Enforced chastity

[gingermango]

How many folks here play with the fantasy or reality of enforced chastity? This is something Goddess and I have discussed and fooled around with for years now. It started out very simply. At first, I was required to ask permission before orgasming while we had intercourse. When I would have the urge to seek release and she wasn't in the mood, I would have to ask permission to masturbate (which was often - though not always! - granted), and then describe the fantasy I'd used to help me get off, or listen to her tell me a dirty story while I did it.

As things progressed, however, and as Goddess has asserted more and more control in our everyday relationship she started denying me permission to masturbate more and more often, and during intercourse she began making me not just ask for permission to orgasm, but to plead for it, and sometimes scream out loud begging for it before she would say yes.

The idea has evidently been a very powerful one for her because she has now taken me another very big step - I am being required to wear an acrylic, long-term chastity device called The Curve (similar to but larger than the CBT-2000 and -3000 models some may be familiar with). I have been denied orgasm for eight days now and I'm on my sixth day wearing The Curve. I have removed it twice so far - Saturday I was permitted to remove it for about 20 minutes while showering and shaving my genitals and to clean it, and then again for about an hour Saturday evening when Goddess teased me, tormented me, climbed on top and rode me then hopped off before I could cum (she had two orgasms before she stopped, however). Other than that I have worn it nonstop. I wore it, locked up tight, while Goddess went out with her boy-toy last week for a fun little fuck-fest without me, and I've worrn it to argue at the second-highest court in my state this morning, with no one but me and Goddess the wiser to my state.

I find my reactions to my situation very interesting. I am extremely horny all the time now and many times a day I feel myself trying to grow hard within the confines of the plastic cage, but frustrated by the dimensions such that I cannot achieve a full erection, and I am deliciously and agonizingly constricted at the same time. I am also feeling very, very submissive to Goddess, she who has caged me and bent me to her control in this way. Goddess has taken to chatting and flirting with other people online (men and women) and always manages to let them know that she has a very understanding husband under her control who cannot object to her flirtations, knowing that it drives me wild and makes that cage even more oppressive and painfully pleasurable. She makes it a point to tell me of her chats and what they talked about doing while I am restrained, watching and delighting at my reactions as she describes their conversations.

More interesting, I find that I really, really want to orgasm but the masochistic pleasure in denial is nearly as good a stimulant as the release itself would be. These eight days are probably the longest time I've gone without an orgasm since I learned to masturbate at age 12 or so. I still very much WANT to cum, but I also want to push myself, to prove my devotion by going longer and longer under Goddess's control and subject to her prevention. The dichotomy is very interesting. Last night Goddess seemed to intimate that she might release me and allow me to cum and I was both overjoyed at the prospect but also somewhat disappointed that she didn't want to deny me longer. As it turns out I wasn't released, which was somehow both frustrating and rewarding. Weird, yes I know.

Anyway, I would be very interested in hearing others' experiences or fantasies along these lines, whether from males or females and from the perspective of either a PYL enforcing chastity or a pyl experiencing it.

 

[tantalized]

More interesting, I find that I really, really want to orgasm but the masochistic pleasure in denial is nearly as good a stimulant as the release itself would be. These eight days are probably the longest time I've gone without an orgasm since I learned to masturbate at age 12 or so. I still very much WANT to cum, but I also want to push myself, to prove my devotion by going longer and longer under Goddess's control and subject to her prevention. The dichotomy is very interesting. Last night Goddess seemed to intimate that she might release me and allow me to cum and I was both overjoyed at the prospect but also somewhat disappointed that she didn't want to deny me longer. As it turns out I wasn't released, which was somehow both frustrating and rewarding. Weird, yes I know.

Weird, perhaps, but I certainly know the feeling. And I don't even use a Curve. If given the choice, I will always choose to cum. But when denied, I'm overjoyed. Wait until you hit two weeks ... a month ...

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I don't think of myself as a sub, maybe a switch, but this is one of the many activities I want to try. This is just the part of me that wants to be domiated by a woman. Being denied release would be a very agonizing pleasure especially when she has sex with you for her release but will give you none. My hope is that I find a lady to be with that would at times play this way for an undetermined length of time.

