you feel better.
That is the stuff that truely make life worth living. Without my son I would have gone suicide. Now I may not realy care much about living but, I chose to live for the sake of my son and to help him be a better person than I have been. I pray every day he don't have to ever deal with mental illness which runs in his family on both sides but, if he does develop it in some form I want to teach him by example that dealing with it and accepting it along with admitting to it is the only way to learn to get around it.
a life dealing with a person that is as severely mentaly ill as my wife was is much worse than poverty. I have lived all my life with problems and thus have been in the list of ppl that are in poverty all my life. There are ways to help survive. Low income housing, even assistance in getting food. Often the best things in life are free. Money never truely solves anything and usualy only causes more problems. I had a happy childhood and my son is happy and it don't require a lot of money. I am on disabilty due to my problems but at least I can stay home and raise my son in love.
I have my share of problems and most of mine will never go away but at least I can do is make sure my son is surounded by those that love him and teach him to be a good person and help him understand the way life tends to change things you believe. I can't predict my life but I can make sure my son learns to be understanding and carring... He seems to be following that path already. Loves to help clean, and if he can tell you don't feel good he is the first to come up and give you a hug to try and make you feel better.
That is the stuff that truely make life worth living. Without my son I would have gone suicide. Now I may not realy care much about living but, I chose to live for the sake of my son and to help him be a better person than I have been. I pray every day he don't have to ever deal with mental illness which runs in his family on both sides but, if he does develop it in some form I want to teach him by example that dealing with it and accepting it along with admitting to it is the only way to learn to get around it.
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