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[Hanon435]

it's all about time management.

any tips for getting it done quickly?

i have to. that's a given. but i spend too much time doing it. that's not good.

seriously it is having a negative effect on my life. i would like to cut it down some. cut the time down some that is.

i could give myself a time limit. a deadline. find some porn. make it happen. cum on command. hehe

it's just too much time. *looks down* you're wasting my time little guy. i don't want to see you so much anymore.

what can i do?

 

[_Anna_]

Get a sex toy.

 

[AngloSexon]

it's all about time management.

any tips for getting it done quickly?

i have to. that's a given. but i spend too much time doing it. that's not good.

seriously it is having a negative effect on my life. i would like to cut it down some. cut the time down some that is.

i could give myself a time limit. a deadline. find some porn. make it happen. cum on command. hehe

it's just too much time. *looks down* you're wasting my time little guy. i don't want to see you so much anymore.

what can i do?

Change your lifestyle. Masturbation is to be enjoyed, it's not something you can command like turning a tap on or off. If this question is even serious, I'd have a think about what you're saying - masturbation helps shape your sex life, so if you want to get that over with in five minutes, you'll end up... Well, I'll leave you to figure out the result.

 

[SweetErika]

How much are you masturbating? How long is each session lasting?

Has it always taken this amount of time, or is this a newer development?

If you're masturbating several times a day, you might have a hormone or chemical imbalance, or even an addiction. This would be something to speak to a doctor or psychiatrist (who can order tests and prescribe meds, if necessary) about.

If you're masturbating once a day or less, you're physically healthy (no conditions or medications that decrease arousal or ability to orgasm) and it's just taking too long, you might just need to switch up your routine with new things, stop/cut down for awhile to re-sensitize yourself physically and mentally and/or limit your masturbation to a time of the day when time pressures aren't a concern.

 

[Hanon435]

guys can't have sex toys. ew. hands are sex toys. hehe

no joke. i'm serious. i feel it right now but i hope i won't again. i'm done for today. it really wastes time. i want my time back. i get so much more done when i'm not doing that so much.

 

[Hanon435]

twice a day. at least an hour each time usually. i could go faster but it's not as satisfying and i end up feeling lonely. maybe it's from trying to find a good cam or video to watch. but that's two hours a day. sometimes three times a day if i'm horny, so that's three hours. and if i'm being lazy about it and it takes two hours each time... it starts to become a full time job. i could go pro but you know. i don't want to lose the art of it.

six hours a day a few times? putting in two hours at least each day? it's too much. i think.

 

[Hanon435]

*gets boner again* dammit, dammit, dammit...

 

[Smutnik]

Ever jack off without porn?

 

[Hanon435]

not for a long time. not if don't have to. the internet is great for porn.

*sings* the internet is for porn! for porn! for porn! hehe

 

[Hanon435]

it passed. success! *starts to high five but then remembers where hands may have been*

i think i will do something productive instead of reproductive and get myself away from the computer.

maybe i should start a willpower thread.

 

[SweetErika]

You're 31+ and you're masturbating twice a day for 2+ hours?

Do you feel a compulsion, like when you get horny, you can't stop yourself from looking at porn and jacking off, or stop once you start?

Masturbating for that long is bound to desensitize you. You're always looking for new visual stimulation and giving your nerves a lot of physical stimulation. You're probably in a cycle where you need more and more to come, so you go longer and longer and keep looking for new porn, which further desensitizes you.

The solution is to cut it out until your body and mind "reset" themselves, if not coming is mainly a desensitization problem. (I suspect it's more likely a combination of that plus a psychological compulsion to masturbate and perhaps look at porn, however.)

If you're unable to do that, or stop once you start, you need to get professional help. Just the fact that you're spending so much time on this to the point where it's affecting your life is an indication of addiction. Add that to an inability or great deal of trouble stopping, and you definitely have an addiction on your hands. You'll need to see someone who treats sexual addiction before this impacts your life further.

How come sex toys aren't an option? You're an adult. What's the problem?

