Eroticism & the Female Form

[lesbiaphrodite]

As a lesbian, I have more than a passing interest in the beauty of women. What astounds me is that I constantly find myself attracted to different forms of beauty at different times. I have gone through many 'phases,' for lack of a better term, in my attractions. For a time, I preferred blondes. Then, I preferred Italians. Then, French. I still like all of these but not in a mutually exclusive sense.

I don't have a 'type' that intrigues me more than another anymore, but I do have an attraction to women who seem to possess a certain something that isn't quite definable. At the moment, I'm all hot for Asia Argento. She's not a great actress, nor a stunning beauty, but there is something about her that makes me think of sex when I look at her. It's different and I don't know what it comes from.

What is that indefinable thing that attracts us?

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

As a lesbian, I have more than a passing interest in the beauty of women. What astounds me is that I constantly find myself attracted to different forms of beauty at different times. I have gone through many 'phases,' for lack of a better term, in my attractions. For a time, I preferred blondes. Then, I preferred Italians. Then, French. I still like all of these but not in a mutually exclusive sense.

I don't have a 'type' that intrigues me more than another anymore, but I do have an attraction to women who seem to possess a certain something that isn't quite definable. At the moment, I'm all hot for Asia Argento. She's not a great actress, nor a stunning beauty, but there is something about her that makes me think of sex when I look at her. It's different and I don't know what it comes from.

What is that indefinable thing that attracts us?

IF you figure it out let me know.

I've been rolling the concept of "attraction" in my had for a few weeks now, and I find its easier to list the things that turn me off more so than what turns me on. The attraction is more ethereal while the neutral or repulsion (too strong of a word but is the opposite of attraction) is very clear cut and concrete.

I do know that when an attraction kicks in, its fairly strong and addictive.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's difficult for me to be attracted to pictures of women. It's really easy for me to be attracted to women in the flesh, however. I suppose that would be my type, if I have one.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I really don't have the answer. I just know that there are certain women that I look at (whether in films or in the flesh) and I want to touch their skin. It's a visceral response. The smell of a woman can also have that effect on me in real-time.

 

[S-Des]

What is that indefinable thing that attracts us?

I have remained relatively consistent with the physical traits that attract me to women, but I go through phases as well. Then again, I've met women who don't fit into any of my normal categories, but they have such spectacular personalities that I find myself noticing their characteristics that might not have been as attractive to me, but seeing them as increasingly appealing.

It might be cliche, but most of what matters is what's underneath (although what attracts people about those qualities is every bit as varied as the physical ones, if not moreso).

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I have remained relatively consistent with the physical traits that attract me to women, but I go through phases as well. Then again, I've met women who don't fit into any of my normal categories, but they have such spectacular personalities that I find myself noticing their characteristics that might not have been as attractive to me, but seeing them as increasingly appealing.

It might be cliche, but most of what matters is what's underneath (although what attracts people about those qualities is every bit as varied as the physical ones, if not moreso).

So very true. I like your take on this.

I can find a woman who is somehow even 'plain' by some standards and find her utterly breathtaking because of the way she walks, talks, expresses her desire, looks at me in sidelong fashion. It's got something to do with a woman being comfortable in her skin and being appealing no matter what that skin looks like, in my view.

 

[S-Des]

So very true. I like your take on this.

I can find a woman who is somehow even 'plain' by some standards and find her utterly breathtaking because of the way she walks, talks, expresses her desire, looks at me in sidelong fashion. It's got something to do with a woman being comfortable in her skin and being appealing no matter what that skin looks like, in my view.

I wasn't even thinking in those terms, but you're right. That confidence is VERY attractive. Also, you can toss in women who do certain tasks that could cause you to look at them in more of a sexual way than you would if you just saw them walking on the street. Personally, I've always been hyper-attracted to female musicians (especially singers), but artists, police, and women in the workforce (whether you're talking the sexy secretary, or the smoldering CEO) all can be attractive in their own right.

Personally, I'm always attracted to women who appear to be greatly enjoying their kids. When I see a mom gleefully playing with her children, it adds a great deal to her attractiveness to me. It's odd how you can see a woman and notice her physical flaws, but take that same woman with some kind of context (like what she is doing or how she carries herself) and these things cease to be flaws, instead becoming endearing traits (even sometimes the things you find most attractive about them).

 

[only_more_so]

As a lesbian, I have more than a passing interest in the beauty of women. What astounds me is that I constantly find myself attracted to different forms of beauty at different times. I have gone through many 'phases,' for lack of a better term, in my attractions. For a time, I preferred blondes. Then, I preferred Italians. Then, French. I still like all of these but not in a mutually exclusive sense.

