Erectile Dysfunction/High Blood Pressure/Stress

[NickCarraway12]

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

 

[KUJACK]

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

cialis or viagra

 

[HisArpy]

As men age we naturally get less vigorous. Around 40 seems to be the point in time for this. Your meds and the stress situation aren't helping either. My advice:

Talk to your doctor. He may change your BP meds or prescribe one of the blue pills for you. Have him check your T level while you're there. It's a simple blood test. Testosterone supplements are available in different forms and they do work if your T level is low to help you with your desire levels. Not so much for erectile issues, but for desire and interest they do help.

Reduce your stress level. It is not helping you and is endangering your health by making physical changes in your body AND messing with your head because of those changes. Whatever it takes, do it. Or increase your life insurance. Your choice.

Eat better and exercise. Talk to your doc before beginning an exercise program because of your BP. Stop drinking coffee. Period.

There are also herbal supplements and things like cock rings that can help.

 

[FGB]

Ask the Doctor for some samples of cialis or viagra...exorcise more.

 

[onehotwife4u]

...exorcise more.

In church or in private?

 

[UnderMyKilt]

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

For starters, see an MD and discuss it honestly and frankly. You are entitled to a satisfying sex life and there is no embarrassment in asking for medical help.

You didn't mention weight. Normal, slightly overweight, obese? Extra weight is bad for blood pressure and bad for sexual performance. If you're overweight, or less than fit, work on it. It will help the ED issue.

I'll be 60 next month and though I don't have high blood pressure, and have never had classical symptoms of ED or an erection problem to the point that it really interfered with sex, I knew that my erections weren't as hard as they once were or might lose some of their rigidity (off and on) during sex. In that regard, I got some help from the MD and only occasionally, when planning a very special night of sex, would take either Viagra or Cialis to ensure that I was "all that I could be". Of the two, I prefer Cialis.

I was also overweight though I carried it well and most folks would never guess I weighed what I did.

Several months ago I had an epiphany (to be truthful I got disgusted with myself) and decided that I was going to make positive lifestyle changes. I changed my diet and limited fat intake (except for carefully chosen sources of monounsaturated fat). I cut back on red meats, eliminated added sugar and sugar containing products, cut back on carbs in general, added a whole slew of vegetables, and practice sensible portion control in general.

I used to be a distance runner, which was my primary means of maintaining fitness, but a cervical spine injury and multi-level discectomy and fusion surgery ended that and started my fitness decline. I can, however, WALK and I'm currently walking at least five miles a day at a rapid pace and am doing weight and resistance training to the extent that my spine condition will allow.

The results? As of today (Edited 8/6/17) around 79 pounds lost and seven pounds under my original target weight. Energy levels are up. Erections are rock hard, I feel like the Energizer Bunny, I can last like I am a young man again, and everything about sex is more satisfying. Sexual positions that had become difficult with extra weight around the gut, are now back in the playbook again.

A friend of mine always used to joke, "For every ten pounds you lose your dick gains an inch." Well, not quite that, but when you no longer have flab on your gut and in your mons area, you certainly make the best of what you have. The sexual benefits of improved cardiovascular health are obvious and, to be blunt, I'm horny all the time again.

Stress? Yes, I have stress and though I'm retired from a very stressful occupation I now have the stress of being the President of a non-profit which, as they say, is like herding cats. Fitness makes that easier to deal with as well.

I'm not intending to be preachy, just enthusiastic. If you're not fit, just get up and start moving. The benefits are fantastic.

 

[PapaRomantic]

Make an appointment to see a urologist - this is one of their specialties. They will examine all aspects of your life, including blood tests for low testosterone among other things. They can look at your meds and make recommendations for changes. If they determine meds are the answer, they will look at your lifestyle and make the proper recommendation for you.

My family doctor drug her feet on treatment, so I self-referred. Smartest thing I have ever done, except for marrying my wife, who stayed with me when she wasn't getting sex. Now we're back at it like bunnies again, having more sex in the last three months than at any period in our lives, and that includes our first year of marriage!

Good luck!

 

[bone251]

EDI have a bad case of ED. My treatment is incredible. I use the injection-able meds from a compounding pharmacy. The I use a rubber o ring. I put the o ring around balls and penis. They are $1 or so at the hardware store. I am really big and use a 2" . Just buy every size between too small and too big. Put the balls in first then the penis. the ring stops the blood flow from leaving the penis on the top. You want flow to go through the bottom. The best prices are at a compounding pharmacy for ED meds. Many do not market to the Dr offices so getting info from the pharmacy may help the Dr. Go to a Urologist. They do ED like a factory. They will teach how to inject and prescribe the meds. My wife calls me a telephone pole. Pills can have side effects. With injection-ables you can choose to use a full dose for intercourse or a smaller one for a hand job.