Out of curiosity, are you single, or married/attached? If the latter, does your partner know about this? Do you have a good sex life? Are you able to come in a reasonable period during sex?

 

[Hanon435]

i'm single of course. hehe

i'm a guy. guys don't use sex toys.

i usually continue through once i start. you don't stop the launch cycle once the initial buttons have been pushed.

i just want to cut the time down. not stop.

 

[Hanon435]

done. about thirty minutes. now i'm sore though. damn.... damn damn.

 

[infinity706]

I'm a guy and I use sex toys all the time. As for the 2 times a day, I've gone over that almost every day in the last 8 years. I usually don't spend more than 20 minutes, though, unless I'm just really wanting to push things. For about 3 times a day, I spend about an hour or less. Maybe you need to find something besides porn to excite you? Porn is fun, but there are other sexy things in the world, too.

How much are you masturbating? How long is each session lasting?

Has it always taken this amount of time, or is this a newer development?

If you're masturbating several times a day, you might have a hormone or chemical imbalance, or even an addiction. This would be something to speak to a doctor or psychiatrist (who can order tests and prescribe meds, if necessary) about.

If you're masturbating once a day or less, you're physically healthy (no conditions or medications that decrease arousal or ability to orgasm) and it's just taking too long, you might just need to switch up your routine with new things, stop/cut down for awhile to re-sensitize yourself physically and mentally and/or limit your masturbation to a time of the day when time pressures aren't a concern.

I'm really starting to like you. It seems like for every problem, you like to try and attack it from every possible angle. *bows to SweetErika's razor sharp efficiency*

 

[necroerotica]

i'm single of course. hehe

i'm a guy. guys don't use sex toys.

i usually continue through once i start. you don't stop the launch cycle once the initial buttons have been pushed.

i just want to cut the time down. not stop.

So explain the popularity of the fleshlight?

Anyway, here’s what you do –

1. Step away from the computer. Turn it off.
2. Go outside.
3. DO something with your day.
4. Come home, have a wank, go to sleep.
5. Rinse, and repeat.

 

[EurasianRhapsody]

i can relate... when i first discovered how to really do myself nicely i couldn't keep my hands off myself! especially since it felt a lot better than sex, because i know myself better.

but that was when i was 16 or so. you need to get a life!

 

[Eilan]

I thought you were 19. Guess I had you confused with someone else.

 

[SweetErika]

i'm single of course. hehe

i'm a guy. guys don't use sex toys.

i usually continue through once i start. you don't stop the launch cycle once the initial buttons have been pushed.

i just want to cut the time down. not stop.

Of course men use sex toys. Vibes, sleeves, anal toys... It's a shame you're choosing to be so narrow-minded that you refuse to try anything that might mix it up enough to get you off quicker.

I realize you don't want to stop, but stopping for a bit may be necessary to reset your body and mind. You could also try cutting it down to like 5-10 mins of light masturbation with plenty of lube twice a day. If you're not done by then, force yourself to walk away and do something else. Eventually, you'll get frustrated enough to get close to coming within that period, and you'll be able to give yourself 15-20 mins/max.

If you refuse to help yourself by taking some of the suggestions offered for this, there's nothing else we can do to help you. What were you hoping for, a magic pill or cream?


Infinity, it's not really the number of times that's a concern, it's the fact that even he recognizes the amount he's spending doing this is negatively impacting his life and it sounds like he doesn't feel he can stop once he starts. If an hour a day split into 3 sessions is working for you and not affecting your other activities, great! If it starts impacting your life or you feel you can't stop, then it's time to seek help because that's the pathology of an addiction, and it'll likely become even more destructive as time goes on.

 

[AngloSexon]

Of course men use sex toys. Vibes, sleeves, anal toys... It's a shame you're choosing to be so narrow-minded that you refuse to try anything that might mix it up enough to get you off quicker.

