Escaping from chastity device

[Rainbow123]

My sub wears a CB 6000 full time and I have just discovered there is a add on to prevent "slipping out" when flaccid.

If he managed to slip out would I know? Or would he manage to slip back in again for inspection time? I am worried he may have been doing this...

I will be getting the add on and the smaller size device but he is currently abroad and I want to know whether he truly has been secure or whether his begging for release/orgasm on his return home is genuine...

 

[COCK_STAR]

You are talking complete gibberish. Nobody cares about your fruity cock caged boyfriend. I will tell you this much though. You sound way to insecure to demand anything from him. This is how you do it. You say look here motherfucker. You are going to wear that cock cage. If as much as a pubic hair comes our of that cage and I find out m, I'm going to busy that ass. Good luck sir.

 

[pplwatching]

Relationships, even D/s ones, are all about trust. If your sub wanted to please you he'd do what you asked and refrain from giving himself release whether he was locked up or not. That's part and parcel of the commitment of being a sub.

It's great if the cage gives both of you an added erotic charge symbolizing your control of his orgasms, but in the end it's just a prop. His obedience to you doesn't come from the toys that you play with, but out of his respect for you and his desire to serve and please you.

If he's letting himself out when you're not looking then he's not really all that into serving you (IMHO) or respecting your wishes as his Domme. If you discover that he's willfully disobeying you, then you might be better served to reconsider the nature of your relationship instead of buying a new toy.

 

[pplwatching]

You are talking complete gibberish. Nobody cares about your fruity cock caged boyfriend. I will tell you this much though. You sound way to insecure to demand anything from him. This is how you do it. You say look here motherfucker. You are going to wear that cock cage. If as much as a pubic hair comes our of that cage and I find out m, I'm going to busy that ass. Good luck sir.

Her profile says she's a novice Domme. Go easy on her. Slurs aside, the advice seems right on. Either he wants this or he doesn't. Pushing limits and metering out discipline for infractions is one thing if that's part of your play. Disrespecting you behind your back is something else. The punishment should fit the crime. Tell him that if you discover he's disobeying you that he'll be looking for a new Domme and you'll be looking for a new sub. Then stick to it.

 

[Rainbow123]

PPL - thanks for your comments.

Yes, I am novice in the extreme - just a few months since the beast within me was unleashed, but I am riding the rollercoaster as best I can and am here to learn from you more experienced guys, so thanks again for your input.

Am I insecure? In everyday life, no. In this, yes, a bit, because living this is new to me, it's important to me and I am intelligent enough to realise I don't know everything there is to know by a very, very long way. But don't think I convey that to him for one single moment, because I don't. His view of me is that I am strict in the extreme, I suprise him at every turn, and he is responding nicely to that.

This is his second d/s relationship and I am also trying to ensure I don't follow the path of his first one, so am constantly looking for ways to control him that are NOT what she used. She had him in chasity but without the add on. I want to go a step further. Several steps actually. Several big ones, quite apart from the chasity.

But back to chastity, he clearly accepts being in chastity and the trust between us is paramount, I agree, but wearing this device longish term (he has been away in it over a month so far with no release) is clearly a huge pressure for him - he tells me so when asked but never complains - and I wouldnt blame him for having the odd lapse, if it were possible for him to do so without me knowing. I know he would hate himself for it, and I dont think he would do it, but I want to make sure he cannot even consider it, as much for his benefit as my own. I just don't want that sort of temptation to be an issue. Plus I know he will get off on me upping the ante. And yes, I will know without doubt that his erections are truly all mine.

Rain - he actually finds it quite comfortable, physically, and I have no doubt that the mental comfort he derives from knowing he is under my complete control outweighs any niggly chafing/hair tweaking/physical discomfort. A bit like the mental comfort of wearing a gun, as he has done in his work. Yes, it is heavy and rubs a bit, but it's great to know it is there.

He is back on Thursday. Hallelujah.

 

[The_Good_Sub]

Just go to wal mart, buy some elastic band, thread and needles. Then swe one end of the elastic in a loop. Hook it on the alignment stud on the cbt. Put the cbt on him and lock it. Pull the elastic around his waist and mark where it reaches the other stud. Make sure to stretch it just enough it snug but not so tight you hurt him. Now remove the cbt and sew the other end in a loop at the mark.


Now put the cbt rng on him, put the loops on the alignment studs and assemble the cbt and lock it. That will hold it against his pelvis and the elastic wont stretch enough for him to pull out but still allow him to move around.


May take a couple tries to get it right but it works.

Good luck!

 

[seven_of_nine]

Slight tangent but can be really wash properly with that thing on? A month seems like quite a long time to go without giving himself a good scrub.

Can he really travel in chastity? It will be more than a little embarrassing for him if an airport metal detector spots the padlock. If he's been lucky so far that may well not continue and in these times of heightened security nobody is going to thank the guy for causing needless alarm.

I expect his reaction when you ask him about any 'slipping out' transgressions will probably be telling. He obviously wants long term chastity but like you I can see how tempting it would be if he somehow slipped out. If you can't trust him to own up when he has made mistakes then what is really the point of him wearing the device at all? Ask him how he feels about the add-on and see whether he tries to avoid wearing it. Maybe ask if he ever 'slipped out' while he was wearing chastity for his ex domme and see what he admits to.

 

[Rainbow123]

Seven, yes he can clean himself. He bathes mostly rsther than showers and there is never a hygiene issue. I am not sure if he uses cotton buds or what but he is always fresh when unlocked.

The airport thing was an issue and I posted here about it. We agreed he could fly without it and re lock on arrival using a plastic seal (so he could remove the device for the return flight) and send me a photograph to prove he had relocked.

I believe he did relock immediately but his phone didn't work initially so it was some days before I got the photo (for which he has been punished since he made little effort to address this). He knew he was locked, the photo took on Minimal significance for him.

I discussed the slipping out thing when he returned and he assured me it has never happened and he was in chastity for years previously. I believe him. Face to face he certainly cannot and would not lie to me.

I have decided I was obsessing because he hsd been away so long and I am going to leave it as is and have spent the money I would have spent on the add on on some bedroom toys...

Thank you all for your replies

 

[Rainbow123]

As an aside, the lack of photo provided the basis for our first punishment session which was a positive turning point in our relationship .

If he ever doubted my authority and sincerity, he doesn't now...