 

[Hedonboii22]

Exercising would be beneficial in many ways. Help increase circulation in the body, decrease stress levels/stress hormones, increase testerone production and could help with your hbp
An herbal test booster can help a lot too, they aren't cheap for ones that are actually going to raise levels. Taking l-arginine for blood flow would be great

 

[FGB]

http://www3.usa-pharmacy.us/

 

[UnderMyKilt]

http://www3.usa-pharmacy.us/

Funny thing. But I have this aversion to doing business, and sharing personal or financial information, with domains registered and located in the Russian Federation.

Domain Whois record

Queried whois.nic.us with "usa-pharmacy.us"...

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[FGB]

In church or in private?

What ever it takes!

 

[UnderMyKilt]

As many of us have been saying.

"How exercise can improve your sex life"

"In men, regular exercise appears to be a natural Viagra. It’s associated with a lower risk of erectile problems. In one study, sedentary middle-aged men assigned to participate in a vigorous exercise program for nine months reported more frequent sexual activity, improved sexual function and greater satisfaction. Those whose fitness levels increased most saw the biggest improvements in their sex lives."

 

[PerpetualNotion]

As many of us have been saying.

"How exercise can improve your sex life"

"In men, regular exercise appears to be a natural Viagra. It’s associated with a lower risk of erectile problems. In one study, sedentary middle-aged men assigned to participate in a vigorous exercise program for nine months reported more frequent sexual activity, improved sexual function and greater satisfaction. Those whose fitness levels increased most saw the biggest improvements in their sex lives."

Wow. Was not expecting this to be my first ever post but I was clicking around and here I am.

NickCarraway12: If you have a high stress job and a sedentary lifestyle, that's really bad for you. It's particularly bad for men who are genetically supposed to be active hunter-gatherers and it's even worse for older men, because you have to do more at your age to offset the adverse effects. Whatever else you choose to do in terms of talking to your GP etc, the more physically active you are, the better equipped your body is to cope with stress. Channeling stress into physical activity is a much healthier coping mechanism. On a biochemical level, our bodies do not know what to do with acute stress that doesn't result in a phsyical fight or flight response. Our bodies get keyed up and then we just sit there, mainlining caffeine. If this is you, try to incorporate more physical activity into your day. Not everybody can get horny when they're chronically stressed. Also look at your work life balance. You might be in a high stress job but you should still be able to mentally leave it behind when you go home for the day. You have a right to downtime and a personal life. Try to examine your job objectively and identify ways you can perhaps work smarter rather than harder, delegate more or negotiate a better deal with your bosses/colleagues.

I know all this is easy to sit and type but I've had my share of chronic stress myself and believe me when I tell you, there's a finite length of time you can do that to yourself for, irrespective of what you stand to gain.

 

[WatcherRob]

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

My urologist introduced me to a professional level vacuum assist device several years ago. I love it and better yet my wife loves it's results. It takes some experimenting to get the right restriction ring size but when you do it is amazing. No drug side effects. The only drawback my wife has is she can't feel my ejculation because the tings hold it back.

 

[Bette_coquette]

I'm 59 years old, female, and post-menopausal. My libido is nearly dead and my vaginal wall is changing to the point that sex is painful, even with gallons of lube.

My husband and I used to have an amazing and kinky sex life with me topping him regularly. Since menopause and the decline in libido, our roles have changed in the bedroom to that of Mr and Mrs Boring. It's not his fault. It's mine. I didn't know how to live with this new part of me, the part that has lost the spark, the amazing orgasms, the female ejaculation, all of it.

I've found there are many, many online resources that help couples get through this sort of thing and on to the other side, finding a life filled with pleasure and satisfaction for both parties. We have begun a new journey and I'm so excited to skip down that road of exploration with him. We're even looking at a visit to a toy store next time we're in Vegas (we haven't used toys in probably 3 years).

I hope you and your wife can work on this together. Communication and maybe some initial research is key. Best of luck!

 

[bone251]

I'm 59 years old, female, and post-menopausal. My libido is nearly dead and my vaginal wall is changing to the point that sex is painful, even with gallons of lube.