I realize you don't want to stop, but stopping for a bit may be necessary to reset your body and mind. You could also try cutting it down to like 5-10 mins of light masturbation with plenty of lube twice a day. If you're not done by then, force yourself to walk away and do something else. Eventually, you'll get frustrated enough to get close to coming within that period, and you'll be able to give yourself 15-20 mins/max.

If you refuse to help yourself by taking some of the suggestions offered for this, there's nothing else we can do to help you. What were you hoping for, a magic pill or cream?


Infinity, it's not really the number of times that's a concern, it's the fact that even he recognizes the amount he's spending doing this is negatively impacting his life and it sounds like he doesn't feel he can stop once he starts. If an hour a day split into 3 sessions is working for you and not affecting your other activities, great! If it starts impacting your life or you feel you can't stop, then it's time to seek help because that's the pathology of an addiction, and it'll likely become even more destructive as time goes on.

I don't think this is necessarily either fair or accurate. I used to masturbate 3 or 4 (or sometimes more) times a day. I wasn't addicted, and once I got over post-masturbation guilt syndrome, it wasn't destructive, either. Don't, for god's sake, freak the guy into thinking the desire to masturbate isn't normal, or indeed, that if he can't stop once he starts, it's a sign of a pathological abnormality - it's not; it's a simulation of a natural function, and a damned nice one at that. Hanon435, when I posted earlier, I didn't realise that you were taking an hour at a time; I'm sorry if my comment seemed crass and unfeeling. 5 minutes still seems a bit severe; why not aim - as Erika suggests - for 15-20 minutes?

 

[Dreamliner]

I have not laughed so hard in ages.

Mate, think about it.

 

[Hanon435]

still a serious question. it's the highlight of my day each day.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't think this is necessarily either fair or accurate. I used to masturbate 3 or 4 (or sometimes more) times a day. I wasn't addicted, and once I got over post-masturbation guilt syndrome, it wasn't destructive, either. Don't, for god's sake, freak the guy into thinking the desire to masturbate isn't normal, or indeed, that if he can't stop once he starts, it's a sign of a pathological abnormality - it's not; it's a simulation of a natural function, and a damned nice one at that. Hanon435, when I posted earlier, I didn't realise that you were taking an hour at a time; I'm sorry if my comment seemed crass and unfeeling. 5 minutes still seems a bit severe; why not aim - as Erika suggests - for 15-20 minutes?

With all due respect, it doesn't matter if you think it's fair or accurate. Read up on addiction, and you will find compulsion, inability to stop the behavior and continuing the behavior to the detriment of oneself, normal activities (e.g. work, school, hobbies) and relationships are hallmarks of addiction.

If I said I drank for several hours a day, couldn't stop once I started, and that I wanted to cut way back because it was affecting my health and normal activities, would you think it was unfair and inaccurate to suggest I might be a problem drinker/alcoholic and may want to seek professional help? Well, you might, but that wouldn't mean those aren't signs of addiction/alcoholism.

If you had read my post more carefully, you'd see that I'm not suggesting masturbating many times a day is a sign of addiction on its own. If jacking off every few hours works for you, or anyone else, great! But if it becomes a problem because you can't stop yourself, are hurting yourself or it's negatively impacting your other activities/relationships, it might time to consider the possibility of addiction and seek professional help.

I don't know if Hanon has a masturbation/sex addiction or not. It sounds like it's a possibility to me given my extensive research on addiction. My intention was/is not to scare him, but rather give him something to look into if he thinks he might have a problem/addiction and wants to get well. Sex addictions are often not well known, and I rather suggest it than have him (or anyone else reading) want to get help but not do so because they're unaware it's a real condition or there's help availble for sex addicts.

Of course it looks like Hanon has dismissed every response so far, so I seriously doubt any of my suggestions would scare him.

 

[PertPerth]

Maybe you could try different lubes?

 

[Hanon435]

i haven't dismissed them.

 

[Don_Sicko]

Dude, you need to get a gf or a job or both. If you ain't got shit to do all day, offcourse you masturbate alot. i know what im talking about, been there, donne that.

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