 

[serijules]

My Owner has had me in her control chastity-wise for nearly two years now. I am not allowed to touch and/or orgasm without her permission, and for the most part am not even allowed to ask for that permission until she orders me to or is touching me. I am on average allowed to come 2-3 times a month, sometimes less. The longest I have gone is about 30ish days I think.

I don't think I would enjoy being allowed to touch or come without her control anymore, it is so ingrained in me. I understand what you say about WANTING to orgasm, but wanting to be pushed too, see how far you can be taken. I enjoy orgasms very much...but I enjoy the torture of being denied them even more.

I don't have a chastity belt and to be honest, Im not very interested in the idea. I prefer being required to follow her orders. It's more powerful for me that way, I think, to have my self control and devotion and obedience tested. However, she did have my outer labia pierced this weekend with the intentions of locking it, and that is also very very powerful for me. Probably because its not quite as "ugly" to me as a chastity belt. What can I say...I'm a girl LOL. My cunt is so CUTE now! Can't wait until it is locked.

 

[FurryFury]

This is not my thing but I understand it can be very rewarding for others.

Fury

 

[gingermango]

It continues to be an interesting, stimulating, frustrating and intriguing journey for me. I've been caged now for 7 days now except for the time spent shaving last Saturday and a short period of play for Goddess's pleasure that night when I was not permitted to cum. It's been 9 days since I was allowed an orgasm, which is by far the longest period of time I've ever gone since puberty. All I can add at this point is it's amazing how much most of take the ability to have an orgasm for granted. Whether we actually do it or not, most of us know if we had a really insatiable itch we COULD run off to the bathroom or the bedroom and relieve ourselves. Now that I have been denied that simple right (apparently permanently) I find myself constantly on the edge of arousal and it's a pretty amazing feeling.

 

[Netzach]

M's vasectomy has made wearing the CB intolerable still. I do like the feeling of having that key in my hot little hand! It never really appealed to me strongly until that moment. We're bummed. Although we've been playing with prostate milking some, and I'm kicking around introducing restrictions again.

 

[gingermango]

M's vasectomy has made wearing the CB intolerable still.

My vasectomy last November liberated us from some unpleasant things (like condoms for our own play and birth control pills for Goddess) but damn it was an unpleasant couple of weeks to heal up. I didn't have any infection or undue complications but I was very sensitive and had very noticable lumps inside my scrotum for several months.

 

[Lady_In_Black]

Wow, ginger, I wish I could find a boy like you. I love the thought of having some one locked into one, and making him beg just to be taken out of it!

 

[chatbug]

I don't think of myself as a sub, maybe a switch, but this is one of the many activities I want to try. This is just the part of me that wants to be domiated by a woman. Being denied release would be a very agonizing pleasure especially when she has sex with you for her release but will give you none. My hope is that I find a lady to be with that would at times play this way for an undetermined length of time.

I explore forced chastity in some of my Literotica stories, but I'm not sure how much I would enjoy chastity. It would depend somewhat on what the woman wants, but like leeroy I'm pretty sure I would enjoy sexually serving a woman for a weekend or so while locked up. I'm not sure I would like being locked up for longer periods, but if there's a woman out there that would like to try me...

You might enjoy this Craigslist post. I don't know if it's true, but you never know.

 

[gingermango]

Wow, ginger, I wish I could find a boy like you. I love the thought of having some one locked into one, and making him beg just to be taken out of it!

Thank you, Lady_In_Black. Goddess has already turned a deaf ear to my pleas. She told me last night that I am far too weak to be trusted with my own pleasure and that it would be too easy for me to run off and masturbate without permission so I had better get used to wearing this permanently.

Here is a picture, though I have to apologize for the quality. I was required to take this picture last week at work with my phone cam. Goddess wanted to ensure that I hadn't gotten weak during my first day and attempt to remove it.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I explore forced chastity in some of my Literotica stories, but I'm not sure how much I would enjoy chastity. It would depend somewhat on what the woman wants, but like leeroy I'm pretty sure I would enjoy sexually serving a woman for a weekend or so while locked up. I'm not sure I would like being locked up for longer periods, but if there's a woman out there that would like to try me...