I don't have a 'type' that intrigues me more than another anymore, but I do have an attraction to women who seem to possess a certain something that isn't quite definable. At the moment, I'm all hot for Asia Argento. She's not a great actress, nor a stunning beauty, but there is something about her that makes me think of sex when I look at her. It's different and I don't know what it comes from.

What is that indefinable thing that attracts us?

She's an even worse director than she is an actress, but I agree she is kind of hot.

I've actually given a lot of thought to this issue over the years, and of course there isn't an easy answer. One thing that does happen, is people find certain types attractive. I think largely this is because they met and fell in love with someone, and people of that "type" remind the person of the object of their affection. As you meet other people of that "type" and they fail to live up to the promise of the "type" paragon, you lose the affinity for that type.

Closer to the indefinable aspect is body language. Many people do not consciously notice body language, but they react none the less. The same can be true for speech cadence and tone. I think the most obvious aspect of this, that attracts people, is confidence. I know I'm often attracted to people who seem to know who they are and what they are.

As for scent. Never underestimate pheromones!

 

[voluptuary_manque]

She's an even worse director than she is an actress, but I agree she is kind of hot.

I've actually given a lot of thought to this issue over the years, and of course there isn't an easy answer. One thing that does happen, is people find certain types attractive. I think largely this is because they met and fell in love with someone, and people of that "type" remind the person of the object of their affection. As you meet other people of that "type" and they fail to live up to the promise of the "type" paragon, you lose the affinity for that type.

Closer to the indefinable aspect is body language. Many people do not consciously notice body language, but they react none the less. The same can be true for speech cadence and tone. I think the most obvious aspect of this, that attracts people, is confidence. I know I'm often attracted to people who seem to know who they are and what they are.

As for scent. Never underestimate pheromones!

I'm attracted to attraction. I can see a woman and start off thinking of her as a person with no particular sexuality at all but if she takes a shine to me (something that I have never understood but have always been vastly grateful for) desire inevitably follows. I'm old enough that it will be at a low enought level to keep on the straight and narrow but I can still feel it.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

This makes me think of figure drawing class again........love the curves.

 

[impressive]

Not just confidence, but competence. Doing whatever it is she (or he) is passionate about -- and doing it exceedingly well -- is a huge turn on. I'm a sucker for anyone who throws their best into an endeavor and becomes exceptionally good at it, be it parenting or profession or pleasure. There is a breathtaking peace in such passion that speaks to my soul -- and my libido.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Not just confidence, but competence. Doing whatever it is she (or he) is passionate about -- and doing it exceedingly well -- is a huge turn on. I'm a sucker for anyone who throws their best into an endeavor and becomes exceptionally good at it, be it parenting or profession or pleasure. There is a breathtaking peace in such passion that speaks to my soul -- and my libido.

I adore you.

 

[only_more_so]

Not just confidence, but competence. Doing whatever it is she (or he) is passionate about -- and doing it exceedingly well -- is a huge turn on. I'm a sucker for anyone who throws their best into an endeavor and becomes exceptionally good at it, be it parenting or profession or pleasure. There is a breathtaking peace in such passion that speaks to my soul -- and my libido.

Good point. Confidence without competence isn't very sexy. But competence without confidence isn't that exciting either. Or at least harder to recognize.

 

[SeaCat]

Let me explain a young lady I know.

She is fairly tall at 5'9". She is slender. She is reviled by my co-workers because she is obvoiusly lesbian. (She makes no bones about this.) Yet she is one of those who makes you notice her.

Today she walked through my unit wearing an ankle length skirt, a peasant style blouse and a large woven hat on a neck lanyard. She also shaves her head.

When she saw me today she gave me a hug and a kiss on the mouth. I would take her home and eat her like a starving Canibal in a minute. She has made it plain to me that she feels the same for me.

What is it that is so erotic and or attractive? She is happy and comfortable with who she is. Talk about hot.

Cat

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

Seeing a beautiful woman elevates my mood and makes me feel happy. I went to the bank and went to my favorite teller. She is a small brunette with a gorgeous smile. It doesn't hurt that she has beautiful breasts. But, what really gets me about her is how gentle and kind she is. It's a lethal combination.

 

[xssve]

Artistically, I think about feminine allure quite a lot - in terms of personal esthetics, I probably get the strongest reaction to somewhat short brunettes with smallish upper bodies, flaring to somewhat largish hips and strong legs.

I can't say that I prefer this phenotype strongly over any other, they all seem to have their particular attraction, from slender, ecto types to statuesque endo-mesos.

Ultimately, when it comes to personal attraction, the eyes have it, and I don't play favorites, bald, double mastectomy, paraplegic BBW's, whatever, it's all about that electrical connection, and that has nothing to do with superficial traits like hair color or body type.