Etiquette Q's from a newbie

[jfaustus]

I've read all the etiquette and general guidelines threads from the library, and I gotta say wow! It's good to see these issues taken so seriously, and I like the whole-community approach to decisionmaking.

That said, there were a couple of things I wasn't clear on:

1) Is it acceptable to post your own personal information? Real life contact information, I mean. This is mostly curiosity. I have no intention of doing so, but can't see why someone who wanted to shouldn't.

2) PM'ing: I got it loud and clear that unsolicited PM solicitations are out. Good. But what about unsolicited PM conversation/comment/correspondence? Should one wait for an invitation before PM'ing someone?

Thanks for your patience,
jfaustus

 

[Goddess Helena]

Still feeling like a newbie...

...but I'll try to answer question 2.
As far as I can tell, you are welcome to PM people without being asked/tolded to do so.
I received a welcome PM from someone who had read and liked a post that I made. I have also received a PM or two about my location. I answered the question and have not heard from those people again.
I think as long as you are polite, you should be fine PMing people.


Helena

 

[A Desert Rose]

1) Is it acceptable to post your own personal information? Real life contact information, I mean. This is mostly curiosity. I have no intention of doing so, but can't see why someone who wanted to shouldn't.

2) PM'ing: I got it loud and clear that unsolicited PM solicitations are out. Good. But what about unsolicited PM conversation/comment/correspondence? Should one wait for an invitation before PM'ing someone?

Thanks for your patience,
jfaustus

You can post your own personal information in your profile. I would not ever post certain things on the board. And I am sure you know that you should never reveal personal information (email addresses, true names or locations) of other individuals on the boards.

You are welcome to pm anyone you choose to. I have only run across one person who I've pm'd and he/she did not respond to me. Otherwise, everyone I have met has been courteous and helpful and at least acknowledged my pms.

Lancecastor has a pretty good netiquette thread in this forum. You might find it helpful.

Welcome.

 

[Ebonyfire]

1) Is it acceptable to post your own personal information? Real life contact information, I mean. This is mostly curiosity. I have no intention of doing so, but can't see why someone who wanted to shouldn't.

I do not post much personal information. I prefer to keep most private details just that private.

There are those on this forum who know me personally, we are friends and they know who I am and what my real name is and how to get in touch with me. I know them also, and I do not betray confidences.

2) PM'ing: I got it loud and clear that unsolicited PM solicitations are out. Good. But what about unsolicited PM conversation/comment/correspondence? Should one wait for an invitation before PM'ing someone?

I personally do not mind anyone pming me. You should never post anyone's PMs, that is a no no.

And I do not refer to PMs in my posts.

This is my opinion, other may take a different view.

Ebony

 

[Goddess Helia]

My .02

I recently recieved a pm welcoming me to Lit. It was nice and I responded that it indeed made me feel welcome.

The same day I also received a form letterish pm from someone asking if I was into "Famliy Fun".

Having never made a post about that kind of thing, and being rather icked out. I did not respond. I did not appreciate the unsolicitated request to discuss that stuff with him. I thought it was a bit spamy, IMHO.

So sincere pm's are okay, but if it's a spamy message that is being sent to whoever is online at that moment I don't like it.

My .02

Respectfully,
Helia

 

[lovetoread]

Sometimes a well-phrased pm is the start of something special.

Pm'ing someone out of the blue is fine,just remember your manners.

 

[Desdemona]

I like PMs except for the aforementioned spammy kind.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: My .02

I recently recieved a pm welcoming me to Lit. It was nice and I responded that it indeed made me feel welcome.

The same day I also received a form letterish pm from someone asking if I was into "Famliy Fun".

Having never made a post about that kind of thing, and being rather icked out. I did not respond. I did not appreciate the unsolicitated request to discuss that stuff with him. I thought it was a bit spamy, IMHO.

So sincere pm's are okay, but if it's a spamy message that is being sent to whoever is online at that moment I don't like it.

My .02

Respectfully,
Helia

You are right the icky kind are yucky!

Eb

 

[maddi]

RE:Family Fun PM

Oh my gosh! There must me someone PM'img everyone the same thing - Family Fun.

I was so sicked out also. And it was unsolicitated. I just deleted it.

Yuck!!!

Maddi

 

[Goddess Helena]

Maddi, that is what I did also.


Helena

 

[Desdemona]

I deleted the one I got also.

 

[RisiaSkye]

1) Is it acceptable to post your own personal information? Real life contact information, I mean. This is mostly curiosity. I have no intention of doing so, but can't see why someone who wanted to shouldn't.

It's gray area. It *IS* against Lit policy to post any private email addy, even your own on the boards. Other personal contact information is less clearly governed, so use your best judgement. Remember that it's a public forum, though, so absolutely anyone could see it--and remember *where* they'd see it, too.

2) PM'ing: I got it loud and clear that unsolicited PM solicitations are out. Good. But what about unsolicited PM conversation/comment/correspondence? Should one wait for an invitation before PM'ing someone?

Thanks for your patience,
jfaustus

Most people welcome PMs. Just be polite.
And nobody likes spam. So, don't do it.

Hope that helps!

RisiaSkye
Forum Moderator

 

[lovetoread]

I actually answered the family fun one though.

He wasnt bad,he just had a different idea of kink, than I.

 

[cellis]

I feel so left out!

I did not get the family fun one.... you guys get to have all the fun....

 

[Desdemona]

I feel so left out!

I did not get the family fun one.... you guys get to have all the fun....

Next time I get one, I'll give him your name.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I feel so left out!

I did not get the family fun one.... you guys get to have all the fun....

I didn't get the family fun one either. I get males who want me to fuck their asses.

I always decline strange asses.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

I didn't get the family fun one either. I get males who want me to fuck their asses.

I always decline strange asses.

Eb

Oh but ya wanna go after mine.... hahaha...

PBW "Writing 'strange' across my asscheeks"

 

[Ebonyfire]

Oh but ya wanna go after mine.... hahaha...

PBW "Writing 'strange' across my asscheeks"

Try writing "strange" across your forehead instead, oh mighty strange man! LOL

Your ass is mine buster!

Eb

 

[rosco rathbone]

girls don't make passes at guys with strange asses

 

[NemoAlia]

Wow, rosco -- it's a good thing I read to the end of this thread before replying, or you and I would have had identical posts. Tee hee!

 

[Desdemona]

girls don't make passes at guys with strange asses

You know, I've been giggling at the game of cat and mouse played by Eb and PB for quite a while. But Roscoe, this post was hysterical. LMAO

 

[Ebonyfire]

girls don't make passes at guys with strange asses

<Chuckling> it depends on how strange they are....PBW's is pretty strange, but good strange, not strange as in "I don't know you " strange....

Confused? I know I am!

Eb

 

[Richard49]

Sometimes a well-phrased pm is the start of something special.

Pm'ing someone out of the blue is fine,just remember your manners.

Do I have to mind my manners ??????

I have made a number of freinds here from people who have PMed me privately and I also have PMEd some without there premission first ... but I am not use to ask premission... it is easier to apologze

 

[Richard49]

girls don't make passes at guys with strange asses

Carl Sandberg (sp) is rolling over in his grave

 

[Goddess Helena]

Do I have to mind my manners ??????

I have made a number of freinds here from people who have PMed me privately and I also have PMEd some without there premission first ... but I am not use to ask premission... it is easier to apologze

Perhaps you could PM and ask for permission to PM, Richard.


Helena