Maria2394
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OKay, I will try my damndest to be very diplomatic and non-snarky here. ( I borrowed a word Ange uses a lot) 
Okay. First off, I will be decent and apologize to Reltne for my choice of words. Perhaps I was harsh on him. I just thought HIS choice of words was offensive. That the "obvious" choices to him...etc, etc. Would not a phrase like, " My faves of the day are..." Let that die. I wont ever bring it up again.
But the point of this thread. If no one responds, I understand and will not pout.
When I came here, I was a pitiful writer of poetry, only trying to release the pain of my childhood. I stuck around and learned a little bit. So many people I have learned from. However, those I have learned from, ( I am gonna use Anna as example, and hope she doesnt mind) I have LEARNED from. I have never tried to copy, or imitate anyone except in the challenges we had where that was the intent. I am thinking specifically of the time Anna mentioned where some of us tried to write in the style of DH. and it was a laughable, but very enjoyable exercise. BUt the result was, a different outlook on life and poetry. There is nothing wrong with that.
What I find terribly disturbing is being compared to someone else in a negative way. example...
I felt for a while that some people just said kind things about my work cause they knew me. Now I know better. The people here, for the most part are honorable. They are kind, they say nice things when they have nothing negative to say. That is not butt kissing, that is leaving a kind comment.
Anyway, I wrote a poem, under a new name, Catalina Frisco and posted it. The intent was to get honest FB, from people whom I admire. From people who didnt know it was me.I wanted to know if I was deluding myself and perhaps should just stop writing altogether.
The first email I got was anon, it said, "you sound like anna". okay, fine, I sould like anna. Anna is a gifted poet. She has a shutter eye view, she captures things I would never even notice. I responded with horrible anger. BUt it was NOT from being compared to Anna, it was because I WAS NOT compared to ME!!!!
I had in no way attempted to imitate her. I couldnt if I tried. I am Me, I write what comes out of ME.
NOw, I do sometimes rethink my word choices, my sentence structure, look at my subjects differently. That is not imitation,but
it might be emulation, I dunno.
comparing poets is impossible. I believe we have all been influenced by some other poet, either here on LIT, or from our childhood and when someone sees Anna in my poetry, that is of their device, not my intention, though it is a compliment.
The 2 times I have been "accused" of imitation, there was none except in th eye of the person who sent the FB< or whatever you want to call it.
I think I speak without thinking, lots of us do. NOt everyone is college educated, a super genius, or prodigy, whatever. BUt we have a voice. PLease people, stop comparing us, we are not cars, or fruit baskets, we are POETS. Individuals.
AS much as any of us try, we will fail if we aim to be another Anna, or DH. Am I so garden variety that anyone could imitate me? I hope not. When, and if I see a poem, that reminds me of one of my own, I dont freak out and ay, crap, damn copy cat. I am not so egotistical that I think, wow, Im so good that person copied me.
I sit back, and hope, that I was able in some small way, to influnece another poet. That i have contributed to this place, this society. I have never had any intention to hurt any one here. I apologize for the harsh words I brought to this board. I felt prodded, ridiculed and stupid. It made me doubt myself.
I felt as though I was not being given credit for someting iwrote and there for my work was trivialized and disrespected.
Look guys, this isnt the Pulitzer commission. We are just people, learning. When one person steps beyond that idea and sees his or her favorite poet in anything and everything that is good, they have lost the meaning of learning, the meaning of poetry. That is my opinion, just mine.
Now, I will ask, has anyone here been compared to someone they admire? How did it make you feel. Was the FB kind? or accusatory? and, did you change your writing style because of that FB...
thanks for listening, um, reading. Keep on writing, its what makes us who we are
maria

Okay. First off, I will be decent and apologize to Reltne for my choice of words. Perhaps I was harsh on him. I just thought HIS choice of words was offensive. That the "obvious" choices to him...etc, etc. Would not a phrase like, " My faves of the day are..." Let that die. I wont ever bring it up again.
But the point of this thread. If no one responds, I understand and will not pout.
When I came here, I was a pitiful writer of poetry, only trying to release the pain of my childhood. I stuck around and learned a little bit. So many people I have learned from. However, those I have learned from, ( I am gonna use Anna as example, and hope she doesnt mind) I have LEARNED from. I have never tried to copy, or imitate anyone except in the challenges we had where that was the intent. I am thinking specifically of the time Anna mentioned where some of us tried to write in the style of DH. and it was a laughable, but very enjoyable exercise. BUt the result was, a different outlook on life and poetry. There is nothing wrong with that.
What I find terribly disturbing is being compared to someone else in a negative way. example...
I felt for a while that some people just said kind things about my work cause they knew me. Now I know better. The people here, for the most part are honorable. They are kind, they say nice things when they have nothing negative to say. That is not butt kissing, that is leaving a kind comment.
Anyway, I wrote a poem, under a new name, Catalina Frisco and posted it. The intent was to get honest FB, from people whom I admire. From people who didnt know it was me.I wanted to know if I was deluding myself and perhaps should just stop writing altogether.
The first email I got was anon, it said, "you sound like anna". okay, fine, I sould like anna. Anna is a gifted poet. She has a shutter eye view, she captures things I would never even notice. I responded with horrible anger. BUt it was NOT from being compared to Anna, it was because I WAS NOT compared to ME!!!!
I had in no way attempted to imitate her. I couldnt if I tried. I am Me, I write what comes out of ME.
NOw, I do sometimes rethink my word choices, my sentence structure, look at my subjects differently. That is not imitation,but
it might be emulation, I dunno.
comparing poets is impossible. I believe we have all been influenced by some other poet, either here on LIT, or from our childhood and when someone sees Anna in my poetry, that is of their device, not my intention, though it is a compliment.
The 2 times I have been "accused" of imitation, there was none except in th eye of the person who sent the FB< or whatever you want to call it.
I think I speak without thinking, lots of us do. NOt everyone is college educated, a super genius, or prodigy, whatever. BUt we have a voice. PLease people, stop comparing us, we are not cars, or fruit baskets, we are POETS. Individuals.
AS much as any of us try, we will fail if we aim to be another Anna, or DH. Am I so garden variety that anyone could imitate me? I hope not. When, and if I see a poem, that reminds me of one of my own, I dont freak out and ay, crap, damn copy cat. I am not so egotistical that I think, wow, Im so good that person copied me.
I sit back, and hope, that I was able in some small way, to influnece another poet. That i have contributed to this place, this society. I have never had any intention to hurt any one here. I apologize for the harsh words I brought to this board. I felt prodded, ridiculed and stupid. It made me doubt myself.
I felt as though I was not being given credit for someting iwrote and there for my work was trivialized and disrespected.
Look guys, this isnt the Pulitzer commission. We are just people, learning. When one person steps beyond that idea and sees his or her favorite poet in anything and everything that is good, they have lost the meaning of learning, the meaning of poetry. That is my opinion, just mine.
Now, I will ask, has anyone here been compared to someone they admire? How did it make you feel. Was the FB kind? or accusatory? and, did you change your writing style because of that FB...
thanks for listening, um, reading. Keep on writing, its what makes us who we are

maria