You might enjoy this Craigslist post. I don't know if it's true, but you never know.

There is just a little part of me that wants to hand the reins of my life to a domme, there is alot of freedom in having no choices. Not having someone to be sexual in my life, not having that release is not a big deal.CBT just interests me greatly because its a form of bondage. So maybe down the road I might find some fem that will be ok with a part time sub.

 

[the captians wench]

Okay, It's been what like three weeks for me now since I turned over my orgasms to my Master. In that time I've had 2 orgasms that I had to beg for. (my phone bill is going to be outragous this month for all the desperate pleading text I've been sending him.) But a new problem has come up. When ever I do something totally un expected that he loves (ie when I took a pic of "your box is full" written across my body in lipstick and posted it to tell him his pm box was full) he gives me what he calls free passes. Now I can use these any time I want. And the first time he gave me one I used it right away. Lately I've sort of been collecting them as I'm in fear that he's going to start cutting down on giving me permission. This has been a terrible problem as I don't know if I should or shouldn't use a pass, when he's going to grant me a permission one, or if he'll make up for the passes by denying me permission ones when he normally would give them to me. Then there's this whole idea that he's been sort of dangling above my head of me going a month with out one...so I almost want to save every pass I can just in case he does decide to do that. But then again, what if he doesn't, and I'm holding on to these passes and making myself suffer when I could just use them....ARG! This is so frusterating!

I'm so loving this

anyone else ever get a free pass?

 

[gingermango]

ARG! This is so frusterating!

I think that's the whole point!

I have only had about four orgasms since Goddess first locked me in the chastity device nearly four weeks ago - she took pity on me and allowed me to have one Saturday afternoon before locking me into it again for my 20 year high school reunion Saturday night. She was quite amused to see all my old friends hanging around chit-chatting and watching old girlfriends sort of half-way flirt, knowing that my cock was locked up safe and snug and she was holding the key the whole night.

 

[the captians wench]

I think that's the whole point!

I have only had about four orgasms since Goddess first locked me in the chastity device nearly four weeks ago - she took pity on me and allowed me to have one Saturday afternoon before locking me into it again for my 20 year high school reunion Saturday night. She was quite amused to see all my old friends hanging around chit-chatting and watching old girlfriends sort of half-way flirt, knowing that my cock was locked up safe and snug and she was holding the key the whole night.

I know it is...and like I said I'm loving every second of it.

I know he loves to hear me beg for it, and I also know he loves to hear how frusterated and absolutely maddeningly horny I am. And I love telling him.I think he's taking it a bit easy on me as this is very new and well up until I brought the subject up that I would like this he was very much encouraging my self play. Sorta get her hooked then take it away deal

Sounds like an awesome feeling, maybe even more so with such an obvious symbol of her power.

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

Personally, as the Mistress, I like the feel of cord or suede for CBT. There are real life complications that have made CBT something my sub and I can only do during sex play. ROFL, he's somnambulistic in the extreme and still suffers night terrors. The one time I bound him in a contraption, he had a night terror and thought it was a large insect trying to eat his penis. He was screaming, tearing at the bindings and he hurt himself. So, only under supervision do we do this.

That said, the art of CBT with cords or rope is one I thoroughly enjoyed learning. And I relish the mewls he makes as I tie him up and restrict his genitals. And that I adore, LOL!

I asked his opinion on this and he agreed with you, gingermango. He said it's the realization that he can't free himself, combined with the agonizingly erotic wait for my touch or permission, that makes his want to be bound almost more than he wants to be free.

 

[catalina_francisco]

We are mostly in the opposite camp to enforced chastity. He enjoys the fact we are both highly sexual beings and likes to use that to torture and enforce in ways which do not train me to curb those desires, or deny him the delight of experiencing orgasms with me. That being said, he is in complete control of my orgasms in that I am not able to have them unless he gives express permission for it, but instead of denying or rationing them, he likes to set me limits I must reach both with him and when he is at work. It can be just as demanding and controlling, not to mention exhausting...and then if he runs a few days of excessively high limits, it is torture to then come back down to a more normal level for us which I imagine must be similar in feeling to those being totally denied with only the rare release.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

Each to their own but my husband and I are waaaay not into chastity. I'm not saying I wouldn't try it if it was important to someone I cared about and had a relationship with but it's certainly waaaay far down on my (and his) personal list of items to try.

