Erections while receiving anal

[Astroman72]

Curious about others here.

As I've mentioned before, I've never been with a guy, but I've been using dildos/vibrators pretty regularly for 35 years or so. During any kind of anal play, until I've cum once, my cock is virtually always rock-hard.

Not boasting or anything, as it's not an accomplishment and it's nothing I can control. But watching gay porn, I'm amazed at commonly seeing guys taking a nice cock in the ass and their own cock is completely soft. I guess we're all wired slightly differently for sex, but when I see that I'm like "how is that possible?"

Is that the case with some guys, that receiving anal sex interferes with the mechanics of their erection?

 

[Downfor]

Curious about others here.

As I've mentioned before, I've never been with a guy, but I've been using dildos/vibrators pretty regularly for 35 years or so. During any kind of anal play, until I've cum once, my cock is virtually always rock-hard.

Not boasting or anything, as it's not an accomplishment and it's nothing I can control. But watching gay porn, I'm amazed at commonly seeing guys taking a nice cock in the ass and their own cock is completely soft. I guess we're all wired slightly differently for sex, but when I see that I'm like "how is that possible?"

Is that the case with some guys, that receiving anal sex interferes with the mechanics of their erection?

I'm the same way I stay rock hard!

 

[Umanual]

Imo

Hi, from my experience it depends on the whole situation. I would say that when getting pounded in my hole I am most often hard as there has been a level of excitement and arousal. That being said I have also experienced times when I was totally soft during said pounding. Over the years I have found that when I am receiving a hard fucking I tend to focus on him, not myself, ..to me I think that nay be the difference. When I am focusing on the Top and his pleasure I can be soft and enjoying the session. Unless I am getting direct prostate stimulation I do not get an orgasm from such fun... but lean on my prostate and I will blast for you...

 

[UnderMyKilt]

It depends on the circumstances.

With occasional exceptions, I'm pretty much a bottom and sometimes it's just all about about the ass. My pleasure is derived through the sensations in my ass and pleasing my partner. I have real rhythmic pulsing "assgasms", and erection and ejaculation isn't necessary for me to feel pleased and satisfied. Especially if an exceptionally skilled or well hung top is fucking my ass (or fisting me), my entire consciousness is focused on the spread, the ache and the mind boggling sensations in my ass and guts, and I'm almost not even aware of what my cock is doing (nor do I care). I'm also really attuned into making my partner feel good, and milking his cock with my ass rather than playing with my own.

Don't get me wrong, I get hard in foreplay, and almost always get hard and ejaculate at some point during sex and ass play sessions, just not always while I'm being fucked or otherwise penetrated. Other times, and especially with partners with whom I feel an exceptionally personal or romantic attachment, I get hard and stay hard while being fucked and can't wait to spew my load on my belly while fucking on my back or on my partners while riding him cowboy. (Doggy style, I tend to revert into the "all about my ass" mode.) A little Viagra, and it doesn't take much for me, changes the dynamic entirely and I stay hard and spew copious ejaculate no matter what the action.

With toys and solo, you know it is masturbation, where the eventual goal is usually to get hard and cum (ejaculate), but again my hard on can sometimes come and go especially if I'm trying to delay and have an extended session. Also, ejaculation sometimes doesn't come easy when playing with exceptionally girthy toys but when it does, and sometimes as I expel the toy, my orgasm is mind blowing. I've engaged in cam chat (public and private) on a major gay dating site, and playing with huge ass toys, where I've gone from hard to soft to hard to soft for hours, cock edging and ass edging, before finally cumming. On two occasions, don't know if I really passed out or just fell asleep, but I woke up over an hour later with the huge plug still in my ass (cam chat logged my out after 15 minutes so only a few of the other cam chatters actually wondered if I'd died).

