encouragement for novice sub wife

[Chris289]

Hi this is my first time so forgive the mistakes.
I am trying to get my wife interested in becoming my sub. She enjoyes a little spanking, which gets her very wet. I also tease her a great deal with forplay patting and pulling her pussy. The Question is how do I promote her submissive role, she will and does not drink and therefor relax.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hi this is my first time so forgive the mistakes.
I am trying to get my wife interested in becoming my sub. She enjoyes a little spanking, which gets her very wet. I also tease her a great deal with forplay patting and pulling her pussy. The Question is how do I promote her submissive role, she will and does not drink and therefor relax.

Jeez, you mean married people have sex with each other? Who the fuck would believe THAT?!?!

Anyhoo, my advice would be to do the normal romantic stuff...candle-lit dinner, followed by bathing her, giving her a full body massage, maybe get her off once or twice...see how receptive to new ideas she is at that point.

 

[Chris289]

encouragement for novice sub wife!

We have talked about restraint many times but she does not like, even fears being tied up and this is a difficult hurdle to overcome. Any ideas?
On one occasion I tied her to a chair and for two hours she enjoyed being blindfolded and subjected to first massage then slapping her pussy. Tickling untill she wet herself which made her humiliated then whipping her pussy lips gently with a cane. After she said it was very sexy, but would not want to be tied again.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: encouragement for novice sub wife

Jeez, you mean married people have sex with each other? Who the fuck would believe THAT?!?!

Well we do, but then again some do consider us fairly extreme. ROTFLMAO

Catalina

 

[TwistaFate]

sounds like you want her to be in a role she is not all that comfortable with, slowly but surely does win the race, take your time and let her get used to the idea.

 

[FungiUg]

sounds like you want her to be in a role she is not all that comfortable with, slowly but surely does win the race, take your time and let her get used to the idea.

Applauds

Couldn't have said it better myself!

One thing at a time... and I would leave bondage off the list for a time since she seems to be very uncomfortable with that.

 

[Howling_Ire]

well if the objection is to being tied up, perhaps you could build up some trust just useing the blind fold. i mean that can be really erotic, and i think most of us at some point has had fun with ice cubes, or at least something like that.

 

[curious_ cat]

There are so many different avenues you could take this. What about encouraging her to go braless out to dinner? Just the thought of "being bad" might be a turn-on for her.

Or how about telling her you wish to be in charge for .... say 3 hours .... during which you will just play with her in ways in which she is comfortable. By doing so, she will begin to trust giving up the control to you.

Then slowly incorporate little changes...like a blindfold...or maybe a hard slap to the ass now and then.

She might like nipple clamps....but be sure to make them not too painful at first.

Does she like humiliation? Does she get turned on if you call her a slut?

You need to figure out what turns her on and go with it.

And good luck!!

curious_cat

 

[bunny bondage]

well, there's always the old standby advice for situations like this:

print out some stories from this site which have a female sub doing things you like. have her read it and tell you what she thought about it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

well, there's always the old standby advice for situations like this:

print out some stories from this site which have a female sub doing things you like. have her read it and tell you what she thought about it.

..and perhaps watch her reactions while reading them, covertly if she is uncomfortable with you watching....that way you can guage her reactions. She may find it too uncomfortabel to say she liked a particular part of a story at this stage, even if you acknowledge your liking to her in advance. Emotions can be funny in these areas and make complete disclosure impossible. Sometimes it is just unfamiliarity with speaking about such things, sometimes a fear of what the activity is in reality or where it might lead that she feels uncertain of her capabilities, sometimes just plain shyness.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Re: Re: encouragement for novice sub wife

Jeez, you mean married people have sex with each other? Who the fuck would believe THAT?!?!

Yeah, but only after we toss a few back, nice.

 

[Netzach]

She may like pain.

She may not be submissive.

Being tied up might be a loss of control and not acceptable for her, whereas being caned or struck or spanked are fun.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Re: encouragement for novice sub wife

Well we do, but then again some do consider us fairly extreme. ROTFLMAO

Catalina

That's funny, I have had sex with a few married people too! hehehe

They were just not married to Me. My bad.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Back to basics,

I would say that how you train your wife to be submissive depends on what you want to accomplish.

Do you want sexual submission only?

Do you want to train a submissive mindset in all aspects of life?

What do you want?

After you decide what you want, then you need to ascertain if your wife is capable of do the things you hope to accomplish.

 

[Chris289]

Re sub wife to be or not to be

Thanks for all your advise, it is much appreciated, I will take things slowly and not rush her. She allready loves the use of a blindfold which is a positive first step, and you have given me lots of interesting thoughts, I will give you an update on the progress if thats ok.
Bye for now, and keep the bedfires burning.

 

[Chris289]

Re sub wife to be or not to be

Thanks for all your advise, it is much appreciated, I will take things slowly and not rush her. She allready loves the use of a blindfold which is a positive first step, and you have given me lots of interesting thoughts, I will give you an update on the progress if thats ok.
Bye for now, and keep the bedfires burning.

Sorry I posted this twice oopps

 

[Psia]

It sounds like you are turned on by the idea of tying her up. You might want to try this (evil) trick my husband likes occasionally. Verbally bind her. Place her hands above her head or wherever you want them, do the same with her legs and tell her that she is not to move from that position under any circumstances while you have your way with her. I find this incredibly erotic, as well as kind of mean (in a good way) because it requires such mindful self-control. No mindless pulling against the ropes or cuffs (but I enjoy that as well).
Psia