My husband and I used to have an amazing and kinky sex life with me topping him regularly. Since menopause and the decline in libido, our roles have changed in the bedroom to that of Mr and Mrs Boring. It's not his fault. It's mine. I didn't know how to live with this new part of me, the part that has lost the spark, the amazing orgasms, the female ejaculation, all of it.

I've found there are many, many online resources that help couples get through this sort of thing and on to the other side, finding a life filled with pleasure and satisfaction for both parties. We have begun a new journey and I'm so excited to skip down that road of exploration with him. We're even looking at a visit to a toy store next time we're in Vegas (we haven't used toys in probably 3 years).

I hope you and your wife can work on this together. Communication and maybe some initial research is key. Best of luck!

Would a female condom keep the friction down?
I am clueless, just trying to think and help.

 

[suckonsimon]

Nick,

If you are advised that your HBP means that medication or herbals can only be to minimum dose or are out altogether, do please look into wearing a cockring. And I mean the exact right cockring for you, which may take you quite an adventure to determine which it is. I would advise you consider the kind which fit 'behind' your balls. cock and balls all though it. See the thread from my signature for some ideas. I've got to know a lot about them in relation to maintaining a firm erection, so do put up your questions on that thread if you want, or else pm me.

You might also consider one of the erection enhancing penis creams. These are no way miracle cures, but might just help some.

Most important thing is that you and your woman keep up an open and loving conversation about this, so that she can help you keep the 'failure anxiety' at bay; that is the real killer of erections!

Have you considered how time of day affects you? Bedtime might be the very worst time to try and get it up, and you might be able to be imaginative about some alternatives.

 

[yukonnights]

Lot's of great info here, but if you want to read some more on this issue here's a link to another thread on the topic -> http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=436328

 

[ChickenAttack]

Maybe you just don't have attraction to your wife anymore? It happens, you know. On the other hand, one of my friends had a same problem and it turned out that he really had ED. But he has dealt with this problem. I have obvious advice for you - go and see a doctor. That's what my friend did. The doctor told him to buy a damn expensive medicine, but he'd found cheap ED drugs in another place. He has bought generic. And it was a good decision because he'd saved a lot of money this way.

 

[Jada59]

Ask the Doctor for some samples of cialis or viagra...exorcise more.

I just saw this. I think you meant "exercise". But what do I know! They say the devil is in the details!

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Since this thread was started... Viagra is now available in its generic form. Go to GoodRx and search for a coupon for it, it should cost you about $30 for 30 20mg pills. You will probably need to take three to five pills.

Also talk with your doctor, a lot. And all you need to really do is walk. You don't need to run, jog, or bust your balls lifting weights. All you have to do is walk. Or if you have a swimming pool available, swim laps. Don't try for a speed record, just swim. Slow and easy wins the race.

The idea is to exercise the heart though exercise, not stress.

 

[bone251]

Talk to a Dr

For me, the injection-able ED meds are most effective and have the fewest side effects.

Sometimes you need to find a compounding pharmacy.

 

[SisterJezabel]

As men age we naturally get less vigorous. Around 40 seems to be the point in time for this. Your meds and the stress situation aren't helping either. My advice:

Talk to your doctor. He may change your BP meds or prescribe one of the blue pills for you. Have him check your T level while you're there. It's a simple blood test. Testosterone supplements are available in different forms and they do work if your T level is low to help you with your desire levels. Not so much for erectile issues, but for desire and interest they do help.

Reduce your stress level. It is not helping you and is endangering your health by making physical changes in your body AND messing with your head because of those changes. Whatever it takes, do it. Or increase your life insurance. Your choice.

Eat better and exercise. Talk to your doc before beginning an exercise program because of your BP. Stop drinking coffee. Period.

There are also herbal supplements and things like cock rings that can help.

This! And even ask if your wife wants to be present for the consultation.

Is your BP high from just stress or are other lifestyle factors there too? Can you and your wife spend time going for a walk around the block in the mornings or evenings together? Also remember that sex is not the only way you can demonstrate your love and affection for her.

 

[Scareltt]

I have questions..

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

I’ll start with this..

How often do you masturbate?

Have you considered giving up total control of your orgasms to your wife?

Viagra was originally invented to be a drug to lower blood pressure. The erections were a side effect.

I would try the below.

Here are blood pressure medications that do not often cause ED:
Alpha-blockers like doxazosin, prazosin, and terazosin.
ACE inhibitors like lisinopril, benazepril, enalapril, ramipril, quinapril, and ramipril.
ARBs like losartan, irbesartan, and valsartan.

https://www.goodrx.com/erectile-dysfunction/can-medications-cause-erectile-dysfunction