 

[jackstud]

Hot guy

 

[Terrylipstick]

Mmmmm

When I’m riding my partner.... that’s when my cock gets hardest. When I am bouncing up and down on his cock, when his hands grip and his fingers dig into my ass, that’s when I’m hardest and that’s when I cum the hardest.... no touching my cock at all.... just from him penetrating me, from the feeling of him deep inside of me. That is when my cock is the hardest and most swollen. Those are my best, my most powerful orgasms

 

[beatingoff]

When I’m riding my partner.... that’s when my cock gets hardest. When I am bouncing up and down on his cock, when his hands grip and his fingers dig into my ass, that’s when I’m hardest and that’s when I cum the hardest.... no touching my cock at all.... just from him penetrating me, from the feeling of him deep inside of me. That is when my cock is the hardest and most swollen. Those are my best, my most powerful orgasms

I find the bottom being hard more appealing, especially when a hands free orgasm occurs

 

[klippert]

I was never hard when i received...even with a toy. There was the anal sensation. but, I had never received an erection....

 

[TallOne]

Do have to recognize that there is a lot of "gay for pay" out there and where you are headspace wise can certainly be reflected down there.

But also lack of an erection certainly doesn't mean it's not being enjoyed either.

 

[carln3346]

I'd love to try so I can find out

 

[tallyguy]

depends

If it's a finger, I get harder. A cock or anything the size of a cock, I get soft or semi soft, but I still like it. Sometimes I can get hard again though with some stroking.

 

[Thot973]

Have to agree that I'm very hit or miss with my erection based on my head. Sometimes being contorted or trying to concentrate too much prevents my erection. If I'm just having a good time, versus making a video, then I'm rock hard.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Curious about others here.

As I've mentioned before, I've never been with a guy, but I've been using dildos/vibrators pretty regularly for 35 years or so. During any kind of anal play, until I've cum once, my cock is virtually always rock-hard.

Not boasting or anything, as it's not an accomplishment and it's nothing I can control. But watching gay porn, I'm amazed at commonly seeing guys taking a nice cock in the ass and their own cock is completely soft. I guess we're all wired slightly differently for sex, but when I see that I'm like "how is that possible?"

Is that the case with some guys, that receiving anal sex interferes with the mechanics of their erection?

A doctor friend of mine said that those type of instances happen because the brain can only process the strongest sensation at a time...

 

[klippert]

I was only erect for a GF that used her dildo on me...Never when I received a real cock...I only did it 3 times, since I was top when I chose the lifestyle

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

Hard cocks

When I ever watch bi or gay porn, I especially love watching when a man is getting topped, and he's got an erection. It's an obvious indication of how aroused he is, and there's no hiding the fact he's excited. I find that very arousing!

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Mine has gotten firm, but never hard. That hasn’t tempered the enjoyment though.

 

[roseburgsteve]

i am more bottom my self when it comes to being with guys. i have taken a lot of cock in my ass over the years and i have always gotten only semi hard. but i have also cum huge loads while being soft or semi hard from being fucked.and those are hands free orgasms.

 

[none2_none2]

This all kind of reminds me of the US commercial about peony syndrome (curved penis). It starts by saying that men comes in all shapes and sizes, but there is no one normal, but there is a normal for you...

The same can be applied to guys reactions to having something up their ass. Some are hard, some are semi hard, and some are completely soft. I used to be of a mind set that if a man I was penetrating wasn't hard/and or wasn't dripping pre-cum, then I wasn't doing it right. I did find that if while you fuck a man, if you do some stroking if he is hard, it "might" keep him hard. I also realized that MANY men do not have much if any pre-cum. (I myself don't produce any noticeable amount.) Still for the longest time, I "measured" my own success as a top if the bottom man was hard, maybe dripping, and of course eventually shot. While those things are hot, it puts a lot of pressure on the TOP, and the bottom that there is a "correct" way to top and bottom.

The real fact is that there is no one way. ALL that really matters is if the bottom really enjoyed it enough that he may want you to do it again (maybe not that same night, but a repeat performance sometime.)

