Embarassing Question.

[theuberpea]

Guys, I have a problem that I really need to share with you.

Unfortunately, at the age I am now (18), I am certainly not blessed with a very large penis. I started puberty very late (about a year ago), and unfortunately, my penis hasn't grown yet.

As I'm talking to you, my penis is only 6cm , at it's largest when flaccid, it's 9cm , average is about 4.5cm, and, at smallest, 2.5cm. When erect, it doesn't improve much- on average about 12cm.

So, I need to ask, is this a big problem? Will it grow? Are there ANY excercises I can do to make it bigger?

 

[LadyG]

Check the Blank Manual.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=219310&highlight=plus+size

 

[silverwhisper]

uber pea, if you just started 1 year ago, you have several years yet of puberty through which to go. do yourself a favor, please read the thread that ladyg linked.

also, please note that the exercises and contraptions/treatments are largely bunk, and can in fact have negative effects on your cock. please be careful, OK? i do understand that you feel somehow "lesser", but you really shouldn't. promise. :>

ed

 

[lettinggo]

Your size isn't as uncommon as you think. I've been with men your size, and had a very satisfying sex life. Use what you have.

A guy I dated in college was smaller than you. It was never discussed. He never made excuses. We had a fantastic, sastisfying sex life. My ex was about your size. He was self conscious about it and was always looking for reassurance. That was such a turn off. Given a choice, I'll take the smaller guy who's accepted what he's been given over the guy that needs me to constantly feed his ego.

(And these guys that are always crying that they're 6" and fear they won't be able to please a girl are lying about their size. 6" is average, not small.)

It isn't a big problem. It may or may not continue to grow. Don't do excercizes. Spend your time learning what women really want, then use what you know to please them.

 

[Tele2047]

It'll grow. I'm 19 now and started puberty probably around 13, and even in the past 6 months I've noticed my penis has grown (durex ultra thins no longer fit me comfortably). I don't think you have to worry that it won't get any bigger.

 

[gr0g]

12cm is a lot closer to average than you might think it is. It's all normal.

 

[Guest]

I dated for a while a man with a "small' penis, about which he was very self consious. (in my opinion, he was just a little below the statisical midpoint, which was still normal). He "made up for it" (his terms) with fantastic oral skills, about which he was extremely enthusiastic (and I didn't mind one bit). I didn't make a big deal about it because he was so sensitive, but eventually he let me "reciprocate" orally. His size made him easy to handle and easy to pleasure. Because I have problems with my jaw joint (TMD), that made a HUGE difference and I was most happy not to be wrestling with a larger penis.

Just remember, not everyone dreams of, wishes for or wants to deal with an extra large cock. Yes, it seems to be the required feature for great sex in a lot of erotic literature, but really, great sex comes from enthusiasm, attention, willingness to relax and have fun, consideration and kindness, and wanting to please and be pleased. The less you worry about it and the more you concentrate on just being a happy, confident person, the better chance you have at a great love life.

 

[jerseyman1963]

Dude, chill out and stop thinking about it. Really. Stop thinking about it. I don't know why we (men) are so obsessed with the size of our endowments. Well, yes, I do know why, but I for one think it's silly. I don't mean to sound too harsh about something that is obviously a serious concern for you, but I'm here to tell you that it is not a big deal.

First of all, if you haven't finished growing yet, then you're not done yet, so wait and see what you end up with before getting concerned. Yeah, I realize that a few years of patience is hard to do at your age, but be patient.

Second, the good old fashioned in and out is but ONE aspect of sex and love making. Just one. And I think you will find as you journey through life that it's not any one thing, but rather the whole inventory of skills that you bring to the bedroom (or the table) that you'll be appreciated for.

Quick story... for a variety of reasons which are unimportant here, I delayed finally having intercourse until I was way into the college years. But during the years leading up to that, I became rather proficient in everything else, especially giving oral pleasure. Flash foward many years. A year ago, I touched base with a friend and colleague I hadn't spoken to in a while. The subject of a mutual friend I'd been involved with for a brief time came up. I don't remember how the conversation took this turn, but suddenly the friend I was speaking with gave up the information that the women I'd dated had explained and touted my oral skills in great detail to a number of other women.