Fury

 

[serijules]

I'm so loving this

anyone else ever get a free pass?

She mentioned the idea once and I personally am not sure what I'd do with it. I'm so used to orgasms belonging completely to HER on HER whim that the idea of being allowed a pass just doesn't appeal to me much. Early on in my orgasm denial training I would have died for one...now it's just too ingrained in me to enjoy pleasuring on my own whim.

 

[AAkasha]

I really enjoy chastity with partners that are NOT my live-in, permanent man. I like penetration too much and like him to cum, and like to take advantage of the many uses of cum...and don't like to be without either of those for a long period of time.

That said, I like LONG periods of chastity. I've had a long distance chastity slave caged and locked for more than 3 months.

There's no point in cock-locking without teasing and denial, though. I see no point in locking up a man's cock unless the teasing that goes along with it makes him horny and desperate, and that desperation is used to make him do humiliating or painful things -- that's where I get most of my pleasure. I am a sadist..and I like men to submit willingly to humiliation and pain in order to please me. I found a long, long time ago the best way to get a man to agree to *anything* is to control his cock.

Akasha

 

[FurryFury]

I really enjoy chastity with partners that are NOT my live-in, permanent man. I like penetration too much and like him to cum, and like to take advantage of the many uses of cum...and don't like to be without either of those for a long period of time.

That said, I like LONG periods of chastity. I've had a long distance chastity slave caged and locked for more than 3 months.

There's no point in cock-locking without teasing and denial, though. I see no point in locking up a man's cock unless the teasing that goes along with it makes him horny and desperate, and that desperation is used to make him do humiliating or painful things -- that's where I get most of my pleasure. I am a sadist..and I like men to submit willingly to humiliation and pain in order to please me. I found a long, long time ago the best way to get a man to agree to *anything* is to control his cock.

Akasha

And THIS is why I LOVE ya! *smiles and smiles*

Fury

 

[wouldloveto]

I really enjoy chastity with partners that are NOT my live-in, permanent man. I like penetration too much and like him to cum, and like to take advantage of the many uses of cum...and don't like to be without either of those for a long period of time.

That said, I like LONG periods of chastity. I've had a long distance chastity slave caged and locked for more than 3 months.

There's no point in cock-locking without teasing and denial, though. I see no point in locking up a man's cock unless the teasing that goes along with it makes him horny and desperate, and that desperation is used to make him do humiliating or painful things -- that's where I get most of my pleasure. I am a sadist..and I like men to submit willingly to humiliation and pain in order to please me. I found a long, long time ago the best way to get a man to agree to *anything* is to control his cock.

Akasha

Wow!!! were do I submit my application to submit to you????

 

[Netzach]

We are mostly in the opposite camp to enforced chastity. He enjoys the fact we are both highly sexual beings and likes to use that to torture and enforce in ways which do not train me to curb those desires, or deny him the delight of experiencing orgasms with me. That being said, he is in complete control of my orgasms in that I am not able to have them unless he gives express permission for it, but instead of denying or rationing them, he likes to set me limits I must reach both with him and when he is at work. It can be just as demanding and controlling, not to mention exhausting...and then if he runs a few days of excessively high limits, it is torture to then come back down to a more normal level for us which I imagine must be similar in feeling to those being totally denied with only the rare release.

Catalina

I like to do the deadly combo of both, so there'll be a long dry spell and then a phone call in the middle of the day to go jack it. And then another. And then another. Or "you'd better rub it raw all Saturday, and tell me how many times you got off and if I don't like the number, you're not getting off for 3 months!" or whatever such.

 

[gingermango]

Ah, my old thread returned to life.

Just in case in anyone is wondering, I am still in chastity intermittently - sometimes for weeks at a time, sometimes released for a week or two until Goddess feels the need to reestablish control, or sometimes just when she wants to make me suffer for no reason at all.