erections...

[mdomino69]

as some of you might remember on my girlfriend's birthday we were going to have sex and due to nervousness (i hope...) i had difficulty keeping my penis erect for more than 30 seconds...

ive finally won her back (long story) and we are getting to that point again... and i just want to make sure that i dont go soft on her again... does anyone have any tips? ive done the kegels a bit but havent noticed a difference.

i think we will be moving on to that point in a week or two and was just wondering if you all had any tips?

thanks in advance

 

[senator]

yes, the only tip u need is... relax, stop worrying about it..

if you're normally able to get and sustain an erection, then there's nothing wrong with u. ur only enemy is ur anxiety.. the moment u stop thinking and worrying about it and lose urself in the moment, everything will be just fine.... let your body relax, don't skip on the foreplay and allow yourself to feel the pleasure of the moment instead of thinking about what's going to happen next...

Good luck

 

[Different Guy]

Yeah I think it is all about being relaxed whilst being turned on but not over the top lol! Y'know I'm talking about cumming too fast. Because if I'm overly turned on and we start something chances are I'll blow pretty fast. That's cos I'm new to sex so I haven't had chance get used to the whole "someone else touching me or doing stuff with someone else sexually".

I guess, don't think about everything that is going on. Such as factors, problems or anything. Just think about you're having sex with a great girl, admire her and y'know, there's always more than in and out movement, occupy yourself with her body.

[And I don't mean that in an objective way, I mean through methods of foreplay whilst sex incase I got any ladies enraged]

 

[Color Me Crazy]

This might sound like the typical girl advice, (or maybe it's just me) but did your girlfriend originally leave you because you couldn't keep it up? I would hope not. But if such was the case, are you sure she's the person you really want to waste yourself on? Both worries and ejaculation? If someone really cared about you (all of you, not just your penis) she would have been supportive and helpful in your situation.

Hopefully, none of this little applies to what really went down. But if so, re-examine why this girl is so important to impress. Is it because you really like her and want to please her, or is it a male pride issue?


If none of that made any sense to you, I would just go with the other guys' advice. Uhh... just relax! :O)


Good luck.

 

[mdomino69]

well she didnt leave me directly because of going soft... it was because it embarassed me a lot, which led to me getting really over sensitive about it and getting upset...
all of it turned into a big fight because i got too emotional

i really think this girl is going to be with me for a long time, and i hope it stays that way

 

[SanDguy_22]

Or you could be like me... and have an extremely low metabolism as well as hormone levels.

Hell the last time i had an erection was propably 2 weeks ago.

But then again psychology plays a very very big part in the whole situation as well.

I think the following link might either help or worsen your situation...

http://www.squizzle.com/moviemain.asp

Scroll to the bottom of the page and click on the movie
"Life as a guy"

 

[Lust Engine]

ive finally won her back (long story) and we are getting to that point again

"Won her back"??

Isn't that a little archaic? Give her some credit here... if she didn't want to come back, there's nothing you could've done to WIN her back. Try to realize that she's not exactly a prize to be fought over. Be who you are. Relax. Don't put up such a chivalrous front & be the white knight on a steed rescuing this fair maiden.

You're putting too much pressure on yourself as well as placing her on such a lofty pedestal. This perception of your role & her perceived role could be part of what's making you go weak.

Try to go easy on yourself!

 

[DuckLover]

Don't worry about it too much. Not having/keeping an erection once in a while is not uncommon or a problem. Having sex for the first time can be pretty stressful, and stress is a major erection-killer.

Tips for future success:
1- Search other threads about first-time sex (not stories, discussion threads)
2- Ensure that you will both have lots of time and lots of privacy.
3- Don't focus on having sex! (That pressure and/or performance anxiety will kill you. Be prepared though-- condoms conveniently placed on both sides of the bed, etc. As mentioned, focus on enjoying each other, on making out, and then if the moment feels right, go for it.)
4- Make sure you really want to have sex with this woman. If you're not certain, your subconscious may be blocking you. Ask yourself why her? why now? Especially given her reaction to your concerns about performance, those questions seem pertinent.

Good luck!

 

[hogjack]

'96

Some great suggestions above. !!!!

I had an erection back in 1996 and, if I recall correctly, I had spent several hours watching a "Baywatch" marathon on cable tv.

That might have been the last marathon and, well, I'll never forget that eight minutes of erection. I even had time to sketch three likenesses of that monster.

Whoa, nellie, what a great feeling!

 

[SanDguy_22]

hogjack...

Is that one of the drawings you were talking about?

a mighty big "Sword" he has too.

 

[KareBear]

What if you tried wearing a cock ring? That should be able to help you stay hard longer.