Erotica and your real sex life

[AvoidingRealWork]

I have discovered that reading and writing erotica... how shall I put this?... inspires me to feats of great amorous athleticism with my wife. My wife does not mind this.

Erotica isn't a sexual outlet for me. It's a creative outlet, certainly, but the great thing about this is that rather than getting sexual release, I get all charged up and my wife reaps the benefits.

And that's... ok.

Similar experiences, you guys?

 

[Guest]

I have discovered that reading and writing erotica... how shall I put this?... inspires me to feats of great amorous athleticism with my wife. My wife does not mind this.

Erotica isn't a sexual outlet for me. It's a creative outlet, certainly, but the great thing about this is that rather than getting sexual release, I get all charged up and my wife reaps the benefits.

And that's... ok.

Similar experiences, you guys?

Yep. From the female side of it.

Hubby enjoys the benefits of my writings, too.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I'm not sure whether the improvement in our sex life and my beginning to write here have a causative or just a correlative relationship. But I will say that several things have come together in the last several months that have raised our "temperatures" to a point they haven't been in probably ten years. I have to wonder if participating here doesn't have a beneficial effict on male hormone levels . . .

 

[Tarakin]

It shows how it could be. It widens the gap.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Oh, I think it's gone beyond mere bedroom athletics for me. Eroticism has become like a philosophy of life for me. Not hedonism, but eroticism, the old NeoPlatonist idea of the body's connection to the world being an erotic link or sensual one, a feeling connection. I've made a whole big deal out of it.

The Platonists believed that route to truth was through the intellect, through knowing, through the ideational. I believe it's through being, the experiential, the erotic. I believe it's possible to have metaphoric sex with the world and to experience it that way. Life is a sexual experience, not intellectual. The intellect is in service to the sexual, not vice versa. We think about things because we want to get laid. We don't get laid in order to think about things. In any case, the things we end up thinking about are sexual anyhow: Math, science, philosophy, music, art, all are power-garnering or beauty-generating activities which makes them sexual.

And all this comes from reading things like Mom's Anal Birthday Surprise.

 

[tickledkitty]

And all this comes from reading things like Mom's Anal Birthday Surprise.

Oh, you are really making me laugh this morning.

 

[tickledkitty]

For me, erotica hasn't necessarily inspired me to greater RL feats. Rather, it's a symptom or perhaps just a sign of my burgeoning sexuality that started oh, maybe three or four years ago. I am much, much more sexual now but have no RL outlet for all that right now, so here I am.

For now, it's a very personal thing for me. I'm sure a bit of it leaks out here and there. I'm sure it will keep leaking out and eventually become apparent to people in my life. I also know it will create the impetus for huge changes in my life. But for now, here I am.

 

[Guest]

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And all this comes from reading things like Mom's Anal Birthday Surprise.

Oh, you are really making me laugh this morning.

He's on today, isn't he?

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

And all this comes from reading things like Mom's Anal Birthday Surprise.

You're cleaning my keyboard, dr_mabeuse.

 

[sr71plt]

Dredging up memories has been inspiring. And the research has been invigorating.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I guess it shows just what an innocent I really am. I had to go back in horror hoping that Dr. M's reference was actually a joke. Phew! To think that someone might really have written such a thing brings chills to the bone marrow. Good one, that man!

 

[KarennaC]

Friends of mine who know I write erotica have asked if I get turned on while writing. Short answer: No. I'm too busy working on phrasing and grammar and stuff like that to have any reaction to what I'm writing. Now, while I'm *editing*...

Guys I've dated since I started writing erotica have gotten more out of my stories than I have; and I've definitely reaped the benefits of that. And have gained more plot ideas. lol.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

There's just about as much Erotica and Sex in my real life as there is in my stories.

 

[rgraham666]

I don't have much of a sex life. Mostly due to the way I grew up. I lived in a place where guys played sports and got blue collar jobs. Any male with an IQ higher than a hot day was a 'faggot'. Girls didn't have anything to do with 'faggots'. And if I tried to have anything to do with a girl, I got a shot in the mouth.

So I got a pretty strange idea about how attractive I was and what sort of a future I had where sex and relationships are concerned.

Writing erotica has changed that quite a bit.

First, I'm discovering a great deal about my sexuality. That's something I never thought much about before because I didn't see the need for it.

Also, I am finding that I am attractive to the opposite sex. For the first time in my life I regard my intelligence as an asset in that area rather than a hindrance.

Oh, and Jenny? If you were straight I'd offer to increase the amount of erotica and sex in your life.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

Oh, and Jenny? If you were straight I'd offer to increase the amount of erotica and sex in your life.

Thanks, Rob.

I've been sorta down for a few days. Long story, but Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

 

[rgraham666]

Thanks, Rob.

I've been sorta down for a few days. Long story, but Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

Oh Jesus. *HUGS*

I'm so glad she's OK. *HUGS*

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Oh jeez, Jenny, that's awful! Not only the physical pain for her and the emotional pain for you but the potential for "widowhood" and the sense of violation is horrible. The worst crime we ever suffered was a burglury may years ago. Assault with a deadly weapon is far, far worse.

*Reaches out for hug, strokes hair, starts to cry in sympathy*

 

[carverII]

Sadly the two never mix for me.

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

I've been sorta down for a few days. Long story, but Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

Yikes! Sorry to hear that, and I hope Linny recovers quickly.

 

[buxxxom]

Sending hugs and healing wishes to you and Linny, Jenny.

For me, it always works out that the precious little time I have to write (probably could have more if I'd stop lurking) correlates to the time I have home alone. At the end of a paragraph, story, sentence, idea, etc., no one's home to bear the brunt of my writing!

 

[Katyusha]

I have discovered that reading and writing erotica... how shall I put this?... inspires me to feats of great amorous athleticism with my wife. My wife does not mind this.

Erotica isn't a sexual outlet for me. It's a creative outlet, certainly, but the great thing about this is that rather than getting sexual release, I get all charged up and my wife reaps the benefits.

And that's... ok.

Similar experiences, you guys?

Yes. It's why my husband likes it when I put out a new story.

 

[Katyusha]

Thanks, Rob.

I've been sorta down for a few days. Long story, but Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

Oh no...glad to hear she'll be okay but my god. How awful.

 

[OneLustyWench]

Writing and real life

While one does inspire the other, they don't always seem to be occurring at the same time. Although there have been times when I've had to ask Nero to help "work out" a scene or vice versa.

if it wasn't for him in my life, a lot of the sensualist in me would probably have been buried alive for years.

Writing is a creative outlet and I've found that while I enjoy reading erotica, helping Nero with a scene or such, I'm more so a sci fi writer (go figure). I'm almost afraid to post here because some of the feedback is way too brutal so I'll write what I like, share with those that mean something to me and keep enjoying life and literature, erotic or otherwise.

 

[Tarakin]

(...) Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

Hope she recovers quickly.

 

[SlickTony]

I've been sorta down for a few days. Long story, but Linny was stabbed a few nights ago. She's recovering but it was an awful experience.

Wow, what a terrible thing to have happen. What did happen? I hope she recovers quickly.