Etiquette Question on Refractory Period

[talon0000]

Hi all,

I have a bit of an issue with my pattern, I guess you could call it.

I come relatively quickly (in under 5 mins) the first time, will easily last half an hour or much longer the second time, and am rarely up for a third.

My usual "strategy" is to receive a blowjob first and get the first one out the way, pleasure my partner with oral while recovering, before moving to intercourse. However depending on my tiredness level the refractory period can be anything from 10 mins up (can be quite a bit longer)

My ex knew how I worked so it wasn't an issue, but with new girls I cant guarantee the strategy plays out the same way. As such I get to the point where I come in a few minutes and then cant get it up for half an hour - not very impressive looking.

Trying to reassure them that soon I'll be ready for ages sounds a bit pathetic, and telling someone that doesnt do much mentally for the problem.

An alternative strategy is to masturbate some time before sex to make the first one last a lot longer - however this can leave me with only one orgasm in me for the actual event (and if that comes sooner than expected, in a bit of a pickle).

So would women prefer someone who comes once after a good period, or more than once with a bit of a break?

 

[haurni]

I think the male refractory period is typically at least 20-30 min or more, even if you're young, and if not it could be even longer, so to expect more is perhaps being a bit unreasonable. If your concern is the fact that you come fairly quickly right away, why not take a good long while to work her up so that both of you reach orgasm fairly quickly once you actually do get to intercourse? Or do math problems in your head (or some other distracting mental activity/imagery) while fucking to make yourself last longer (though do try to avoid staring at the wall ).

 

[Ruffian_13]

Honestly, that is ideal for me! It can take me a while to cum, so if I'm able to get the guy off fairly quickly with a BJ, then he can spend some time between my legs while he recovers I'm sure there's other women out there that would have a different preference, but I think either way you can make it work. If it's a new relationship (or just a short-term thing), I think it would be fine if you kept fooling around, gentle caresses and teasing and snuggling - distract her well enough and use your other talents, and she won't even notice if you're not hard again yet!

 

[C2W]

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Regardless of what technique you decide to use, the thing you should be most concerned with first, is your partners total satisfaction. Once achieving that milestone however arduous it may be, their gratitude is often exhibited with
increased zealousness.

 

[bigbritish]

Hi all,

I have a bit of an issue with my pattern, I guess you could call it.

I come relatively quickly (in under 5 mins) the first time, will easily last half an hour or much longer the second time, and am rarely up for a third.

Is there really any etiquette involved when you nut sperm on a woman? I mean, she's sucking your dick, right?

I know what you mean, and then I don't relate to you at all. You can train your dick to endure hours worth of pussy search and rescue. It's all in clamping the balls and riding it like a surfer in the pipe.