Ever heard of this????????

[Azwed]

Have any of you ever been or are or are currently with a women who does not like to have her clit touched. My current gf who is incredibly sexy and wonderful in everyway does not like it. She says it makes her feel uncomfortable. Makes her want to squirm and run away like someone is tickling her roughly. If i use my fingers, tougne or lips on her clit she gets this feeling. It feels just fine if i use my dick to rub it, but anything other then does not feel good to her. I have never met anyone like this or heard of anyone like this. What about you guys????????

 

[flawed_ethics]

Don't mind me...

Sounds to me like the thought of being touched 'down there' is what makes her uncomfortable. Maybe she was raped/molsted as a child? I dunno exactly, can't say I've heard of it before. Just thought I'd toss in my two cents.

 

[petrel]

clit stimulation

maybe its just varieties of pressure. i know when i get turned on even the lightest touch can feel like too much - rough and tickeling. At other times when i'm turned on i crave a really rough hand - who said life was easy?
get her to try different sensations at different tiomes, try silk, feathers etc as well as your hand and keep talking. remember that what works one time may not another time don't assume shes being awkward our bodies are wierd things and react in a myriad of different ways.

Good luck

 

[Gilly Bean]

I had an odd friend in high school who hated it. She refused to let any guy touch it, or go down on her. She said it made her feel gross to know where his lips were. Course, she would never go down on a guy either. But in her case, it was a case of the grossy grosses, not uncomfortable feelings. Maybe try and see if some toys might help?


Gilly Bean

 

[Azwed]

If it was just my hands maybe i would think it is the pressure or the texture of my hands. I have really tough rough skin over most of my hands from all the weight lifting/mechanic work that I do. She gets the same feeling with my tougne too, so that kind of throws me. If I just use the head of my dick to rub her clit she loves it and says it feels great. She can cum just find with almost not clit stimulation though. Really likes the whole deep, full, big penatration then anything else. She has multiples from it, so I guess that is all that matters. I will poke around some more, heheeh, and see if anything else works.

 

[JUDO]

And by herself?

How can she masturbate? Ask her. Watch her. I'll bet she has never masturbated to orgasm. In which case, you have your work cut out for you.

- Judo

 

[Guest]

I was actually involved for quite a while with a girl who felt similarly. Wouldn't let me touch, wouldn't let me give her oral. Like someone else mentioned, though, it wasn't so much that the touching made her feel strange, but that she was, for some reason, thoroughly disgusted with that area of her anatomy. She wouldn't touch herself to masturbate, using the shower head instead.

Never did quite figure out why.

 

[curvacious]

Think of how the head of your penis feels at different times. Is it way sensitive during certain point and even the slightest touch seems to be too much, maybe that's how your partner feels since the clit has as many nerves as the the head of the penis.
I know for me, I can't stand for my clit to be touched right after I orgasm--It's way too much stimulation, to the point that it actually can hurt.

 

[Mischka]

Are you zeroing in on the clit right away? That might work for the penis, but the clit is a whoile different ball game. Some women need gradual build-up before the can handle direct stimulation, and for some, it always is a bit overwhelming.

 

[Juan Trickpony]

Perhaps she was born a man, and it's a fake clit. 'She' doesn't want you getting too close........

 

[Azwed]

I still eat her out i just don't touch her clit much. I only use my tougne to go inside her. I have a very long tougne, can touch past the end of my nose, so that is not a problem. I know she does not find it gross down there either. She just does not really rub her clit when she masterbates. I think she only gets off from penatration. That has to be really rare.

 

[cyndiesweet]

I too think that this is a matter of pressure. Too much - too soon. Too hard - too fast. etc. Have you tried licking it so softly that your tongue barely carresses the skin? That she could almost feel your breath more than your tongue.

Another possibility is for you to try distraction. Do something else that turns her on while you are licking her clit. Fondle her breasts, finger her holes (either one), put on a porno tape, etc.

Find out what her best turn-ons are, and combine them. And - Slow Down!

 

[*Lazer*]

Some people are just more sensitive then others. It is not that unusual. As Curv mentioned above sometimes, or at certain points during arousal one is more sensitive and any pressure is very uncomfortable. We are all different and ain't it grand! If she orgasms does it really matter what gets her there?

 

[*Lazer*]

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[Spokanite]

My wife is the same way. The only way that I can touch her clit is with my dick or if I am doing her from behind and I reach around and rub it. I couldn't believe it when I first started going down on her and she couldn't stand to have me lick her clit. I have used the lightest amount of pressure possible and kept my tounge flat and she still cant stand it. Everything you ever read about performing oral sex on a woman says to suck on her clit or to lick her clit but I guess it's not for all women.

were one, but were not the same, we get to carry each other, carry each other, one

 

[Primeone]

no touching

One gf, a virgin when we started going together, thought she had some dread problem because she got wet 'down there' when we kissed and I fondled her breasts. After I told her the real reason our relationship progressed, but she never allowed me to touch any area her vulva; even when we'd started having intercourse. My cock was the only part of me allowed to touch her. Of course oral was totally off limits either way. At least she had orgasms without manual stimulation.
It seems her problems were a result of her mother giving her the 'men are beasts' mis-education.

 

[kaiya]

clit stimulation

yes, I hand is too hard for me, too, but that feather idea sounds interesting, try it. Have you even asked her about it... your response seems to indicate "no"...
I agree with Candiesweet, too Re: "Too much - too soon. Too hard - too fast."

Well, I would still be cautious of men, some are real jerks... that men are beasts isn't complete mis-education, though it doesn't apply to everyone, just like: "Everything you ever read about performing oral sex on a woman says to suck on her clit or to lick her clit ..." is obviously not all true, either...

 

[cyndiesweet]

Re: clit stimulation

I agree with Candiesweet, too Re: "Too much - too soon. Too hard - too fast."

It's Cyndiesweet but thanks for the agreement. I'm not the only one who thinks like me it's a miracle!

Well, I would still be cautious of men, some are real jerks... that men are beasts isn't complete mis-education, though it doesn't apply to everyone, just like: "Everything you ever read about performing oral sex on a woman says to suck on her clit or to lick her clit ..." is obviously not all true, either... [/B]

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Not all men are beasts in fact most are just a product of their environment just like women.There are some pretty crappy women out there too. There are also some amazing men and women out there. Perception is half the battle.Some guys just need an oppourtunity to show just how great they are and a little gentle persuasion. Everybody has needs, fulfill those needs and watch them turn inside out to fulfill yours.Assuming you tell them what your needs are. One thing they are not great at... reading minds!

Bottom line cut them some slack and give them the oppourtunity to do great things.You might be suprised.

 

[Azwed]

Did not think this thread was still alive. Well having talked with the gf more about this i have come to some conclusions. I can touch, suck, rub or lick her clit now and she is fine with it. She just needed some time to get used to it. I can even for short periods of time pull, twist or nibble on it.

In all her past relationships the guys were not into giving her pleasure. They centered more around getting themselves off and did not worry about her. I have always been more inclined to getting the woman off and then worrying about myself. That was such an alien concept to her that she could not really deal with it. No one had ever really played with her clit before and she was not used to it. She could not handle the very strong orgasams she got from clit stimulation. She is a screamer and a very loud one. She holds back many times because she does not want to be so loud. Since she lives in a dorm she does not want everyone to hear her cum. She had her first oral only orgasam this weekend. I gave her a combo of g-spot rubbing with my finger plus tougne, lip and clit sucking/nibbling action. She made me stop because she was getting so loud and i just told her to bite down on her pillow. It worked she came very very hard but did not make too much noise since she was muffled by the pillow.

 

[Mellon Collie]