I was more than a little embarassed to know that a work colleague knew this about me, but my point here is that apparently, at least in that crowd, I have a bit of a reputation as a really good lover, and my penis size didn't factor into that at all.

Please don't start with the penis enhancement drugs or remedies. I understand your concern, but rather than get obsessed with this and start going to extremes, which can be dangerous, just get out there and play the cards you're dealt like a winner. See what else you might be abe to give a woman. That will be MUCH more fun than taking pills or doing excercises.

 

[Spacky]

jerseyman1963 has hit it right on the head. You don't need a large penis to pleasure a woman.

Anyway, chicks dig confident guys. So be confident about your penis, your body syle and everything about you and you'll end up scoring with plenty of women.

Cheers

Spacky

 

[Vixandra]

"Its not the size of the boat, its the motion in the ocean."

Its true.
Would you assume a woman would be a bad lay because she had small breasts? No.
The same holds true for a man's penis size.

A penis is no more a man's main sexual organ then a vagina is a woman's.
The brain is the largest sexual organ. Use it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I was the same way in high school. One of the reasons I lost my virginity so late was because I was embarassed about the size of my penis. All I knew was that it was huge like you see in the porn mags, and that a lot of guys I'd seen in the locker room seemed bigger than me. Of course what I didn't understand at that point was that guys grow at different rates, with different amounts of growth between flaccidity and erection. I happen to be one of those guys who's penis is small when flaccid and average when errect, increasing a almost 4 times in length.

A few months back we had a thread which pointed me to a site that actually disucssed this. I found it very interesting and I started doing some math. I found out that I was below average when flaccid and slightly above average when erect. Most guys increased in length 2-2.5 times when they became erect, and some had naturally large penises when flaccid and only grew a bit in length when they achieved full erection. Now keep in mind, I havent' worried about my size since I was probably 19. I can't help thinking though that one of the reasons we obsess about our size is that we don't know the differences in our bodies. At that age I'd seen guys in the locker room, but not hard. The only erections I'd see other than my own were in porn, and we all know that's an unrealistic measureing stick. I guess I though a penis was a penis and we all grew the same amount when we became erect. Had I known then what I know now, I would have been a lot less self-conscious about it.

I dated for a while a man with a "small' penis, about which he was very self consious. (in my opinion, he was just a little below the statisical midpoint, which was still normal). He "made up for it" (his terms) with fantastic oral skills, about which he was extremely enthusiastic (and I didn't mind one bit). I didn't make a big deal about it because he was so sensitive, but eventually he let me "reciprocate" orally. His size made him easy to handle and easy to pleasure. Because I have problems with my jaw joint (TMD), that made a HUGE difference and I was most happy not to be wrestling with a larger penis.

This is exactly what I did too. I figured I better get good at this so I could be sure my partner was satisfied. I suppose that if I hadn't been a little worried about my size, I wouldn't have become the cunnilinguist I am today, so maybe something good came out of it, pardon the pun. I don't know very many women who'd trade a man with great oral skills for some rock skull with a 10 inch prick.

The fact is this, there is nothing to be stressed about. Unless you want a career in the porn industry, penis size matters very little. Only in extreme cases can this become a problem, and your situation is far from extreme. Even when I did worry about my size, I never had any complaints. Being good in bed has little to do with the equipment you're using or how long you've been playign the game, it's all about attitude. Make the woman the center of your attentions, make the sexual experience all about her pleasure, and you'll be fine no matter what size your cock is.

At least, that's my opinion.

 

[sunandshadow]

There are definitely women around who can't comfortably take a large penis. Me, my vagina is 5 1/2" - 6" deep and I hate being painfully poked in the cervix, so when I see a pick of an enormous cock my first thought is usually "ouch" or "damn he wouldn't like fucking me because he wouldn't be able to get it all in". And my favorite dildo is only 1 1/2" wide, so I'd probably be perfectly happy with a dick that size.