My partner was one of the strangest bottoms I had, and it definitely took some adjustment. I could get him hard some times while I fucked him by manipulating his penis, but almost all the time he would eventually tell me to leave his penis alone -- for some reason it was TOO much stimulation. I don't mean I would hard jack him, but would rub him to keep him hard. Still I know he couldn't have been faking pleasure all the time, it was simply his nature to focus on my fucking him. I was also never a pounder, but a glider as I never wanted to come a cross as an average sized poker. (As I have said in earlier posts, my first years was without topping because I was told good tops were hung and glided, and bad tops were average to small cocks that "poked". I never wanted to be poker.) Still I would have to speed up to a frenzy for my man because that is what turned him on at some point...

Anyway, love and long term relations can sometimes effect what turns you on a bit. Over the years, I got so my biggest turn on's in porn were still the same types of bottom males -- hairy, masculine, muscular. However, I found more of a turn on if the bottom was soft? The biggest reason is that it reminded me of the love of my life and how he reacts. I think another one too is that sometimes in porn they give the performers viagra so that they never go soft. I don't think that is that common expecially for middle-aged guys and older.

Anyway, just remember all that matters is that the bottom is enjoying himself enough that he may want your company AND your cock up his ass again sometime. While a hard cock, dripping precum, and an ejaculation are obviously easy examples of a Bottom man enjoying himself, men are such complex animals that you learn that men are different, and you have to "learn" what it takes to turn them on when you want to fuck them. One of the best ways is to communicate, and of course observe body language.

What I wouldn't give to have a working erection to use more than my fingers/thumb on my guy. Until that time, I have to settle for j/o and watching porn that reminds me of my wonder partner's soft cock, yet stimulated asshole. Bottom men are such a joy to pleasure anally. As I've said many times, making love to a man's behind is the closest thing to a little piece of heaven on earth.

 

[Jaime1493]

Erection while being fucked

I always get hard when I am fucked and love it, I mostly shoot without even touching my cock. I have been doing anal sex since I was 15 with my best friend and others. I am versatile. I later learned oral, but it was many years later. Now I like everything. I have been married for 35 years, but the sex stopped when she went through the change, and I have a guy friend, but his sex drive is way lower than mine, so I am looking for a guy who likes once or twice a week.

 

[towigl]

I am a complete bottom and I’ve only gotten hard a couple of times. The enjoyment I get is when I can make sure the man I’m with is getting the most pleasure. At those moments I want him to be the centre of the universe and all that matters is him and that is where I get my pleasure

 

[SweetAnnie40]

My husband and I engage in strapon sex almost exclusively these days (long story). It is always wrapped in other erotic circumstances (that sounded awkward... he's a sissy so he's always dolled up and I talk to him in a special way). I'd say he gets erect 90% of the time and cums hands free in his panties 50% of the time when I fuck his ass. I'll use my hand on him the other times.

 

[Escierto]

I get firm but not really hard while my girlfriend fucks me. A couple of times I was close to orgasm with her but she changed the motion or position so it didn’t happen. I wasn’t disappointed at all because for me, it’s all about her pleasure and her orgasm. Getting her cock in my ass and taking her cum is really all I care about.

 

[Astroman72]

My husband and I engage in strapon sex almost exclusively these days (long story). It is always wrapped in other erotic circumstances (that sounded awkward... he's a sissy so he's always dolled up and I talk to him in a special way). I'd say he gets erect 90% of the time and cums hands free in his panties 50% of the time when I fuck his ass. I'll use my hand on him the other times.

That is so hot!

 

[Jerseyshore]

What an interesting thread. I can identify with many of you here.

My husband loves it when I cum first, as he loves the feel of my asshole tightening around his cock as he thrusts. He will jerk me off or I will do it myself. When I am face down, I usually let him enjoy and submit completely, feeling comfortable and secure.

 

[bi_cpl_with_crossdresser]

Never had a real cock but even when I think about doing any anal at all I am rock hard from start to finish.