Emotionally Stunted Daddy Dom?

[Twinkie429]

I've been with my Daddy for about 6 yrs. I've always been a needy little and he has always been highly logical. Initially it was not that much of a problem but lately I've been feeling like I need more. I've been going through some major things in my life and while he provides me with keen and insightful logical advice the emotional support is lacking. I want to tell him but I'm afraid he'll think I'm being greedy and overly clingy. What do I do?

 

[rl68]

tell him

You should let him know how you feel maybe telling him could change the situation all together

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Some people just don't have any more to give, or it can be the only way they know how to help. It's their method of imparting information. Does he show a lot of passion for other things like food, sports, his job, etc., and then turn into Spock when he talks to you?

Check out this overview of communication styles. It may help you understand and relate to him better. Don't let the 47 pages intimidate you it's just a sentence or so on each page. Also, concentrate on the info about "Thinkers", as I suspect he may fall into this category.

http://www.austingme.com/templates/GraduateMedicalEducation/Assets/communication-skills.pdf

You can also determine your own communication style, and then google some tips on the best way for those two styles to interact. Communication is a skill. Believe it or not, my company has invested money in improving mine (no idea why? ) and I learned this. i hope this helps you as well!!

 

[AriadneImmortal]

I've been with my Daddy for about 6 yrs. I've always been a needy little and he has always been highly logical. Initially it was not that much of a problem but lately I've been feeling like I need more. I've been going through some major things in my life and while he provides me with keen and insightful logical advice the emotional support is lacking. I want to tell him but I'm afraid he'll think I'm being greedy and overly clingy. What do I do?

It's hard to deal with a logical man when matters of the heart are involved. Logic and love have no place together. The two will clash at some point in these types of relationships, and the 'needy' one ends up hurt. Story of my life.

 

[Stella_Omega]

None of us, really, can be all things to any one person, and you may need to find emotional support elsewhere.

You must take care of yourself, Little or Big.

 

[Pachet]

There is nothing wrong with needing emotional support. It absolutely does not make you greedy or clingy, it makes you human.

 

[Twinkie429]

Thanks for all the responses guys. I honestly try to give myself the emotional support I need because as I said he's always been highly logical. It's just lately things have been tougher than normal for me and I feel like I should be able to turn to my Daddy and tell him my fears and concerns. I don't want to be a burden and I don't want to be a bother so I try to deal on my own like normal but it's just not working. I'm not very close to my family and I don't have that many friends. He's really all I have. But I feel guilty about wanting him to give me something he normally doesn't?

 

[Primalex]

I've been with my Daddy for about 6 yrs. I've always been a needy little and he has always been highly logical. Initially it was not that much of a problem but lately I've been feeling like I need more. I've been going through some major things in my life and while he provides me with keen and insightful logical advice the emotional support is lacking. I want to tell him but I'm afraid he'll think I'm being greedy and overly clingy. What do I do?

Sorry, but is this an online relationship?

 

[Primalex]

Sorry, but is this an online relationship?

Ah, he is married.


I was close.


Seriously, but why do you blame his logic if you settle with being an affair?


Girls these days, really... *insert shaking head smilie here*

 

[box13]

It sounds like your needs are evolving, growing, and you're wondering if there could be more.

Someone, standing on the side, and looking at your life, might say that you deserve a great deal more. Maybe some needs could be considered "selfish" I suppose, but the need for love and understanding probably isn't. And logical is nice sometimes, when you need a problem worked through. This certainly qualifies as a problem, it seems to me. Labeling yourself as "needy" doesn't seem to be an adequate solution, however.

Take care.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

The best piece of advice I can give: what you're telling us, you should be telling him. Maybe tell him in a different form, but still tell him. If something's not right between you, the first step to solving it is to make sure both parties know about it.